Hey girl ... I'm sorry I didn't answer you on the thread.  If you're REALLY interested in the "nuts and bolts" of reincarnation there's an excellent book that I recommend to everyone "Messages from Michael" by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro.  Seriously.
But we can definitely take the conversation further 
And I never felt like you were attacking me!  I get the feeling you're genuinely curious and have very valid questions.  I only hope I'm up to the job.