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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 143 |
Ok, just have to rant about my frustrating love life...perhaps some of you guys can help me see things in a new perspective... I had the major hots for this guy at the gym...well, almost a year ago we started talking and became friends, then started lifting together this fall...things progressed nicely, we had a great time together, talked and laughed the whole time, spent way too much time working out...anyhow, there was obviously chemistry going on, and I was beginning to really get frustrated b/c I felt I was going to have to make the first move. Anyhow, we finally crossed that "more than friends" line a few weeks ago, nothing serious, just messin' around My question is... ------------------     | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 1252 |
just forget about being friends and enjoy the sex while it lasts..... | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 530 |
Men and women can never be "just friends". Didn't "When Harry Met Sally" teach you anything? Give him my number. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 167 |
any guy who would pass up on a relationship you blondie is a total retard  Don't sleep with him for the wrong reasons, you will regret it later.E | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 362 |
shit, he don't want you, i will take you. jk, i have a gf, or at least i think i do, but enough about me. you are one fine looking young lady, you can probably get exactly what you want in a relationship very easily. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
awww...thanks, E... I hate feeling like the "call her because you are alone and she's got a good body" girl...I don't want to keep talking to him if it's going to never change, and it bugs the hell out of me that I am tempted to just have a meaningless physical relationship! All that will do is make me feel like crap! What really sucks is that I still like this guy! He's smart, funny, and cute... | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 167 |
NO DONT JOIN A CONVENT!!! haha you would be depriving the rest of us. I am sorry to be the one who has to break this to you but I have been in a very similar situation. If you tell him the truth, you will most likely end up hurting his feelings and damaging your friendship. On the other hand if you dont tell him, you will ultimately end up hurting yourself and in turn your friendship. I think the best thing to do is to save face and just be honest with him. He will understand if he is really a good guy don't sacrifice your hapiness for the wrong reasons.sorry for rambling but thats just my 2 cent | ||
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Guru 
Posts: 3926 |
I say do him, maybe hell stick around. ------------------ For a good time click here: Search and Profiles (300Kleens Board) | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 1805 |
Men and woman only make good friends if there is a mutual distate for each other sexually if there isn't there is sexual tension, eventually sex and problems. . .just my limited experience, but you can ask my girlfriend its how we ended up together. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 646 |
BuffBlondie...My opinion is that once you cross that line between friends and "fooling" around..its almost impossible to go back to being only friends...How are you going to feel when he comes up and tells you he met this great girl and he's going out with her?? I'm sure your feelings will be hurt..besides..if this guy is going to be picking up and leaving at any minute (good excuse to get into a woman's pants.. I have to give him that) why would you want to get involved anyway??? Cut your losses now...Besides..you could always move up here to Illinois..Im not going anywhere for another 20 years or so.. :-) Seriously though..don't be his little Hottie on a string....Just forget about him and stay away from him.... ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 111 |
guys don't have girl "friends". they only have girls they haven't fucked yet. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 263 |
I say forget about him and start working out with me. | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2354 |
Why not just have oral sex and just be friends. That way you still cover your goods! | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1168 |
quote: I agree with showtime, Think about it, if they already have gotten what they want from you, the only thing you are good for is hooking them up with a "new" chick. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 787 |
I think you're a class act, Buff...don't sell yourself short....move on... | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 18 |
Buffblondie: Don't fall for his BS. There is absolutely no reason for you to place yourself into a position in which you are uncomfortable. You are a very attractive young woman who seems to have a good head on your shoulders. My guess is if you allow yourself to be placed into that situation, you will be unhappy with yourself. Can you still be freinds? You are the only person who can answer that question. It is obvious that you have feelings for this individual. So the question is can you be freinds with him feeling what you feel? My guess is no. I have been in that same situation before and I have found that I could not go back to that "friendship" phase. Move on. I think you will find a number of men who would not only jump at the chance of going out with you, but will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Just remember, this is your life and you deserve the best out of it. ------------------ | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2408 |
Does he work now and did he give you any kind of time frame on when he might know if he will be getting that job? MAybe you should blow him off (not sexually speaking) a couple of times to see how serious he is and if he keeps coming back. Then maybe he will let you know whether or not he is what the chances of him getting that job are. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
Thanks everyone for the advice! It's a lot easier to forget about things when I don't talk to/see him, and that's been how it's been the past couple'a days. What I hate is that I can NEVER seem to meet a decent man - i'm in the gym most of the time, and I have quit the "bar scene" (not that I met anyone that way anyway). I'm pretty much a homebody/gym rat, and the guys in the gym don't have much more to say to me than typical come-on lines... Thanks for lettin' me vent! -Buff ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1168 |
hey blondie- When you were being picked up did you ever get this line: what type of gym do you own? Powerhouse, golds? ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
Captain- Never heard that one! I would definately be embarrassed! Usually it's something related to the shorts i'm wearing, or the one the other day...this one was pretty good..."mind if I give you my dirty laundry? - in reference to my washboard abs...gets points for creativity! I'm opening a women's only fitness center...sorry guys! Definately not going to be a hardcore gym... ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 721 |
Buff, I don't buy his excuse. The reason? Because I have used it before. So, he says he cannot be serious with you, but he still wants to have sex with you. I think what's going on is that he may have a serious girlfriend, and wants something different on the side. He may already be in a relationship with a girl who he doesn't want to leave, but at the same time may be extremely attracted to you. That may be precisely why it has taken so long for him to cross the line of friendship with you. Trust me on this. If I were a single guy and you were obviously trying to get my attention, it wouldn't take that long. There has to be more to it. TG | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 2180 |
Candor is wonderful, so here is some: you are getting used. You seem like a nice enough girl. That and a $1.25 will get you a cup of coffee and the paper in the morning. You want to keep being treated badly - keep hanging out. You don't, then don't. It's an easy decision that you are making difficult. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 264 |
Screw him,no pun intended. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
as I said above, the less I see him, the easier it is to forget about it - I don't have time to stress about it and it's not worth it anyway! I would much rather be single and happy than in a screwy relationship and unhappy - I think too many of us women get into relationships just to be in relationships... | ||
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Moderator
Posts: 2180 |
quote: That is absolutely true. After watching many cool girls I know date losers.....well - that would be the reason. Glad to see a girl who has common sense. i feared they were all gone. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 143 |
Thank you Matt! cyberspace than | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 111 |
I'm not exactly sure what the problem is. Is it A)you don't like anymore and thus don't want to hook up any more or B) like him but are scared you will get attached. If the answer is A then by all means forget about him. If the answer is B however, you maybe should maybe come to an understanding that you are just "friends with benefits" so to speak. That way you can have you cake and eat it to....or maybe he can eat your cake ahahahaha ------------------ |
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