Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below My boyfriend had told me that he has a fantasy of having 2 women going down on him but only if he was single but tonight I told him that I want to give him that experience rather then him being single and getting it from 2 random women. But now I'm not sure on what I should do. Please help!!!!
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captainahole
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It's such a tough call. I actually feel for you. My wife and I have talked about this as well and I think were both just as hesitant. It could and chances are will change everything.
You end up with alot of what if's.
What if he enjoys her more, what if he looks at her in a way you feel threatened, what if you feel you should have the same opportunity with another man, and so on.
big even huge step to consider the remifications of a few brief moments of pleasure.
Think long and hard.
This is even coming out of a guy believe it or not.
Yeah we talked all about it but the thing is he wants the whole experience with going down on him and sex. The good thing is he said he will be happy even if he doesn't get to experience this. But I just wanna do something different and spice up our sex life and this is the only thing that we have never tried before also if we were to try this we talked about it and we wouldn't wanna know the other girl personally we just think that would cause a lot of awkwardness . My big problem is everything that you said about the what if's, He says I have absolutely nothing to worry about that it's really not about the sex or going down on him it's just being able to have that experience and he loves the idea that I wanna share that with him but I'm really confused on the sex part if I should say yes or no?
captainahole
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I think that's something you have to decide at that moment and he has to accept your dicision at that moment. (it could be just a code word for him to know yes or no so it doesn't sound aweward if your not comfortable with it.)
If he has to settle for strickly the going down on him. That really is not that bad.
Last thing you want is to feel awkward with him forever and a day afterward.
So set do wn the rules and if he's okay with them then go for it, otherwise I'd say know.
If he has to settle for strickly the going down on him. That really is not that bad.
Last thing you want is to feel awkward with him forever and a day afterward.
So set do wn the rules and if he's okay with them then go for it, otherwise I'd say know.
Melaina
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My husband always jokes about having another girl in the bedroom but remember if both parties are not 100% into this it could be a breaker in your relationship. You have to consider scenarios of him liking this other girl and if he's open to you allowing another girl in the bedroom... will he take it too far and cheat? I know alot of couples that were swingers.... and a few of those ended in divorce because one of the parties started seeing the other person on the sly. If you're going to do it invite a girl that neither of you know personally and will not talk to again so it because simply a played out sexual fantasy and nothing more. I could never personally share a person I love with someone else... if you are TRULY ok with this... and not simply to avoid him breaking up with you then power to you.
You can set some ground rules like... he cannot have vaginal sex with her or kiss her etc....
You can set some ground rules like... he cannot have vaginal sex with her or kiss her etc....
captainahole
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needtogetaas
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Woman are selfish by nature. You will hold it over his head later. You really only give a flying fuck about yourself so just do not do it. There is no way in hell you could ever give a damn about him being happy over your feelings. Just never ever ever going to happen. Forget it and do not do it. Disaster in the making.
The thought of your man getting happiness from anything else but you will kill you. like any woman on earth. So forget it.
The thought of your man getting happiness from anything else but you will kill you. like any woman on earth. So forget it.
needtogetaas
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Woman cant even stand seeing there man enjoy the tv over them let alone another woman. LMFAO just forget it.
needtogetaas
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Your job in life is to make sure he has no happiness in life. He is ether happy sitting wit you doing nothing or miserable. Anything else and you will not be happy.
cryptosporidium
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+1
you never know how itll turn out until it happens.. promises and shit go right out the window. so why bother with the risk?
captainahole
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Have you had a conversation with Angel.That'll answer all your questions
Melaina
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He was talking to me, LOL
strictly poontang
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Aren't you the same one with issues that he is no longer intrested in sex with you more than 2 times per day?
Just hit up Craigslist and get it over with. You can find a tag-team duo that you on't have to worry about knowing. Paying for it should help remove personal attachments. Kinda like paying a masseuse.
Just hit up Craigslist and get it over with. You can find a tag-team duo that you on't have to worry about knowing. Paying for it should help remove personal attachments. Kinda like paying a masseuse.
Melaina
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Here's my personal opinion.... you're 18 right? You are still trying to find your own identity.... most 18 year old boys want to have a 3 some.... they're at the peak of their "lifetime hornyness" and many 18 year old guys are looking to have sex with a hot girl... as much as they can get in any given period. Generally the first thing NOT on their mind is "I want to marry this girl and settle down".... if you have a 3-some you are redefining your relationship with him.... he will no longer see you as you are but as this "kinky wild fun girlfriend"... which is FINE if you don't want the relationship to last but don't expect this situation to make you closer or think he will have more repsect for you. Now if a couple who is well established and older wants to experiment in the bedroom.... then yes I'd say THEY should go for it because they are adults who have dated for a long time and have a better grasp on what works in a relationship and what doesnt.... plus an aged female in a long term adult relationship is less likely to do something for her husband that she doesn't want to do simply to "keep him around".
If you love this guy and want to have a long term relationship with him where you see your name linked to his in marriage one day then NO
If you want to live a fun carefree 18 year old life and don't care if you're with him in a year or two AND are curious yourself then YES
If you don't want to do it and are simply doing it to avoid him breaking up with you then NO and.... learn some self preservation.
If you love this guy and want to have a long term relationship with him where you see your name linked to his in marriage one day then NO
If you want to live a fun carefree 18 year old life and don't care if you're with him in a year or two AND are curious yourself then YES
If you don't want to do it and are simply doing it to avoid him breaking up with you then NO and.... learn some self preservation.
See the thing is he has told me that this fantasy of his is something he would want if he was single and he doesn't really wanna do it with me since we are in a relationship and being in this relationship with me that's not even on his mind and not something he really wants to do should I take that into consideration that he doesn't wanna do it with me since we are in a relationship?
DJ_UFO
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He doesn't wanna do it because he is in a relationship with you, based on conservative values. However, the fantasy is still in the back of his mind, and as long as his body produces testosterone, the fantasy will stay there.
strictly poontang
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Just hold off then until you 2 break-up. Then you can get with your bff and hook it up for him.
strictly poontang
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Record it also and post it up on 8tube. Post the link on this thread when you get-r-done.
Be careful because you may be setting yourself up for failure, if he says he'd do it single it may be because he doesnt want his "woman" doping this kind of thing some men see their partner different and would consider this a demeaning thing and may not look at you the same way afterwards, I'e known of many couple where the whole concept the man had towards the woman changed after a threesome.... remember some fantasies are just fantasies....
strictly poontang
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Obviously, that needs to be recorded as well.
