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Cool Novice 
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I am training with my new boyfriend now, and I am trying to put on muscle. He is very knowledgable in this area. I have an eating disorder that seems to be getting in the way of what I really want. As any of you with this problem knows, body image is really distorted. I think I look pretty good, but the "normal" people, for instance, my boyfriend tell me over and over that I am too skinny. I need some advice as to what I need to eat, that I can actually handle right now in order to get that "body" that I really want. I eat one meal a day at night, and one protein drink after working out. My boyfriend tells me I need to at least drink one more, but it scares me to death. I guess that is enough for now. I will write more later after I have heard from some of you. Thanks for taking the time to write back.     | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 798 |
I hope this isn't a joke. You need WAY more than 1 more blend a day if you plan to put on ANY muscle! Give us some stats.
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 52 |
IG, no this probably isn't a joke. Yes, you do need way more food than that and I know that it does scare the hell out of you. Are you being treated for the eating disorder or are you trying to control it on your own? You may need some help in the beginning. From my personal experience the compulsion to starve or barf or whatever will eventually be replace by a compulsion to get strong, build muscle and be healthy. I personally believe that anyone who is successful at anything in life suffers from some degree of obsessive compulsive disorder and the thing that makes them successful or self destructive is determined by how they use the compulsion. Just my 2 cents. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 98 |
Hey Texam'sgirl, So glad you posted! I can understand where you are coming from...I struggle with body image on a daily basis. First, I might suggest some conseling for the eating disorder. I know you probably might not be interested in that but that might be what it takes to be ABLE to eat. You also NEED food for energy so you will be able to workout!!! Start out slow..try to eat more often....I hope we can help you!!! | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Thank you for your replies. I am just about to eat right now. I will take all of your words for it. I will even try to have one more drink tonight after dinner before I go to bed. I have been treated for an eating disorder already. I was in the hospital about two years ago. I have also had counseling. I guess you just need to hear over and over how to do this thing. I am so thankful that my boyfriend told me about this site. I think if I just keep working, listening to him, and all of you, I will be able to overcome and do what needs to be done in order to beat this thing and be healthy to boot. I thought I new all about nutrition, but I see that that is not right at all. If you have any pointers, please let me know. Stats | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 52 |
Okay,here is what I want you to do. Put on a bikini, bra and panties, if you have a digital camera you can do it naked but have someone take a photo of you front and back, before you see the pic have them remove the head portion of the pic. For some reason doing it this way disconnects the the body that you are looking at in the photo from being you so you should be able to see what you really look like. Now I also want you to look at the pic of Fitness Chick - I will look up what post it is on and get an oxygen mag or Muscle and Fitness Hers - really look at the bodies of these women, study the muscle that they carry. First you must change your perceptions before you can change your body. Are you doing any weight training? Lifting will give you the ability to eat, it will make you hungry. When your muscles are sore from working them it is your body crying for protein and eating will build muscle IT WILL NOT GO TO FAT!!! How many cardio sessions could you give up without having a total flip out??? What does that one meal that you are eating currently consist of (honestly)??? Are you barfing or just starving??? At your current height and weight I would guess that your body is using muscle for fuel and hanging on to every ounce of fat for dear life. Muscle eats fat, the more muscle you carry, the higher your metabolism is while resting, the more fat you burn without exercise. The goal is to turn you body into a fat burning machine. The amount of cardio that you are doing is creating a skinny fat person, if you stop the cardio, add the weight training, and eat esp. lots of protein, you will build muscle and burn fat which equals a rock hard, no fat, drop dead body. You cannot build muscle without eating, the fat in your body cannot be converted to muscle - only protein can be converted to muscle and the protein must be available to it when it needs it which means a steady flow of food - at least 6 times a day. If you are not eating enough carbs and protein and even a little fat your metabolism shuts down and your body will hold onto the fat that it has, eating frequently will raise your metabolism. Print out the responses that you are getting and read them over and over and over again. The way you view your body and food can be changed but it takes continuous reinforcement. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 52 |
