I didn't know. Well, Java has just dropped from merely being a supercilious ass to fucking schmuck in my book, that's the shitty sort of behavior my ex husband would pull, take deeply personal information and hurt me with it.
You're a remarkable lady, you know that? Coming away from something like that and it hasn't left you damaged. And honestly, shame? That's a gimme in Christianity so you would have had that one anyway (me trying to make a bad joke).