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 I just ended it with my lady.........
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Pro Bodybuilder 
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Just thought I'd cry on everyone's shoulder here......just broke up with my girl and we've been together for eighteen months. Definitely the longest stint since my divorce......god I hate hurting people. But the truth of the matter is....although the sex was outstanding......the romance is gone. But at any rate, I've met a replacement that I hope will "do it for me". Thanks for listening to my depressed rebus. delts ------------------     | ||
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Moderator 
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what made you feel the romance was gone? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Thanks for the response Johnny......to be honest I felt that I knew going into the relationship that the attraction was purely physical. I kidded myself into thinking that the romantic part would just materialize. But the sex was unreal and it took alot for me to finally let it go. I'm a jerk. delts ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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ok, 18 months? just physical? bro, your kidding yourself now. either that or you had a strong need to feel wanted that you were willing to stay in a meaningless relationship for a year and a half. seems the latter would be true considering the fact that you have a replacement now and that replacement is likely the reason you stood up and ended the other relationship. i have never understood the NEED to be with someone, anyone... it just doesnt make sense, i would rather wait for someone special then waste my time and effort with someone who is not worth it. i could see a few months if it was purely physical but not a year and a half... oh well, i am going on and on.. i will stop now. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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madbomber.....you make an excellent point, but the truth is....I don't go clubbing alot and I don't get out and meet alot of women like alot of fellows on this board do. I spend alot of time trying to be a good father. And to be very honest about it, I've been with several women in the last two years, just so I wouldn't be alone, and yes that is wrong. But the one that I've met this time IS different.....I feel like I could be with her for the rest of my life. Life is a neverending lesson, and at forty, I'm still very much a student. delts ------------------ | ||
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Guru
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I went through that about 6 weeks ago and I 'd only been with the girl for 4 months. We are trying to patch things up now and it is going slowly. It's very hard to give up an awesome piece of ass that you can actually talk to and enjoy being with even when you aren't banging her. Good luck with your new mate and I'd try not to burn the bridge with the old one, as you never know when that spark might catch fire again. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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So did you meet the new girl b4 or after you broke up with your old one? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Thick dog.....you are so right, it is difficult to end a relationship if the girl is hot in bed, and is easy to get along with. Sometimes that combo right there in itself is very hard to find. Strengthmonster.....I met her before I broke up with this one. But I can honestly say that the attraction is as much mental this time as physical. delts | ||
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Guru
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And you did this 4 days before Christmas!!!! YES, you are a HHHHHHUUUUUUUGGGGEEEE jerk!
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 564 |
hahaha, I knew you'd met this new girl first! I bet you didn't tell the old one about the new one either yet did ya? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 592 |
Dlady, actually I was going to wait until after the New Year to end it......but the situation presented itself and I felt no need to drag this on any further. And yes you are correct, I am a huge jerk, I've admitted that. You mentioned...."worse than you", what did you do that puts you close to that category? Guess I missed that one. And Strength....lol.....yes, before......but believe it or not, we've just "played" together....no actual lovemaking as of yet. delts ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Then get it sorted my son. If you weren't getting along with the ex too well, you must be dying to get her in the sack! Bro, I went through something similar. You did the right thing as you obviously weren't right to stay with your ex if you feel like this over another. At least you didn't cheat on her. Hope it all works out for you. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Thanks buddy.......I'm just dealing with the obvious guilt....and I deserve this pain, so I've got to deal with that. I'm really hoping this one is it this time. This board is a good way to "talk" these things out, and has been very therapeutic for me. (sniff,sniff)....you guys are the greatest! delts | ||
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Guru
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DELTS, lets not bring up my horrid story again okay! remember all that matters is your happiness , just try not to hurt people in the process........... | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Dlady, didn't mean to bring up old stuff...sorry. It's funny......my ex dumped me two years ago and I remember those times being the most difficult I've ever dealt with. And I swore to myself I would never hurt someone that deeply, but truthfully speaking, it's hard to avoid. I've done it several times already. But it's going to stop this time I hope. delts | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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I think I'll try and use this stress in a positive nature......think I'll start my cutting cycle today. I'll stack clen, eca, and high anxiety along with a clean diet and lots of cardio. I've found that high anxiety is synergistic, and will make everything else more more efficient in the fat burning mode. LOL delts | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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delts, i wasnt gettin on ya earlier, just making an observation... i know so many people who wont cut the wrong ones loose until they have a replacement... it baffles me honestly. i would rather be alone with my hand then be with someone i didnt want to be with. i could see dumping someone and looking for a replacement, but the entire fact is you had yours before you dumped the ex and that is the ONLY reason you dumped her. no biggy, shit, i am not the one who has to go return all of your gifts that she bought you  fortunately, you have a replacement to give her gifts to. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
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Delts dont feel bad you only spend 18 months. I have spent 3 years once on the same situation. I think it was a combo of hot sex and not wanting her to be with another guy. WOW WAS I A SAD EXCUSE BACK THEN. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Thanks guys.......I believe this situation goes on alot more than most guys care to admit. This girl was awesome in bed, and she treated me like a King.....but as much as I tried to feel it in my heart.....it just never did happen. And I'm getting old, and I want to find that special one, and I think I have. Thanks again. delts ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Madbomber, my thoughts exactly. Why is it that men (and women) wait until they have replacements? Poor girl...First you break up with her and then she has to hear you have someone else already  | ||
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Cool Novice 
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Before you say that it is mental as well as physical with this new girl, how long have you been with her? Many who don't want to be alone, make that person to be what they want them to be in the beginning because it is new and exciting. Don't jump into anything becuase you just ended it with this other girl. It sounds as if the romance left or seemed to have left because you had an interest in this other girl. Also, don't stay with someone because it becomes comfortable-good or bad. I did that for six years knowing that it was not going to work out for us. I kept my head up my butt trying to ignore the problems hoping they would go away. Of course they didn't. They just got worse. With every relationship though, is never wasted time because you learn what you want and what you don't want in a partner. Good luck with the new relationship. But keep your eyes opened, and don't let your heart rush in too quickly. Have a great night, or at least try to. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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All very valid points.....I appreciate the responses here. Thanks again. delts | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 568 |
Luv2workout... not to turn this around or anything, but girls do this FAR more often then guys... we guys are usually quite happy hanging out with the guys and checkin out girls and going home alone to spank our monkeys. We would USUALLY rather not have a girlfriend just for the sex cuz of that other stuff (stupid talks) that go along with it... HOWEVER, with that said, a fuck buddy is completely different.. we dont have to have them talks... the fuck buddy knows that is the only thing going on.... | ||
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Cool Novice
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Hey man, keep your head up and don't worry about things. You sound like a good guy because you hate hurting people, I'm the same. I wish I could just say "See ya.." and be done with things but I always worry about everyone else and soemtimes get myself deeper in shit because of it. Remember that there's only one person that you're with for the rest of your life and that's you. Make that person happy. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
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quote: hey Luv, You need to have the ticket before you can board the train. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 592 |
hoeycow.....you're so right. And I do hate hurting people. It's almost like it would be nice to sign a six month contract with the person, and if it's not right, you just walk away without all of the pain that goes along with it. And although madbomber makes an excellent point, the truth is, I don't like being alone, not so much for the sex, but I do like the touching and kissing. Strange for a man huh? delts ------------------ |
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