Dating chicks with kids.Advice.

This is my first experience dating a woman with kids. She is 30 and I'm 24. We have only known each other for 2 months and she is wanting things to go fast. Her kids are 6 and 8. I really like this girl but things are goin so fast. She also asked me "When are you going to warm up to my kids?" Like I am not interacting with them enough. I guess Im not good with kids. Any advice on how to help fix this? Thanks.

Tell her to slow down. Be honest with her.

For the woman, kids are her number one priority and if the man she is dating doesn't "warm" up to the kids or vice versa that is a huge red flag. Can't blame them the man (step dad) is going to be a role model of sorts (even if their dad is highly involved. For me if my ex's bf appears to not be good for my kids that's a no go right there. She'll make her choice, but I will let her know how I feel. I have to trust that person like it was me.

lotta baggage

its not baggage in the least, unless you don't want kids then you shouldn't bother with a woman that has kids. I love kids so it is not a problem for me.

chesty said:

its not baggage in the least, unless you don't want kids then you shouldn't bother with a woman that has kids. I love kids so it is not a problem for me.

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Everyone to their own but personally I think a young lad of 24 doesn't need to deal with two kids, the ex, a pushy older women and all the rest of the crap that comes with it. Not my idea of a fun relationship! It's up to him but hey there's plenty of fish out there without that kind of baggage.

Tybz is playin the MILF field. I like it. Play on playa.

As for your sich-ee-ayshun, I'm not sure. I guess if this relationship means anything at all to you, try to start warming up to the kids. Kids are fun if you don't have to take care of them, so just be silly with them. If not, just feed her the bologna until she has had enough.

Good luck tybz. You muh boy.

tybz28-#2 said:

This is my first experience dating a woman with kids. She is 30 and I'm 24. We have only known each other for 2 months and she is wanting things to go fast. Her kids are 6 and 8. I really like this girl but things are goin so fast. She also asked me "When are you going to warm up to my kids?" Like I am not interacting with them enough. I guess Im not good with kids. Any advice on how to help fix this? Thanks.

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Read this carefully for I will only say it once and I don't intend to follow up on this case...

You need to balance your lust for her as well as be a sustainable parental figure to those children of hers.
Now, being a sustainable parental figure will intially require you to 'warm up' but be aware that it entails alot more than that. It is a possible invitation to step-fatherhood.
If you are seeing this as a 'requirement' as supposed to an unconditional role I suggest you be upfront to her as to the cards you intend to play.

Personally, I don't think the idea of telling her upfront that your lust for her is your first priority will seem as sleazy as your pretension to play the role of a stepfather whose intention is really to nail her silly from every possible angle until she cease to sexually gratify you. On the same token, don't underestimate her position. I could be that she's well aware of her luggage and how by introducing those kids of hers into the picture could provide for her future as well as her offspring.

FYI, children around 6-8 years old are still going through critical developmental phase in their psychological, physical and neurological development. These children require stability and sustainable parental figure, one that will provide assurance and sense of security through to being a significant figure to their formation of self-identity.

Take this seriously for I have been left with a miserable childhood, my parents went through a series of failed divorced and step-parenting and look what they have done to me...

You have known each other for two months and she is asking you, "When are you going to warm up to my kids?"

Stupid question: How long had she known you before she introduced you to them?"

Answer: NOT LONG AT ALL.

HYUGE RED FLAD

This will sound harsh, but, fuck the shit out of her as long as you can and run like hell when it ceases to be worth it anymore. But not when the kids are in the pic. Meaning, only see her when the kids are with the dad or take her out and doink her in a hotel while the kids are home with a sitter.

Any woman that feels the need to push her kids on a young man (or any man) that soon after she has met him has rocks in her head and that young man (or any man) is better off without HER...

Children are NOT baggage. They are a blessing and a gift, one that is not to be taken lightly or "pushed" on anyone.

I did it once. Well, more along the lines of "slept with" than dated. I was 24 and she was 22 with 2 kids. Incredibly hot. Extremely horny. Best sex I ever had. But all that is forgotten quickly when a 2-year-old that isn't yours jumps on the bed you are sleeping in while you are naked under the covers and just gave Mommy a healthy dose of mangoo in the grill 30 minutes ago. Not fun.

My advice - get out and stay out. It's tough for the guy and certainly tough for the woman. I did everything I could possibly do to not get involved with the kids, for their sake. Not easy.