Am i the only one??????

[EXTREMEBOWHNTR]

shallow yea a little i work nights.... come home take the kids to school while she sleeps in. after that i sleep until 12 pick one son up then come home make a snack then go back and pick up the older one. after that go to the park for about 2 hrs then come home and sleep for about 1-2 .......
THEN commute 2 freaking hours to work put in a shift THEN commute 2 hrs home and do it all over again. I work my ass off. oct nov and dec i worked double shifts 6 days a week to give my kids and wife some kick ass christmas presents.


CALL ME SHALLOW CALL ME A DICK I GIVE HER THE FUCKING WORLD
(BRAND NEW TRUCK, BRAND NEW HOUSE, BRAND NEW EVERYTHING)
SHE GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS AND ITS STILL NOT ENOUGH.....
SO IM A SHALLOW DICK???????????????
ALL SHE HAS TO DO IN RETURN IS LAY THERE ONCE A WEEK IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME EVERTHING SHE GETS AND I CANT GET IT ONCE A WEEK WHOS THE SHALLOW PRICK NOW?????????????????????

 

[EXTREMEBOWHNTR]

No hard feeling MUSCLEMOM it just a very touchy subject.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

Damn bro, i hope this doesnt happen to me. My gf is actually telling me no sex until marriage (in june) because she is christian, but she agreed to once every two weeks or whatever.


You should tell her what UFO said, that sex is like food. And that you work hard too, and that you are not trying to sound selfish, but to you it seems selfish that she would just lay there and not give you sex because shes exhausted. So are you! 2 months is too long

 

[musclemom]

shallow yea a little i work nights.... come home take the kids to school while she sleeps in. after that i sleep until 12 pick one son up then come home make a snack then go back and pick up the older one. after that go to the park for about 2 hrs then come home and sleep for about 1-2 .......
THEN commute 2 freaking hours to work put in a shift THEN commute 2 hrs home and do it all over again. I work my ass off. oct nov and dec i worked double shifts 6 days a week to give my kids and wife some kick ass christmas presents.

CALL ME SHALLOW CALL ME A DICK I GIVE HER THE FUCKING WORLD
(BRAND NEW TRUCK, BRAND NEW HOUSE, BRAND NEW EVERYTHING)
SHE GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS AND ITS STILL NOT ENOUGH.....
SO IM A SHALLOW DICK???????????????
ALL SHE HAS TO DO IN RETURN IS LAY THERE ONCE A WEEK IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME EVERTHING SHE GETS AND I CANT GET IT ONCE A WEEK WHOS THE SHALLOW PRICK NOW?????????????????????

Your marriage is doomed. Prep yourself for the child support. You either get real with yourself or you start to calculate what you'll be paying out every week. When my husband was paying on two kids his payment was $255 a week ...

See, you're blind, you only see the STUFF you provide, not what isn't there and you refuse to admit that something might not be there. Maybe both of you are too materialistic, I don't live there. But the lack of affection ain't just about her not screwing you. The problems go far deeper than that and it's not just her problem.

My ex husband had the same mentality. If he bought me enough shit it made up for the emotional emptiness and total disconnect. He dumped on me about any time he spent with his child, ragged on me about how hard he worked then to have to come home and god forbid, spend quality time with his son. His idea of parenting was parking the kid in front of video games or the t.v. and giving me shit about taking so much as an hour to go grocery shopping by myself. Meanwhile the kid acted out because daddy was a selfish asshat.

Whatever, little secret, bowhunter, you seduce a woman's heart and mind and you're already 3/4s of a way into her pants and she's wanting it. If the sex life was good once upon a time, and she's not fucking you now it's because there's no emotional connection now. And guess what, it usually takes two to screw up a relationship.

Considering I've got a kid two whole years younger than you between two marriages, I've been married a grand total of 24 years, I think I might have a little idea about how to make marriages work and fail

You either get honest with yourself, or you have fun with that future divorce You think spending a little daily time with kids sucks? Try rebuilding a relationship with your kids ever other weekend. You think that truck and house are expensive now? You try laying out a quarter of your salary for the next ten or more years without getting tax breaks or the deductions

 

[EXTREMEBOWHNTR]

Ill keep you posted on how things go over the next couple of months........ I got back in the gym thats why i joined this site and everyones super helpfull so ill be around for a while.

 

[tomw]

I think you are a little biased musclemom.There are other reasons this could occur but seems you jump to emotional abuse or disconest by the husband by default.

 

[BNG]

OK StickFlinger. Let me start by telling you this hits way too close to home.
Second, let me also admit that I don't know it all, nor will anyone else, when it comes to women. They don't even agree with each other!

My wife and I have been married for 16 years this summer. I'm not some guy shooting off at the mouth, giving advice I know nothing of.
There are many things that drive a relationship to this. Usually there isn't a smoking gun. The little things add up. I worked shift work, and on the road for a while and it didn't help, but it was far from "the cause" of problems. I felt that I was doing all I could and she expected it. She felt unappreciated and that I took her for granted. It came to a head at lunch one day.
She told me about a couple we knew, he'd cheated on his wife and she said she couldn't understand why. I said "I do". When she asked me if I had cheated I was honest and said no but I'd thought of it, and it was looking a lot better lately.
There's a ton more I could tell you, but bottom line was it took an incredibly honest, blunt, hurtful conversation to get some things out in the open. It isn't completely over now. Marriage is something that takes work in itself. It may be something that will require counseling not just conversations. I'm considering it myself.

