posted May 24, 2000 06:01 PM            

What are his reasons for wanting to juice? And what are your reasons for not wanting him to? Is he willing to discuss it? Would he listen if you put your foot down and said you won't tolerate it, or would he just do it in secret (or look elsewhere for a more supportive partner??!). I know this is no help to you, but we really shouldn't be telling you what to do IMHO

Good luck

posted May 25, 2000 11:17 AM            

Kick him square in the nuts and ask him, "WHAT THE FUCK YOU THINK YOUR DOING!" while he is rolling on the floor.

Well, that may be a bit too harsh....

This is ALWAYS a big hairy situation when partners do not see eye to eye on the use of steroids. My dime store advice is for you to learn as much as you can about what steroids do, how they work, and what they really are all about. Then you will be able to RATIONALLY discuss this situation with your guy. Very few men make will listen to EMOTIONAL arguments. They will, however acknowledge logical and informed opinions. Example: "Look you dumb SOB, them A50's your pop'en are going to chew up your liver." This is a easy statement for a guy to understand.

Will you ever get him to stop? Probably not. I got to admit we (wife and I) were in much the same boat. But after much debate, learning, and a set of choice diamond earrings, she as even done a cycle - or two . Now it is something we look forward to doing and take great steps to do everything right.

In fact, just the other day we were just laughing our butts off as we got a package, un-wrapped it and put it into my "tool box 'O gear". I looked up and said, "In your wildest dreams did you ever thing we would be doing this when we met in college!!!" And mind you, this is a woman who has never smoked ANYTHING and can drink one Zima (god knows why she likes that stuff) and get a buzz.

One thing that will not work is to "stand firm and make no compromise." Unless you can back that up by leaving. Hey, YOU KNEW he used before.... And you still made the decision to marry him. That is on you shoulders. Ask anyone - ya really can't change men to much (or women for that matter)

The winds of life are full of changes. Bend, don't break.

So there ya have it, two bits and glass half FULL.

Late

posted May 25, 2000 10:20 PM            

My wife for example, is 100% against any type of AS usage but her opinion is not based on any true knowledge of AS. She is the type of person that will rarely even take motrin. I'm sure that she suspects that I use but has allowed herself not to really push the issue and ask me. My wife is a great lady but I would not want her to put me in a position to have to give up my cycles.

Most men are very pig headed and closed minded, you know this already. We think that we have thought about all of the side effects that might be brought upon ourselves for any given situation. I'm sure that he has no idea that his mood has changed, or that he is treating you differently. If I were in his position, if you were to calmly let me know that my demenor had changed, I would probably realize that it was from my AS use and take actions to correct it.