The reason for negative societal views on anabolics is because of ignorance and misinformation...also the morons who use them as an excuse to be TOTAL ASSHOLES doesn't help matters. The decision to either use or abstain should be a personal and INFORMED decision. When the parties concerned are married there should be 100% HONESTY - PERIOD, regardless of whether we are talking about anabolics or a freaking toupe (just opposite cosmetic extremes).
IMHO when a couple is married, other than health considerations (If one is educated, this should not be a factor) and sides (I think a husband sh/be informed that his wife runs the risk of a bit of masculinization. Ultimately it is HER BODY, but I think he sh/be allowed to voice his opinion.) the only REAL ISSUE should be monetary. For a male cycling can be EXTREMELY EXPENSIVE. So if there is difficulty making rent payments, I don't think A/S should be a consideration.
If dating, I don't believe that one needs to volunteer such personal issues right off the bat. If one is in a committed, long term relationship then of course, it should be discussed. Not as a means of asking permission, but strictly as information so the other party can decided whether or not they want to continue the relationship.