 

[musclemom]

I think you are a little biased musclemom.There are other reasons this could occur but seems you jump to emotional abuse or disconest by the husband by default.

No, I'm just sick to death of hearing the same whining bullshit over and over and over again. I've been on this board nearly four years now, and if I had a nickle for every thread created by some guy with a bunch of little curtain climbers not getting laid I'd have a nice little nest egg, but you know something, they all run like this: I give her everything, I work my ass off, I have a miserable commute, and the wife never fucks me, what's wrong?

Take our buddy up there is a perfect example. Three kids, the oldest is 8, which means the youngest is probably not even in preschool. He's working eight hours a night ON TOP OF a four hour round trip commute. So he's out of the house 12 hours a day. He said he sleeps maybe four hours a day in another thread, AND he's going back to the gym, another hour, easy. 16+ hours a day he's out of the picture.

Trust me, I've done both, the full time mothering and the full time work with no kids. It's WAYYYYYYY fucking easier to go to work every day. You may be beat, but you aren't utterly, totally, completely brain drained. His wife probably feels like her brains are turning to silly putty.

Taking care of children full time is harder than ANY frigging job on this planet. It's demanding and exhausting and you get no credit for your work.

Don't believe me? Try babysitting for a relative once in a while. You'll have an entirely new perspective on things. You really want to be generous, offer to watch the kid over the weekend. If you aren't ready to hang yourself after 48 hours I'll eat my hat.

 

[jd_uk]

No, I'm just sick to death of hearing the same whining bullshit over and over and over again. I've been on this board nearly four years now, and if I had a nickle for every thread created by some guy with a bunch of little curtain climbers not getting laid I'd have a nice little nest egg, but you know something, they all run like this: I give her everything, I work my ass off, I have a miserable commute, and the wife never fucks me, what's wrong?

Take our buddy up there is a perfect example. Three kids, the oldest is 8, which means the youngest is probably not even in preschool. He's working eight hours a night ON TOP OF a four hour round trip commute. So he's out of the house 12 hours a day. He said he sleeps maybe four hours a day in another thread, AND he's going back to the gym, another hour, easy. 16+ hours a day he's out of the picture.

Trust me, I've done both, the full time mothering and the full time work with no kids. It's WAYYYYYYY fucking easier to go to work every day. You may be beat, but you aren't utterly, totally, completely brain drained. His wife probably feels like her brains are turning to silly putty.

Taking care of children full time is harder than ANY frigging job on this planet. It's demanding and exhausting and you get no credit for your work.

Don't believe me? Try babysitting for a relative once in a while. You'll have an entirely new perspective on things. You really want to be generous, offer to watch the kid over the weekend. If you aren't ready to hang yourself after 48 hours I'll eat my hat.

No offense musclemom but you ARE being a litte biased. Yeah you've given some good advice and it is partly up to him to make things work but it is up to her too. When a woman gets married and has kids that shouldn't be an excuse to change the deal and stop bothering with sex. DJ_UFO is dead right when he said that sex is like food to a lot of men. Very few women will understand that completely.

 

[tomw]

No, I'm just sick to death of hearing the same whining bullshit over and over and over again. I've been on this board nearly four years now, and if I had a nickle for every thread created by some guy with a bunch of little curtain climbers not getting laid I'd have a nice little nest egg, but you know something, they all run like this: I give her everything, I work my ass off, I have a miserable commute, and the wife never fucks me, what's wrong?

Take our buddy up there is a perfect example. Three kids, the oldest is 8, which means the youngest is probably not even in preschool. He's working eight hours a night ON TOP OF a four hour round trip commute. So he's out of the house 12 hours a day. He said he sleeps maybe four hours a day in another thread, AND he's going back to the gym, another hour, easy. 16+ hours a day he's out of the picture.

Trust me, I've done both, the full time mothering and the full time work with no kids. It's WAYYYYYYY fucking easier to go to work every day. You may be beat, but you aren't utterly, totally, completely brain drained. His wife probably feels like her brains are turning to silly putty.

Taking care of children full time is harder than ANY frigging job on this planet. It's demanding and exhausting and you get no credit for your work.

Don't believe me? Try babysitting for a relative once in a while. You'll have an entirely new perspective on things. You really want to be generous, offer to watch the kid over the weekend. If you aren't ready to hang yourself after 48 hours I'll eat my hat.

I was a single parent(Full time no visitation from his mom)from the time my son was 6months old till i remaried in 1996(9 years)I know about kids and work first hand. I have a wonderful wife ,imake an income inthe top 5% of the nation I cook compliment and provide constant emotional support . my wife has had a reduced sex drive we have talked about it she has gone to her MD. about it we have a wonderful life together but she does not desire sex as much as i do,it was frustratint,made me insecure but WE worked through, so again you maybe right in this situation I dont know,but ihave read your posts on past threads like this one and does seem you go here quick. not every man is not getting laid because he is an unconciderate ass.