The post with FC's pic on it is How Kim Chivesky Looks Now, also BMom, MS and the rest of you buff chicks could your repost where your pics are so she can look at them.At this point she needs bodies other than those of runway models to look at. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 58 |
Well you are headed in the right direction by asking for help and guidance. I can relate for I used to runway model and used to be very think. 5'10 115. You see these models on tv and the magazines and you want to look just like them, but it is so unrealistic and they are not healthy themselves. Our society has pushed being thin to such an extreme. It is a long hard process but with the right type of counseling and help from friends you can overcome it. Try your best to eat as much as you can maybe 2-3 meals a day. You need protein and carbohydrates to build muscle. If you don't eat anything there is nothing to build on. When you feel like you do eating can be scary because you are so worried of getting "fat", but with a proper diet and cardiovascular activities it won't be a problem. I haven't done any fashion runway modeling for a little over 2yrs and I am training to eventually compete bodybuilding and weigh 155lbs. Seek good counseling and support from your boyfriend and family. But lifting weights requires a lot of energy and you will need to consume food in order to supply that energy. Keep us posted  | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Thank you so much for all of your input. I will do my best to do whay all that you said to do? Have you ever had an eating disorder? You just seem so knowledgable in this area. Yes, I am weight training now with my boyfriend. He is very knowledgable in this area, so I am doing my best to do what all he says. My meal cosists of a large baked potato, with two chcken tenders, and onion. It is a pretty good meal. My boyfriend and I talked about it, and I am going to start having a protein shake in the morning, and one after my workout, plus my meal. We are going to start from there, and build on that. I just can't imagine eating more than one meal, but that is a huge improvement for me. You are telling me the same thing that he is about not having the calories to build the muscle, so I will start in the morning on drinking my drink. I want to thank you so much for taking the time to help me out. I know that if I just keep on doing what I am doing about improving on the eating and fitness, there is only one way, and that is up. Have a wonderful night. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 688 |
welcome texasamms gurl! normally i don't reply on this page, but your situation interested me. first off please increase your caloric intake. try consuming 4 meals a day. just add a extra protein shake. i promise it will make a big difference. once your comfy eating 4 meals, add a 5th. i'm sure it sounds like a lot, but you will feel a 100% better. another recommendation is cutting back on your cardio. 7 days is a lot. your going to have a lot of problems putting on any lean muscle. reason is, your burning more calories than your consuming. your wasting precious muscle. do 3 or 4 days cardio. that way you will preserve the muscle you beginning to gain. i hope this makes sense, and happy training! ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 52 |
Yes, at one time I was the queen of barf and starve so I do understand what you are up against. It really has nothing to do with the food and everything to do with control as in you are in control when you don't eat with a good measure of self punishment thrown in. You need to start slowly adding the meals, the goal is 6 a day but a meal and two drinks is a good start. You don't want your body toi rebel and putting alot into it will cause that. What does the drink that you are using consist of? how many grams of protein/carb/fat? Are you also addicted to the cardio? Could you do a couple of bites of yogurt in between your shakes and you meal. I'm not asking you to jump in and start eating alot but want you to start getting the feel for the frequency of eating even if it is something like a drink a.m., a couple of bites of yogurt or something mid morning, drink at noon, a couple more bites of yogurt mid afternoon and then your meal. We will hang in there with you on this . If you own a scale you need to get rid of it - maybe just lock it in the trunk of your car to start with. We need to get you to where you judge your body by how you feel not by the numbers on the scale and muscle weighs way more than fat so the numbers on a scale will not be a good indicator of what is happening with your body. I don't want you to start adding lean mass and weight yourself and show the gain of a pound or two as your brain will immediately start the you are getting fat, fat, fat song that it sings. | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Thank you both for your replies. I have just gotten through getting ready for work. I teach school, but we have staff development for the next two days, math curriculum alignment, yuck, but I have been able to take my time getting ready and milling around the house. I am drinking my drink right now, HUGE STEP for me, but I have to trust you guys, and my boyfriend, if I want to get to my goal. Yes, five meals a day, seems like an unrealistic goal, but I am going to shoot for it. I don't know about three to four days a week of cardio is something I can do right now, but I will work on getting it down to six days a week. I know that to people who are reading this that don't have an eating disorder think that is nuts, but I know that those who do understand completely. The drink that I drink has 21 g of protein 4 g of carbs 100 mg of calcium 120 calories 2 g of fat I mix it with a cup of orange juice. Well, I am off now to watch a bit of The Today Show. It is amazing what people get to experience with a normal job, with normal hours, if that exists. I have normally been at work for an hour now. It is seven thirty right now. I hope all of you have a wonderful day today. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 58 |
