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 sorry for posting here ladies but i need some advice
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 384 |
ok i have been dating this girl for about 3 months or so..one minute she will be all about me and hanging all over me and holding my hand and stuff..then about an hour later she will start talking about other guys and shit..should i distance myself and make her choose or what? i like her alot but i dont feel like playing games with this one..not to sound like a pig but i can sorta have my pic of the girls around here but i only like her (yes i have a pic)..what should i do? thanks in advance     | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 466 |
..ummm...talk to her? Not meaning to be condescending, but have you tried telling her how you feel when she talks about other guys? ------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 23 |
You really need to be able to communicate with this girl. That is like the #1 thing in any relationship. You need to sit down and tell her honestly how you feel and let her know it bothers you. What exactly does she say when she talks about other guys?? Does she merely point out an attractive guy or does she drool and go on and on about these guys?? Because we all look and admire the attractive opposite sex. But she should be into you and you should feel confident in that, if you don't then you really need to find out what she is all about, what she is looking for and what she wants out of this relationship. You may be on two totally diffrent levels. Talk to her  | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 522 |
if you can have you choice of any chick.......Order all 31 flavor like Baskin Robins! ------------------ | ||
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Novice 
Posts: 4 |
quote: HEY BRO, heres the deal...talk to her. let her know your feelings, so atleast u can say u did and then whatever outcome happens u know u made an effort.....now you are saying she tells you how hot other guys are or what? what is it that she says to you about other guys?......look some poeple just never shut up and speak their mind and she may enjoy talking to you, but ends up saying too much to you, maybe even being harmless...i used to do that a lot...speak of other girls to the girl im with...it was always harmless in my mind, bascially just conversation, just because i like to speak my mind...but i never realized how it made the girl feel..so maybe thats her story. but if shes a high maintenance girl, whos used to dating guys like you who can get any girl that he wants, then shes nothing but trouble, and is just a player like so many are..some poeople never can settle down..and always cheat, cause their sex drive and desires are insatiable... i hope for your sake thats not her case. Hey i feel your pain bro..im trying to convince this great girl ive been with for a few months that ALL I WANT IS HER!! i hope she UNDERSTANDS! :-)And thank GOd I can satisfy her needs ( thank GOD lol )..and i think shes too damn sweet to cheat(hey that rhymes)... but i feel good 'cause i spoke my mind about it to her..so thats all i can do, and all you can do. hey and if all else fails...there's one girl who will ALWAYS be faithful to you! Diana... ....you know... Dianabol! :-) bottom line...speak to her about this now! [This message has been edited by NY Muscle (edited November 17, 2000).] | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 143 |
hey man i am in the same boat i have been with my g/f for almost 4 months. the first 3 months went greta no problems at all, in the last 3 weeks its been shit. i feel I want the relatinship more then she does. I mean my g/f talks to ew guys all the time and talks to me about other guys. I mean it hurts a lot when she talks about these guys it make me feel like maybe i am not doing enough. See i want to talk to her but i dont want it to seem like i am telling her who she can and cant hang out/talk with you know what i mean. So i feel some what lost in that case. She says she is into me she acts like it sometimes but we are just 2 different people. I am letting it play out for a few more weeks and if i am still as unhappy as i am now i will have to talk to her about it and let her know how it feels. i mean if she blows up and cant take it it doesnt make much difference because I dont feel this relationship is goin anywhere at the moment. I have been nothing but sweet and honest with this girl so i have no regrets we just might be 2 different people, wanting different things. Good luck bro and shoot me an email on how things are goin cause trust me i can relate later man | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 23 |
You shouldn't wait, you need to talk to her ASAP!!! Dont compromise your happiness, and let things ride out for a couple of weeks. #1 that is not good, #2 it is not fair to you or her. Cmon guys where is the communication! You guys need to talk to your girls and lay it all out for her, so she knows and then it is on her how she handles the situation. But her not knowing and you guys being unhappy and upset is not going to work!! You guys need to sit down and talk seriously and find out what these girls are about and what they want. Things can be changed and compromises can be figured out but when no one is talking it solves nothing and only makes matters worse. All i am saying is dont compromise your happiness for a girl that is not making you happy. Its not worth it! I am telling you this from a womans perspective so thats my advice | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 23 |
You shouldn't wait, you need to talk to her ASAP!!! Dont compromise your happiness, and let things ride out for a couple of weeks. #1 that is not good, #2 it is not fair to you or her. Cmon guys where is the communication! You guys need to talk to your girls and lay it all out for her, so she knows and then it is on her how she handles the situation. But her not knowing and you guys being unhappy and upset is not going to work!! You guys need to sit down and talk seriously and find out what these girls are about and what they want. Things can be changed and compromises can be figured out but when no one is talking it solves nothing and only makes matters worse. All i am saying is dont compromise your happiness for a girl that is not making you happy. Its not worth it! I am telling you this from a womans perspective so thats my advice | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
See i just dont know how to put it, its a reocuring thought for me i just dont know what to say. I mean for me to tell her it bothers me who she hangs around with or talks to is really not any of my business. I mean if she told me not to talk to a certain person , i would feel she was being nosey untrustworthy and selfish. But that fact is it does bother me regardless if it seems i am any of those qualities just cant find the words to tell her thats all. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 384 |
well i talked to her and she was telling me about how she was afraid of getting hurt which i understand but her blabbing about other guys all the time wasnt the way for me to really get close to her..and that was her plan..to keep me at a distance so she wont get hurt, so she says..i dont know...normally i can figure out girls but this one has me fooled..so i will just distance myself and make her choose..i have to much going on in my life right now to get sidetracked into a dead end relationship |
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posted November 17, 2000 03:31 PM