Is this why you guys are working out? To get women to notice you more? You just seem to care about that pole to much.......Don't worry about it. There are lots of women that love BIG guys.
Workout for YOU, enjoy the sport----don't do it only for women.
Turn it around----Most men don't like BIG steriod chicks. Of course there are alot that do, but for the most part, no.