Yes, I had an eating disorder. For about 3 years I was anorexic. Resulting from a bad relationship and a modeling career of always having to be thin. It is a big control issue. When everything else goes to hell in your life that was the one thing I could control. I weighed myself at least twice a day and I ate no meat, and salads. Sometimes I would go a day or two without eating at all. There was so much pressure to be thin and I whenever I modeled there was always someone smaller. It is a totally mental thing and once you get passed it, you will look at yourself and say what was I thinking? I do it everyday now. I eat at least 7 times a day now and no longer can wear a size 2 pant. But I am healthy now and look 10 times better. You have to set a goal and go for it, stick to it and dont let your mind play tricks on you or tell you any different. Write down a day in advance what you will eat, and make yourself do it. Have someone hold you accountable and help you do it. But you need so much food to train and you don't have that yet. Your body would not be able to make it through a workout. Have faith and believe in yourself. Its all about what you make yourself to be | ||
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Cool Novice
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tex gurl its gonna be tough in the beginning but u need to eat more, if u put on weight, probably mostly water anwyway, dont worry about it...after u begin to eat at a calorie level thats sufficient for your body, your body will adjust and u will begin to lose weight again once your metabolism kicks in to high gear again. u need to be counting calories so u know where you are...im guessing u eat less than 500cals a day? shoot for 1000 then work up to 1200-1500 over time, since you weigh 108. i mean even if the bulk of these cals come from whey protein shakes, then fine, better than nothing, but eventually graduate up to solid food, with complex but low glycemic carbs as well as protein. after you get your metabolism back to normal, you should shoot for 15-16 x your bodyweight in cals for maintenance and if u want to drop weight, shoot for 10-12 x bodyweight. i been there before, its no fun..i lost 75lbs back in 1994 and was eating maybe 5-700cals a day, 'cuase thats all i could consume... i gradually addded cals and eventually normalized my metabolism since then, and added 40-50lbs of LBM to my fram in the following 5 years. it takes time but it will work. good luck. | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 44 |
Hang in there kiddo! Like everyone has said, the biggest steps have already been made. I just had a baby, and I was slowly sliding back into the private hell of an ED. It's hard to shut off that evil voice in your head, but once you realize it's there, you are already winning. The cardio thing is hard to get over, but just slow down gradually. Keep yourself surrounded by positive people (sounds like you are) and think of your protein shakes as liquid muscle! Good luck! | ||
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Novice 
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I am sorry that I could not reply earlier - until "the boss" fixes my password...yadda, yadda, yadda I won't reiterate my email Sista Gurl - just wanted to welcome you to the board! It will be a long road ahead, probably frought w/setbacks and difficulties....but that's OK. We are all here to help and support you, but remember, we can't do it for you - you've got to stand up and say, "I can do this because I AM AMAZING, I DESERVE THIS, I CAN & WILL DO THIS! When you fall, we'll help pick you up. When you do silly hurtful things (we've all done them at one time or another) - we'll smack you and yell, "SNAP OUT OF IT!" When you accomplish goals we'll give you a round of applause. I'm in this with you - but YOU have got to want it. No one person knows everything and we are all here to seek knowledge. Remember GURL - KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! The fact that you posted means that you are on the right track. It took A LOT of guts! BE STRONG AND BE WELL! Build mass, one rep, one set, one day at a time.....and for goodness sake - EAT!!! ------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Thank you thank you thankyou. You don't know how much all of your advice has meant to me. I had two drinks, dinner, and I am eating some dry cereal right now. What a deal, but it is driving me nuts. I have been playing that head thing all day, but I guess that is normal considering this is my first day to do all of this. I still did all of my cardio today, but stairstep only, no EFX. I ate more though, so I guess that is a step in the right direction. I weighed myself today, gained some weight, although I know it is only water, but the head games again is such a strong thing. I am going to keep it up because I know that all of you have gone through the same thing and overcome. I had gone to ED meetings for over a year, but they were still living in the disease and not getting any better, which did me more worse than good. Once again, thank you.
