Am I Stupid????

[drols of steel]

O.K this may get a little long but what the hell. A little background on me first of all. I have dealt with alot of fucked up women, cheating on me and whatnot, always just the women that I have actually loved and believed they felt the same. I didn't have an actual relationship due to this fact (Other than 1 night stands for 4 years) So, I met this girl. I'm 28 and she just turned 20. I met her on "Myspace" She seemed like a great girl. Beautiful, great personality the whole 9. Anyway, She picked me up at my house and I took her to a movie for our 1st date, afterward to the bar for some drinks. We left the bar and she brought me 2 her house, where I obviously Hit It. (1st Night) She gives me the whole "I never do this sort of thing" anyway, I really dig this chick so I overlook her quickness to fuck me (A total stranger) I for some reason am Very into this girl, we spend every minute of the next 3 days together. She by this time has already told me "I don't know why but I have these feelings for you that I can't even explain, I just feel so comfortable with you, I want to date you exclusively" So I agree, I feel the same way. On the 4th day she teels me how she has to go up north for the night to visit her college roomate, so she does. comes back the next day, everythings fine for a month. I move her into my apartment, I start to get these bad gut feelings so I Hack her Myspace account, to find all these different guys that she is trying to holler at for the 1st couple weeks that we were together so I freak out and go home and confront her, she begins crying telling me that she's sorry and she only did it for the 1st couple weeks we were together because she didn't actually love me then but that she does now and that she hasn't spoken to them since she realized that she indeed loves me, this was true, they did stop after about 2.5 weeks and then no more. She is crying at this point and I tell her, "Tell me EVERYTHING that you may have done because I WILL find out, and If I do and you failed to mention it, your GONE. She tells me how much she Loves me and that the night she went out of town there was this guy that she met that night, well actually she met him on MYSPACE only talked to him once and drove 2 hours to meet him for the 1st time, and that they KISSED, I looked her in the eye and said "Did you FUCK HIM" she was like "YEAH" Boo Hoo Hoo...ect. So basicilly she had already told me that she wanted me and only me but then the next day makes plans with some random DoucheBag and Fucks and sucks, just to come back to me the next night and have me, I can only imagine probally go down on her and everything else. But I actually stay with this broad, this is 2 months ago that I found out, we still live together and everything is actually Great, I truly believes that she loves me whole heartedly, and she says she wants to marry me, as do I. the only thing is, I CAN NOT GET THIS out of my HEAD!! No matter what I do, and from time to time I get these gut feelings like she fucking up, It is just so hard to trust her, but I truly feel that she IS THE ONE!!! I Honestly Love her with everything that I am. WHat do I do...Please any suggestions, please keep it mature..I really do need some suggestions though, because I feel like spying on her and everything else and I dont want to lose her because now I seem like some PSYCHO!!! I'm really not, I just don't want to get played like some Bitch..I'm nobody's Fool. Help?????

 

[gettinstarted]

Dump the chick bro! If she cheated on you she doesn't love you.. get out before she cheats again

 

[ilikeem18]

Been there, that is had my long time girl cheat on me. Men are visual, so no, your going to keep picturing her fucking this guy in your head. So my advice is to leave before you waste anymore time. Trust me I went out and fucked the other guy up and it still didnt help. The problem is allways going to be there, and the problem is her. Get rid of her and the problem is gone.

 

[T-Matt]

Been there, that is had my long time girl cheat on me. Men are visual, so no, your going to keep picturing her fucking this guy in your head. So my advice is to leave before you waste anymore time. Trust me I went out and fucked the other guy up and it still didnt help. The problem is allways going to be there, and the problem is her. Get rid of her and the problem is gone.

Solid advice.

T-Matt

 

[jacked clown]

OMG...Myspace and shit. Oh God I seriously feel for you bro but its myspace and shes a slut. So she will probably end up with me cause I like sluts and I have no real emotions on anything

 

[ponyfitness]

Let's summarize.

You met a girl on Myspace who is 8 years younger = bad idea
(28 and 20 are worlds apart on the maturity scale although it's pretty obvious you aren't the most grown up guy in the world)

You hit it on the first night and believed you were the only one = bad idea

You moved her into your apartment after a MONTH = bad idea

You hacked her account because you didn't trust her = bad idea

She admitted she fucked another guy less than a week into your relationship and you let her stay around = bad idea

Dude. Seriously. Get your freaking head together otherwise you deserve everything that you have right now. This isn't a relationship, it's an abnormal psychology textbook. You don't trust her, she lied to you and cheated on you and you think she's the one? You're kidding yourself.

 

[Stryker1992]

Let's summarize.

You met a girl on Myspace who is 8 years younger = bad idea
(28 and 20 are worlds apart on the maturity scale although it's pretty obvious you aren't the most grown up guy in the world)

You hit it on the first night and believed you were the only one = bad idea

You moved her into your apartment after a MONTH = bad idea

You hacked her account because you didn't trust her = bad idea

She admitted she fucked another guy less than a week into your relationship and you let her stay around = bad idea

Dude. Seriously. Get your freaking head together otherwise you deserve everything that you have right now. This isn't a relationship, it's an abnormal psychology textbook. You don't trust her, she lied to you and cheated on you and you think she's the one? You're kidding yourself.

FIND A FUCKING THERAPIST BRO! but before you get real and dump her ass, make her gag on your cock till she pukes the cum from the 4 others guys she blew earlier in the day!

 

[jacked clown]

Like i said i want her...www.myspace.com/(Insert her site)

 

[solidspine]

She is too young and screwed in the head, move on, don't live with here,

even if you want to see her, it will take 5-10 years for her to get her head straight.

 

[Cutiebaby]

First off- How long have you been with her?
Second off- Why come onto a internet forum looking for advice???
No one here can tell you what to do, you need to do what you think is best.
All you are goin to get from an internet chat board is conflicting results....People are going to tell you to ditch the bitch and others will tell you to take a chance..Yet the only opinion that really matters here is yours..personally people fuck up, they make mistakes.....If you feel in your heart that you cannot forgive and will never trust her again than let her go..If you can look past this bullshit than go for it, make what you can out of it. You sound like you have actual feelings for this girl, are you willing to forgive her and move on? Maybe what she says is true, maybe she got freaked out because you were breaking down walls to her heart and she did not know how to respond to that. I know it sounds like a suckass excuse seeings how you were the one hurt here, but it does happen....
Bottom line is- Take time to yourself and think the situation through fully.No one here can tell you what is best, only your heart and mind can make that type of a decision.
Good luck