what is the one thing that attracts you most to your spouse or someone you had a long relationship with in the past excluding looks. For me it would have to be that she is the most "nuturing" person.
He's not my spouse, but the #1 thing that attracts me to him is the fact that he appreciates me. Kindness and good deeds are not wasted on him, which only makes me want to be sweeter.
I can’t narrow it down to one thing. I also don’t think you should be able to. My wife is my best friend she is everything I ever wanted in a lover and a friend.
If there had to be one thing above the rest I would say it’s the fact that she loves me as completely as I love her.
My attraction to my husband is on a molecular level. Although I want to kill him 90% of the time I'm pretty sure that I couldn't live without him.
Also his smell actually makes my mouth water
And he is by far, and I mean WAY by far, the most intelligent person I know. (but completely devoid of common sense...oh well, I suppose you can't have it all )
I can't pick one.... We are so in tune with each other. We express the same thoughts, desires, feelings.... We never argue, little disagreements maybe but minimal at best.
The first thing was his looks, but you said I couldn't use that.
Next definitely came his intelligence. Smartest guy I know, hands down, and I found out the night we met.
The staying power is (in no particular order!!!):
his humor (he still makes me laugh til I pee); his warmth (which is just for me!); his complete and utter love for our children; his body ;
the way we get it on; the way I can look at him and not have to say a word in a crowded room and later we'll know just what we were talking about!; the way he can finish my sentences; the way he makes me feel about myself; the fact that we want the same things out of life and have travelled hand in hand, heart in heart to get there; the fact that when I'm with him, I only want to be with him. He's my best friend and I wouldn't want to go on in life without him by my side.
Oh, I'm sorry did you say the one thing?
OK, the fact that he loves me so completely and thoroughly and without restraint.
I love you very much babe. Yes, you'll get my ass this weekend. You betcha!
Just that at night when we're snuggling up under the covers she rubs her feet together almost like a cat... it's like happy claws... and then when she's all cuddled in she rubs her silky soft feet on mine.
This makes me my heart melt... plus it's a turn-on at the same time.