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 58 |
Thats great tex gurl! A little more each day, don't get into the habit of weighing yourself everyday. Your weight fluctuates daily due to water etc, scales are no good! and when you weight train and put on muscle the muscle weighs more than fat anyways. So throw that scale out!! You could also try out some protein bars for snacks on the go through out the day. That would give you some extra calories as well. Keep going we're here for ya | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 276 |
Forget the scale! Weigh yourself in the mirror. Do you look better? Do you look the same? If so, then don't worry! The number on the scale is just that - a number. Look at bikinimom, she weighs what? Like 130-140??? (BM, don't hurt me if i'm off! It's hard work, but in the future when you look back, you'll know it was all worth it. -Warik | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
what an awesome group of people you are. I am taking your advice to heart. I had two protein shakes today, and it was not as hard to do so as it was yesterday. I know from experience that I will have set backs, but I now have you guys and my sweet TEXAMM to talk to when the going gets tough. Signing off for now. All of you have a wonderful night. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 635 |
Texas AM Gurl; I was playing with my life like that for a long time!! Listen to the rest of the board they have great advice! Just eat good food and train and I promise you will be OK!! The more you eat and the muscles you will be building the more calories you burn! You are 5' 8" and weigh 109!!! You have alot of room to grow and put on great muscles size and you will look sooooo much better. And not only look better you will feel like a new person!! You have been starving your body as well as your brain. And when you do that you don't feel all that good!!! Trust me!!!! YOU WILL FEEL BETTER! YOU LIFE WILL BE MORE COMPLETE!!! And the training will be the focus of your life!!! <;-> Yours Pamela | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 315 |
If you are 5'8 and 109 you are wayyyy too skinny. I'm 4'11 and 100 lbs and people tell me I'm too skinny....Just keep eating a little more every time and it eventually won't seem like so much food. I used to eat only once a day as well, and I know how hard it is to adjust to eating more...I also was terrified of puttin on weight...especially being so short every single pound makes so much difference. ..if the man who loves you thinks you are TOO thin, then that is something to think about...beauty is not scrawn...its STRONG!
