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 i need a workout partner...bad!!
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dirtyratt Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 62) |
posted July 06, 2000 03:09 PM
  
anyone have any suggestions on how to get a wood workout partner? my boyfriend loves to go, it is just he loves to go with the guys. think it is because they can lift a lot when they are togeather. me on the other hand cannot spot him because the weight would crush me if it fell. i need the xtra motivation of being there with someone else there. pushing me, telling me to try harder, telling me i can do it. it is very hard to do heavy curls or high weight on bench without a spot. not to mention dangerous. any suggestions would help. maybe i will just look for a trainer. who knows....dr IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 509) |
posted July 06, 2000 03:37 PM
Don't be too intimidated by the people that are in your gym, that was my problem before, last week. I finally got up the nerve to just ask someone if they could spot me, most will be happy to as long as you aren't doing it constantly. And ask your bf to go like once a week with you, so he can help a little too. I tried my bf at the gym with me, and I will NEVER do that again. He treated me like I was a 2 year old and embarressed me, so now I just go in the morning when there aren't many people there. IP: Logged |
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riptchick Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 157) |
posted July 06, 2000 03:42 PM
Yeah, I'm right with ya there. Been training with the hubby for years. Sometimes with kids and stuff just can't go together and yeah sometimes he likes to go with the big boys.... What I have found is when the other people see how hard I'm training usually I get one or two people (mostly guys) that will chime in with some "c'mons" for me or jump in to help me do a forced rep. I almost like training by myself now. I rip through my sets with less time in between and get everything done quicker. In addition, I used to be a little standoffish about spottin' the heavy, heavy stuff but my beau explained that I only need to move a few pounds for the spot anyway...just enough to get him over the hump so to speak....it never should be to the point where it's going to crash. He's been training forever....I used to really be afraid especially when he was benching...not anymore though. Are you in a good gym where there are lots of BBs or is it like a family fitness center or chick gym? That makes a difference too as to the type of training partners you can find. IP: Logged |
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SassyS Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 65) |
posted July 06, 2000 03:59 PM
Im pretty sure you live nowhere near me, and that sucks because I could use a workout partner also. (Esp. on chest days). My B.Friend and I always argue at the gym, so Ive being going by myself, and all the females at my gym pretty much are losers that are either really old or only do cardio. IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 306) |
posted July 06, 2000 04:14 PM
Its interesting to me that the men and women have a difficult time working out together...the only time I (briefly) experienced a male training partner was great. An aside...I workout at home right? But I'm getting to the point where I need the support of gym equipment/spotting etc to be beneficial. There's only 2 gyms for me to chose from in this area...I asked the gal on the phone how crowded the gym is at 5am and she says well we've got TONS of cardio equipment and during peak times we have a 30m time limit so you shouldn't have to wait. I said, no I'm more interested in the free weights etc....2 beats of dead silence...oh, she says, well there should be no problem there. *chuckle* I would guess that means there are not many woman in the free weight area of this particular gym. Maybe thats for the best?? I hear you dirtyratt...I'm in need of a training partner too! IP: Logged |
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blackhaus1 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 616) |
posted July 06, 2000 04:21 PM
Hey where are you from b/c I got rid of my crappy workout partner b/c she sucked. Are you in the NY area??? ------------------ IP: Logged |
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dirtyratt Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 62) |
posted July 07, 2000 03:00 PM
thanks for all the advice. i live in south FL so it may be hard to jump up to NY to train daily. thanks anyway. this sucks so bad! i went to the gym yesterday with my bf for two hours and my body aches so bad today. we spent our time between sets argueing over the fact that he was in outer space, or i was in outer space, when we needed the most spot help. i think my arm almost snapped at one moment i tried so hard without his help. i work out in a university gym. it is a nice gym, but all the chicks do cardio and all the guys lifting just stare. i am thinking about joining lifestyles though b/c there is a new one opening soon by me. any other suggestion would help. as for now though i guess it will just be me in the gym by myself  dirtyratt IP: Logged |
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Iron God Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 168) |
posted July 07, 2000 03:11 PM
Training with a partner should be a 2 way street. What do you have to offer in terms of knowledge and intensity and experience to offer someone else? To often people ask me to train with them just so they could feed off my intensity(and get free personal training)I get nothing in return(well maybe the satifaction of watching grown men and women passout and throw up) Just something to think about. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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bikinimom Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 152) |
posted July 07, 2000 03:50 PM
It sucks not having a training partner, but you've gotta do, what you've gotta do. Somehow an opportunity will present itself. IG is correct the training partner relationship is a two-way street. It takes time to "learn to feel" each others bodies. When I train with my hubby - it's different than when I train with one of my other gfs. Just keep plugging away and the situation will eventually work itself out one way or another. Remember, you're doing this for yourself. IP: Logged |
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IronChick Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 26) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:50 PM
Hey DirtyRat....I think you oughtta try talking to your guy again. My guy is my training partner and of course I can't do the weights he does, but man, do we compete on every other level possible. You can compete on reps or whatever, as long as you can hang with the amounts of sets and types of exercises he's doing, it can work. You don't have to be able to lift his weight to spot him - people abuse the spotting concept - it's just a little help and that's all. If he can't lift it, he shouldn't be picking it up...I think someone else pointed that out. Even if a guy was spotting him and he came crashing down in the squat rack...nobody can catch that amount of weight. So I would give that as an argument - I mean assuming you would like him to be your partner. Training with my BF has been the best partnership I have ever had. He agrees and says he wouldn't trade me for a guy. Plenty of guys have tried to sway him away. He tells them to come on and jump in with us and we waste them. Then he tells them that's why he trains with me. I'm not as strong as him, but it's really about intensity levels when you are looking for a partner. If you both have high levels, it can be a great partnership. We are really synchronized and don't even need to speak - it took a lot of years to get to that, I admit. The great thing about it is you always have a reliable partner and the longer you train together the better it gets. The biggest benefit is the high level of committment you have to each other. If you train on and off with different people, they aren't committed to you in that way. It's like you both have a stake in each other's progress. A lot of people at our gyms envy what we have. A lot of the guys tell him they wish they had a partner like what he has cuz they see how it works. And we train at one wuss gym that is close to our home and another hardcore gym with other BBs - both have the same reaction. I would talk to him and try to get that partnership going. At first a lot of guys are kinda weird about it like a macho thing, but if you are the kind of female that doesn't mind throwing off the gloves and sweating then it may work for you. He can help bring you up to his level, too, if you are not quite there. When I first started training with my guy there was a huge difference in levels - he was already beginning to compete and I was just figuring out that I had to eat to get muscles. But he was patient and I was motivated. Now we fight over who the hell really knows what they're doing! Talk to him. Don't train alone. I have done that and it does suck! I believe in partners very much! Good luck. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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dirtyratt Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 62) |
posted July 08, 2000 12:24 AM
maybe i said things wrong and you all have a bad impression of him. he is great! he just knows too many people and it is a endless hour of hearing "what's up?" "hey, i'm good." blah blah blah. i guess i will make him do it with me. he is my best friend so that is what they are there for. my new frame of mind will be that until he fails me. which he won't  thanks for all the info. it helps a lot. dirtyrattIP: Logged |
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