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Think I might want a divorce
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That's totally fine. But do you HAVE TO combine last names? Bank accounts? A ring? A stupid peace of paper? etc etc Just to say you love him and you're married to him?
That's some foul low life insecure type of shit if you ask me.
My Mom and Step father always had seprate accounts still do. He made way more then she does, he has his own business she still paid half of all the household bills. My stepfather has toys a big yatch my mom doesn't pay for that though its his toy.
Anyways my point is they have been together now for over 25 years married 20 of them. They are very happy and from what I can see as the reason they never take each other for granted ever. My step father praises my moms cooking at every single meal and my mom always makes sure to thank him when he completes any honey do list/task. I think a lot of marriages end cause people start taking there partner for granted.
I don't pretend to assume marriage is easy I know they had rough patches but I still believe in marriage and they are the reason why.
Again. All that is cool. But why the joint accounts and joint last name and ring and peace of paper of what the traditional marriage is??? Why??? No need for any of that. Just live together...respect each other...have sex...have kids. Done son! LOL
Marriage is not for everyone. If that's how you truly feel, you let that other person know from the beginning.
last names?...I would like to keep mine but It's not something I would stress over.
Ring?..Of course I would want one.
Bank accounts?...why not? you are a family afterall
Getting married to someone shouldn't feel like it's the end of the world. If it does then don't get married, simple.
The problem with marriage is the government has its big hands on it. If marriage was strictly a church matter then that would be a different concept and totally cool. If marriage is before God and all that stuff then keep it that way and get the government the hell out of it.
I was persuaded as stupidly as it sounds by tax benefits, and health insurance..his is way better than mine was at the time
Im not a big fan of expensive diamond rings because of the frivolous expense, their ridiculous nature and wont be as big as an aquamarine I wear anyway thats a family heirloom..I even hate white gold and thats what he picked (then he picked titanium for himself anyway...grrr)
I wont pretend I don't like the public statement a ring makes though "look, attached, bug off"
I took his last name cuz it was cooler than mine..haha
bank accounts, loans, credit cards etc are not joint or even authorized user
Im not a big fan of expensive diamond rings because of the frivolous expense, their ridiculous nature and wont be as big as an aquamarine I wear anyway thats a family heirloom..I even hate white gold and thats what he picked (then he picked titanium for himself anyway...grrr)
I wont pretend I don't like the public statement a ring makes though "look, attached, bug off"
I took his last name cuz it was cooler than mine..haha
bank accounts, loans, credit cards etc are not joint or even authorized user
Amen!
As Shirlene mentioned there are some things that force you to get married, tax issues, medical benefits, insurance of all sorts, loans, etc or at the very least makes life easier, if you have joint accounts you both get credit reporting off it... somethings are more for convenience and legal/paperwork principles and not just to "tie them to each other"
Believe it or not the fact we dont have the same last name has already complicated a thing or two for me here in the US as per rentals and buying my car...
Word a ring lets others know to back the f-off. I have worn a ring to some business fuctions so people assumed I was attached. Trust me when your in sales and forward a lot of men take that as sign of you looking to win more then just there business.
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