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Moderator 
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You know there was a time, Brotha Warik, where I would've starved for days if somebody had guessed me to be even 1 pound more than what the scale said that morning...but once I decided to pursue bodybuilding (as opposed to bodydestruction) I realized that when somebody guessed me to heavier than I was, it was because they were giving me MORE CREDIT than I deserved. In other words they were guessing me to have MORE LEAN MASS ie MUSCLE than I did! So I began to realize that I needed to grow! And you were fairly accurate, brotha, I currently weigh in the low 130's...give or take ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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I really wanted to post some advice here but the others gave you everything I had to say. Kat, ------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Hey everyone. I have so much to be thankful for. It still leaves me in awe about how much you take care of your own. I have been training now for two weeks. I already see some results, however few. I am listening to each one of you and that is making a huge difference. I have not even touched a scale. I never looked at it that way, Biknimom, about people giving you more credit when they guessed your weight as higher than it was. I had been looking at it all wrong. When someone thought I was smaller than I was, i liked that. Now, I don't. I guess that is a big improvement. I had also never thought about what someone else put that there are skinny fat people out there. I don't want to be one of those. I hope that one day I can have the postive body image that each of you do, and relish in the fact that I am healthy and beautiful. It will be long and hard to do so, but I will be able to do it. Hey, I had my shake all by myself tonight, and my sweetie was not here to make sure that I did. HUGE STEP. I am about to have dinner and turn in for the night. I hope each one of you have a great Thanksgiving. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 663 |
Not to distarct attention from the numerous posts Ive thrown up to bring more attention to myself, but Id like to say a thing or two about this subject and about you, Gurl, in particular! I think everyones advice is good, and Im sure you can see that it all comes from their hearts. But we're missing one very important aspect, the YOU aspect. As a person whos had many various disoders, I can speak from a bit of experiance on this. The most important thing you can do is love yourself! Learn to develop a relationship with yourself and become happy with who you are. It took me forever to do that, and Im happier than ever now that Ive made steps toward that.
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 446 |
Very nice words Monster thank you for expressing yourself.I can tell they came from your heart.As do everything I tell my GURL. I often ask her what is the ideal body you would love to have.Then and only then, do I counsel her on making that goal(her goal) possible. She wants a hard muscular fitness type physique and I want her to acheive everything and anything (healthy ofcourse) she wants. I tell her about nutrition and the frequency and amount of food it takes to build a body she wants.But one day of proper nutrition,is the amount of food someone with this disease may eat in two weeks.It is a huge step(almost impossble to fathom )without constant support from many people "in the know" . I have learned this early on. Do you remember when you tell or told someone that isn't into bodybuilding how much food you eat daily?They thought you were nuts.And remember all the critisism they gave?"oh when you get older all that muscle will turn to fat or with all that food you will be fat".(they really beleive this,as do most people)Even in the gyms we see to many people training that have no idea how to make there goals possible. So where does one go for REAL guidance?.We all are so lucky AREN'T WE?We have this board! We get to talk with people with the same goals from all over the world.I can't beleive I have gotten along all these years without it. I just wanted to remind all of you how important you are. Sorry for all of the rambling but I am having a very good day and a good week!Thank you all for giving me that. Happy Thanksgiving!!!....SAMM | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Monster, thank you so much for all of the wisdome you shared with me. I can't believe that a man, who doesn't even know me from a hill of beans, would take the time to write to me so much information. Sorry about the saying, but I am a country girl .I understand completely about the only way to love your body is to love yourself, and man is that ever hard. That is an understatement to say the least. Isn't is amazing how one day, you can be satisfied or somewhat satisfied with your body, and in a heartbeat, that can all change? I just don't understand it sometimes. I have learned though that when you start to focus on your body so much, or hate it, as in my case, there is something else going on in the inside. What I hate is not being able to pinpoint what that "it" is going on. For so long, I have learned to ignore my feelings that it became second nature to do so, and the end effect is that many times, I don't even know what I am feeling except anger and sadness. So I am working on that right now. I think that is harder than anything else. I just wanted to say thank you, and I will keep on keeping on, and one day, I will hopefully look back on this and say all of the turmoil that I went through was all worth it. Happy Thanksgiving everyone from the bottom of my heart. TEXAMM'S GURL | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
