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 Would you dump your gf/bf if they never want to have sex?
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 14 |
Been with my girl for over 2 years now, we get along fine, she's sexy as hell, and never never ever fight. She is never in the mood to have sex, and we don't even get chances to have sex too often. I was doing fine for a bit, but it's been a hell of a long time since we last had sex, it doesn't bother her at all. If I get mad or anyting cuz we don't have sex, she gets all mad at me and calls me an asshole, etc. Do I have a right to be mad... or is it the if you love someone then sex shouldn't matter.     | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 493 |
Dude I was in a similar sitch one time about 4 years ago. I met this girl while bartending, who I liked as a friend at first but not much more. She used to come in and see me & wait for me every night I worked & we would stay at the bar late & talk. After spending so much time together, the girl started to grow on me & we started to get involved. I'll say this much about her....To this day she is the nicest, & the purest chick I have ever been with. I mean at 26, this girl had only been with one guy! She was an awesome cook, had an awesome ride that she let me drive & was pretty hot to boot! The only thing about her was that DUDE SHE WAS TERRIBLE IN BED! She hated sex, at least with me, and was the kind of chick who loved to get oral sex, but hated to give it. So she was not only shitty in bed, she was selfish as well. The two most important things that make a relationship work, IMO, are TRUST & SEX. Sex without trust & you are just fuck friends, and trust without sex, your just friends friends. The fucked up part about me and this girl was that I ended up cheating on her with a fitness chick that I met at the NPC show in Pittsburgh. I felt REALLY bad for betraying her like that because she was so nice & I knew that she would never do anything like that to me, but dude I NEEDED FUCKED LIKE THE PIG THAT I AM!! We eventually broke up because of it, although neither one of us would admit that THAT was the real reason. | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 14 |
Thanks for the reply dood. My gf hates giving oral too, boo to her. Imust admit i cheated on her as well, it was a long time ago, this sexy sexy girl basically raped me, i was drunk and had to give it... i felt like shit for a few days after that. Then another time 1 week after we last had sex, which was about 2-3 months ago, I had a threesome with one of my good friends and his gf. Didn't feel as guilty that time. Damnit I would hate to break up with her because I'm not getting any sex, but for fucks sake, it's been like 2-3 months since the last time, what the hell am i supposed to do? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 493 |
quote: I aksed myself the same question when I was with MY sexless wench dude! I eventually TRIED to have an adult conversation with her on how we could improve our sex life. She seemed to take that as me saying that she was a corpse in the sack, which she was, but I certainly didn't say anything to make her feel that way! Her pride was hurt, and it was then I realized that things were never gonna get any better for me as far as sex with her goes. I even played it off like "what can I do to get you off honey" & the fucker wouldn't even tell me what she liked so that I could at least make myself feel like SHE was having a good time. She just wouldn't(or couldn't)tell me & to this day I'm thinking that it was something nasty like put some Jiff on her clit & jackoff while her dog Oscar licked the shit off or something bizzarre like that. I dont know if she was taught that sex was shamefull or she was molested when she was younger or what, but she couldnt even talk about sex, let alone enjoy it. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 619 |
IF YOU REALLY LOVE THE GIRL I WOULDNT DUMP HER. IF YOU HAVE TO, GO BACK TO THE OLD TEEN AGE PAST TIME. SPANKIN IT!! | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 1922 |
Something is obviously going on with her. I am sorry but to not have sex with your significant other is just WRONG! God, me & the bf have it twice a day; sometimes more. Yes, some people have it more often because of their hormones, & because they are attracted to the person. But to rarely have it, not good! They say that sexual intercourse makes up between 40 & 60 % of a relationship. SO you need to communicate with your girl & find out what is wrong with her. Usually when you arent having sex it does mean that something else is causing it. Talk to her.... Does she not mind that you will resort to satisfying yourself if she wont do it? Or does she not care? If she doesnt care then you might as well give her the boot! | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 418 |
Sexual chemistry and similar sex drives are very important in a relationship. However, maybe you're just a lousy lay and she's getting hers elsewhere. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1086 |
You can't stay in a relationship if the physical and the emotional are not in sync. i am afraid if you don't talk to her that your relationship may crumble right before your eyes. Tell her how you feel and if this persists you may want to think about moving on. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1187 |