ROUGH DAY yesterday, to say the least. I was doing so well, until it hit me that I was not going to get to work out AT ALL. I guess I did have some really good gains though. I had two protein shakes, Thanksgiving lunch, and I also had dinner. For some reason though, I had the hardest time with the second protein shake. I think it was because I always have it after I work out, and I didn't get to do that yesterday. TEXAMM had to talk me through it because I REALLY didn't want to drink it. It scared me to death. I am so glad that Thanksgiving is over now, and I can get back to my routine. I know for a fact that this disorder is one of control, and I didn't have control like I would like yesterday. All in all though, we had a nice visit with my mother and stepfather. I was so grateful to be with the people I care about the most in my life. In all honesty, I am drinking my protein shake this morning, but it is slow going right now. I hate this thing, but because of all of your support, I am going to learn to live with this and find some benefits in it. TEXAMM went back to all of your replies last night, when I was FREAKING OUT, and that helped a great deal. So thank you. Your caring words helped me when I needed it the most. Have a great day. TEXAMM'SGURL | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 663 |
TexasAmm: Im glad you didnt take that the wrong way (about telling her shes too skinny). I know the spirit in which you say it, and Im sure she does too. It just one of those things that prey on our subconscious in sneaky little ways and work to knock us down. But you sound like you support her, so really, thats half the battle. Its a bitch dealing with people who dont understand what youre going through. They unintentionally sabotage you, even when they mean to be kind! Most people on this board will know what Im talking about. Dieting is one of the number one ways its done. Pre-show dieting is hard, and it brings out emotions in others that they dont know they have. When they see you dieting and getting lean before a show, it brings up their feelings of failure at trying to diet and failing, and they feel kind of ashamed at their own failure and may set roadblocks in your path (unintentionally). Like offering you food they know you cant have and saying "Oh come on, it wont kill you, youre already looking good." Just like people who stop smoking. Other smokers try to bring them down instead of encourage, I feel, out a shame at their own failure to stop... But again, what do I know, Im a well known crack-pot! ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 52 |
Hopefully this will be your last bad Thanksgiving. I remember ten years ago agonizing over the holidays and when I had the willpower starving my way through them or eating under the watchful eyes of my family then sneaking off to vomit. I am now on the other side of this illness and let me tell you what - I CAN EAT AND ENJOY IT!!! Monster addressed one of the most important factors in recovery and that is self love. I cannot tell you how to get there as it is a different journey for everyone but I would guess that there are people in your life that are poisonous and you need to figure out who they are and eliminate them from your daily life. I don't want to sound like Oprah here but gratitude plays a big factor as well as figuring out who you really are - it may not be the person everyone else expects you to be. I spent years tring to self destruct in every way that I could think of until I figured out that I could be a cookie baking mom and a biker chick all at the same time and it really doesn't make a damn bit of difference what my PTA friends think when they see me in my leathers because I am happy. It doesn't matter if my mom approves of my tattoo because I like it. You have to get to where nobody has to approve of you but you. I also want you to think about something else...please don't feel like you need to respond to this and understand that I am speaking of my own experience but do you get something out of it when someone tells you that you are too thin. When I was at my sickest I derived emotional satisfaction from others telling me that I was too thin, I looked like hell etc. It was a way of getting attention that I wasn't getting otherwise which turns it to get thinner = more attention = more love. Hang in there - you can get well! | ||
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AMEN SISTA TEMPLE, AMEN! I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.....AND YOU TOO SISTA GURL! Wise and comforting words Monster. It is so rare when a man actually understands these disorders. My husband still has a tough time understanding. He could care less whether he is lean and mean or fat and happy. How I used to envy that! Because I have accomplished many of my goals, or at least made valiant attempts at them, I have earned new found respect from my daughters, my husband...but most of all from ME! I AM AMAZING....as are you all. We may not always succeed in every new endeavor, but DAMMIT AT LEAST WE TRIED! How wonderful it is to find myself in such FINE COMPANY! Hang in there Texassam and Sista Gurl...you guys will be OK! ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 52 |
hey, just checkin on ya - how are you doing??? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 577 |
Hey girl, I understand what your are feeling as much as any person can without having the disorder themselves. My sister has been suffering from bulemia for 15 years, since 1985. The one thing I understand, but not limited to, is that it is something that you will fight with for the rest of your life. Unlike alcoholism, you are faced with the culprit (food) everyday. However, you are better off than most who suffer from it because you have identified the problem, taken action to get it under control and are able to communicate about it. I commend you on that. I am sure you have heard it all before, but I will reinterate, take babe steps. Change what you do a little at the time. For example, if you drink one 12oz protien dtink a day, bump it up to 18oz and divide that into two settings. Now you take two 9oz setting a day. What you accomplish with this is that you just uped your protein intake a little and you upped the amount of times you take it. AND IT IS LITTLE ENOUGH TO CONTROL< BUT BIG ENOUGH TO MAKE PROGRESS. Try it for a week then increase to both settings of 12oz. Do it this way with everything you do. Your meals and workout routine included. Good luck and god bless you! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 58 |
Hey Tex Gurl how are you?? You haven't posted in a while. Just wanted to see how you were doing. Drop us a line so we know how you are and if we can help you at all. Keep your head up girl! | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Checking password right quick. | ||
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Cool Novice
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Okay, here we go now. TEXASAMM used my computer the other day, and went I typed a pretty long note, I lost it because I put in the wrong password. If you knew how long this computer takes, you would understand why I just said the hell with it and went to bed. I am sorry that it has taken so long to get back on here to let you all know that I have been doing okay. I have had some pretty rough days lately, but I have not let them get me down. I don't know if TEXASAMM would say that or not, but he is still sticking with me. I have many excuses to give you as to why I have not been on here. The main one was that I have been sick lately. The flu bug has been going around here. I have had no fewer than three children absent all week. On Friday, I had five out. Along with ARD meetings, textbook meetings, and Christmas play, I have been trying to have a life, which hasn't been much of one this last week and a half. Next year, I am not going to bog myself down with being on all kinds of committees. I did it to myself though, so I can't blame anyone else for being tooooo busy, that I just don't have time for me. That is one way I guess that I am able to avoid focusing on my problem, so I don't have to deal with it as much. I have been eating some more, not a lot, but some. I have seen a difference in my body shape, and how I feel. I have even had a friend at the gym reply how he has already noticed a difference in my shape. That was nice to hear because I have worked my butt off with the weights. I don't know if I have gained any weight. I am sure that I have, but I have stayed off of the scales so I don't freak out completely. My jeans, in the legs are definately tighter, but I like they way they are looking, so I am trying to be okay with it. Like I said earlier, I have been eating more, so that is good. I cannot say that I have done it perfectly, but I am doing better. Yes, this is something that I am going to have to deal with the rest of my life, and it really pisses me off. You are right about it being different from being an alcoholic. My mother is in AA and has been for fifteen years now. It is so hard for her to understand what I am going through because she has been so successful with her program of staying clean and sober. I know she loves me a great deal, but she has a hard time dealing with me when I am not doing well. She does okay though when I am. It is so hard to relate to her about this problem because she thinks, just eat and keep it in your body, but it is so hard sometimes to do that when you are freaking out. Heck, I don't even understand this thing completely, so how can I expect her to. But it is wonderful that I can voice what I am going through on here because so many of you understand, or understand the best you can. Plus, your heart is not in it like my mother's is. I don't mean for a second that you don't care. I just mean that you can be impartial to what I am dealing with because you don't know me. I am going to try to do my best to stay on top of this and let you guys know how I am doing, at least a couple of times a week. I will tell you though, this next week and couple of days is going to be hectic because school is almost out for the holidays, so bear with me please. I will be able to post each day hopefully, when I do get out for the holidays, considering I am not going anywhere. I hope all of you have a great day, and I will talk with you soon. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Its good to hear from you Tex gurl! Just take it slow and look to the board for positive reinforcement. You will have good and bad days but soon you will have more good days than bad. It takes time and you have to give it all you got. Your gonna fall a few times and that is ok just make sure you get back up and give it 110% next time | ||