damn, i was in the same situation. I use to date a very "religious" girl who believed in waiting until marriage. It took me months just to get her to give me a blow job or even let me touch her pussy, and then she was one of those girls that always wanted me to give her oral, but she never wanted to do it for me. I stuck it out for 1 1/2 years w/o sex, just oral every once and a while.. and finally had to give it up because I just couldn't breath any longer w/o a fuck. True story. | ||
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Novice 
Posts: 9 |
Hey May1010, way to make the guy feel better. Dude just dump her. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 418 |
I do what I can. | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 22 |
Sex without love is ok Love without sex suxxxx. Have you asked her what's up??? Maybe she has a hang up somewhere......maybe she doesnt feel adequate......who knows? She does if ya ask her tho!! If she says she just doesn't like sex ...well time to find another partner. Because you will eventually anyway. I loved that line by Roiddog I think " I had to be fucked like the pig that I am" ROFLMFAO | ||
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Freak
Posts: 1639 |
imo a strong sex life is needed in a relationship to help both parties grow together..a share intimate things..which inturn makes you love each other that much more ..if she is the way you say she is then how could your relationship be that good..sex is a strong ...and huge part of all relationships..just my 2 cents
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 453 |
No sex is bad...she has issues. Tell her to see someone. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 631 |
Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship....Imagine going on the rest of your life with having sex only once every 2 or 3 months??? My opinion would be to move on...because you are going to look elsewhere for sex... Im single right now and if my hand didn't take care of business..I would cut it off.. :-) ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 239 |
My guess is that she is cheating on you. If she isnt getting it from you, than she is getting it from someone else. I would worry about dumping her. My guess is that she is about to dump you....just give it some time. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 149 |
" Need to have sex or soon you'll be my ex " is the way I look at it. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 743 |
stay with her, and have little side deals goin on with other women til she sees the light | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 14 |
Thanks for all the replies, guys and women. She's not cheating on me, I'm 100% certain of that, because she is totally obsessed over me and really loves me... so it's kinda weird. I actually am a shitty lay, I cum fast, but I still go down on her, so it can't be that. I try and talk about it sometimes but usually get mad and be an asshole about it, and she then gets mad at me. We are young and she lives with her parents, and she says she doesn't want to have sex when her parents are home... yet she has in the past a few times, and didn't say anything then. Even if it's 4:00AM and we are laying in the bed she won't. If I try and touch her or something when we are alone, she'll say I just want to cuddle, i don't feel good, etc. etc. The funny thing is, when she is drunk, she is hornier than anyone I know. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 489 |
maybe you just don't do it for her, anyways... but next time you two DO have sex, just ask if you can tie her up... then just fuck her till it's out of your system... and then you leave her tied up, and whenever the urge comes back you screw her again. your relationship can really improve from this. ------------------ "how much can you really know about yourself if you've never been in a fight?" Tyler Durden | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 643 |
Hell yeah, I would dump her!!! Bacaba was right, she's probably cheating on u!!! | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 14 |
She's too in love with me to cheat on me, I know she isn't cheating on me, 100% sure. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 285 |
Mookie - sounds like you need to get her drunk more often. I have similar problems with my wife. She enjoys sex but only twice a week. I need it every day. 2-3 months and I would be gone. You have to do what makes you happy. If your not happy your not making anyone else happy either. If your not married, I would move on before your too attached. Dlady - interesting comments. From what Ive read sex is only 10% of a relationship if its good - 90% of a relationship if its bad. I think you need to realize that every person has a different sex drive. I think its awesome that you have sex twice a day with your lover. I would give my left arm to have sex with my wife that often. But the average according to all of the marriage counselors Ive seen is 2-4 times per week. Your twice a day puts you into the nympho catagory with me. There isnt something wrong just because a person has a low sex drive. | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 14 |
bump | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 762 |
Low doses of test will do wonders for her libido. Maybe take a madical approach to this and go see a doctor. Andro-gel, which came out this summer, can be perscribed for this and is very effective. ------------------ |
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