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Cool Novice
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Thanks for the picture Bikini Mom. You look absolutely awesome. I am no longer with TEXASAMM anymore. I think my setbacks from time to time was just too much for him. But who can blame him. I am not giving up though. As a matter of fact, that just makes me want to succeed even more. I just will definately need more help from all of you, especially the ones who understand the setbacks, and the mind games this thing plays on you. I am going to go eat dinner now. Please keep me in your thoughts. I see even more just how hard this is going to be without the support that I had first hand. But I know I can do it. | ||
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GURL, You can definitely do it.You have shown yourself that you have the drive and determination to succeed.It is time to change up you WO program as you already know.And I will help you with that ofcourse. As for nutrition just remember that drinking your shake in the morning is more important than combing your hair.And that drinking another after the WO is more important than taking your shower.This needs to be like clockwork in your new schedual. You can do this, as you have already seen that eating more doesn't get you fat and you need to eat alot more food.You will get it,it takes time.You have control over this you are strong.You are learning about nutrition in a way that most people will never know.This kind of knoweledge is priceless.This puts you in charge of your body for once.It is a great feeling.You will get there. The reason we are no longer dating has nothing to do with your disorder.And everything to do with how you are with me.And you know what I am talking about.This is not something I will discuss on the board.But just know I will always help you anyway I can.Maybe we can be better friends to each other now. I will see you on tuesday with your new program. | ||
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Thank you. I had my shake this morning and the one after my workout. I did back and biceps today. | ||
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YOU GO GURL!! Keep up the good work. WW | ||
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OUCH! My back is sore too! >:O Thanx FC! ------------------ | ||
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I have been so sick today. I thought I had gotten over my cold and sore throat, but It came back yesterday. Unfortunately it got worse in that I have absolutely no voice right now. It left me yesterday, and completey diappeared today. Not a good thing period, but when you are a teacher, it is the pits. The weather is horrible here. The ice storm has hit. I am sure that we will miss school tomorrow because the weather is so bad. I am somewhat proud of myself today because I could have really been stupid and gone to the gym to work out when I knew the weather was getting so bad, but I went ahead and came on home. I am doing alright with it now because I feel like poop, but keep me in your thoughts, because I know I will be going stir crazy tomorrow since I will not be able to get out at all, I am sure. Oh well. At least I have made it through today. I was wondering, what is a good amount of time each week to lift weights? I have been taking off on Wednesdays and Sundays from weight training, but it has been really hard to do that. I would like to lift on M-W-F or T-Th-Sat if at all possible, but I want results. Would I be able to if I did that? Someone please tell me your thoughts on that Well, I am going to go get on my couch right now, and try to rest a bit. I hope you all have a wonderful night, and if any of you are in the metroplex area, keep warm and safe. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Keep warm A plan of m-w-f would be good for weight training, you don't want to overtrain... and you need time to rest and GROW!!! Just make sure you are training no more than an hour or so. Make it hard and intense each session. You don't need to be in the gym for hours. If you are training hard enough you wouldn't be able to last that long Make sure you are eating to babe. You can't lift and do all this stuff with no energy and nutrients in your bod. Have you tried snacking on protein bars as well throughout the day? Keep drinking your shakes too. Stay in and wait till you are better, its not good to train when you are sick. Hope you feel better and have better weather too | ||
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Cool Novice
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Thanks for the reply. It is horrible here. The roads are awful. I hate that we are missing a day of work, but I really needed the rest. It has made a huge difference in the way I feel. I am still not 100% yet, but I am much better. You are right about the time in the gym. If I am doing things right with the weight lifting, I wouldn't be able to do all of that if I was training properly for that period of time. I just didn't know if I would be wasting my time, if I only trained three days a week. When I showed TEXASAMM what I had been doing for the past year, he pretty much told me that I had been wasting my time. He didn't do it in a mean way though. He was right. I have seen more results in the short period he has been telling me what to do, than I had in a year of what I thought was good for me. Go figure. Have a great day. |
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posted November 19, 2000 07:22 PM
