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 There are only three kinds of relationships.....
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Pro Bodybuilder 
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The first one is when you are willing to settle for less in your mate, whether it be physically or mentally, so you can have the upper hand in the relationship. This makes you the "boss" so to speak, and although you're probably not "in love", you definitely like having your freedom and doing what you wish. The second is when you actually pursue and obtain the girl of your dreams and her body is hot, and she also has a sharp mind. However, since she does look so hot, and is probably a "bit of a tease", you end up worshipping her and losing all of your self-esteem just to "keep her". The third one is when you are able to find this hot looking and intelligent woman, and at the same time have the mutual respect and trust of each other to allow personal freedom and yet still be intimate and close. This is quite often hard to find, and I would dare say a great many of us fall into the first two categories. Food for thought on this Thanksgiving. Comments please. delts ------------------     | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
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Well, I'm sort of in between the second and third you described. Because of me being "head over heels" in love, I'm becoming like the person in relationship #2. I'm even starting to disbelieve that relationship #3 will ever exist for me. I'm not sure if that makes any sense. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
Makes perfect sense to me......and is actually quite common today. Good luck. delts | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 905 |
The one thing people lack is the ability to really communicate and be open with each other. Just from reading the posts here I can see how many people are afraid of showing their girlfriend or even wife who they really are. This is not a put down at all. I have, for most of my adult life been this way. Women liked me because of my looks and a funny joke or two. As soon as I showed my true feelings and personality all my phone calls magically never got returned. Never stop till you get what you want-and thats not to mean finding Monica Brant when you already have a girl that is attractive TO YOU -inside and out. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 515 |
I agree, its all about how much effort your willing to give for relationship you really want. The first one your talking about is the lazy guys relationship, the second one is for guys who like to work really hard for not a whole lot, then the third is when you work hard, but your both on the same level and its actually mutual love, so you just dont notice that your working that hard for it all since your both in love. I have had this only once, and I think about it every day and no one has measured up since. Sucks. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
Excellent comments, and as Kneepads stated, it always does seem that once you truly open yourself up to a lady......that's exactly the same time that you become "vulnerable", and problems are on the way. Superdave, I know a few guys that are in relationship one, and they like it that way. The reason being is that they enjoy their personal time more than the family time. Which is actually quite selfish, and I feel they will regret it later in life. There has to be balance IMHO. delts | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 547 |
Well, I thought my current relationship was going to be a #3, but it has turned out to be a #1 to his pleasure and my chagrin. He hates making his own decisions...you know, the gods forbid you'd have to be responsible for your own actions (LOL), and I don't like making decsions for people...if I wanted to run someones life Id have kids. So there are some issues, but in general its all good. I just wish, like everyone else that I'd find someone who was my equal in all things. Ahh..to lust over the impossible, eh? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
#3 is the only one that truly affords peace of mind and tranquility........but as you stated.....in 99% of the cases, it's not really obtainable. And once "allegedly obtained", a false sense of security often times sets in.......and you're back to #1 or #2 rather quickly. Thanks for the responses. Just for the record..I believe #3 exists, but only few people in a lifetime get the opportunity to actually enjoy that. delts ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1151 |
I think I've been in the third zone but the petty bullshit that all the women in life life throw at me puts us back to one and two. I think I'll just aim for zone 1 the rest of my life. FTW!!!! | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1116 |
you dont wanna be in a #2 relationship, been there done that. when I finally snapped out of it... and eventually one will, I got divorced. #3, shit, dont know no one in that one. although that would be the most fullfilling relationship anyone could ask for... shit, I aint got a life time to look for it. currently, I think Im in a #1 situation. dont get me wrong, shes hot. but I feel I could do better, do I need to... no, I dont think so, its just me being a dick. Shes not my IQ equal (not that I think Im smart) but she can hang "ok" in a conversation. am I the boss, without question, which is the way I like it. I think this 50/50 thing is bullshit. I can never, NEVER be a 50/50 relationship. 51/49, yes... and thats the way it should be. For a male, #1, optimum. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 291 |
All relationships suck. Women suck ass too. I only found one girl and she was the bomb. My dumb ass gave her up because I was selfish. Now Im suffering the consequences. So when you do find that someone that treats you good, dont take it for granted. Nick | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 1784 |
QUIT BEING SO POOPY BIGNICK! REM. THERE ARE ALWAYS MORE FISH IN THE SEA! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 210 |
Thats why i go for thin ugly girls ------------------  | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
Gilbyag makes some good points, I spent eleven years in #2 and it ended in divorce. Now I'm in #1 and although I'll probably always be "looking"......I can appreciate running the show so to speak. delts ------------------ | ||
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Guru 
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well, let me say this... AT LEAST YOU GUYS ARENT TURNING YOUR BACK ON NUMBER #3. like me. i have decided to return to michigan after 9 months in nashville. i was only happy in one aspect of life there, and that was my relationship with djane. and i am truley happy with her. however, nashville is not for me. the people are different and the job market is rather shitty. i need more, and want more, and deserve more. hopefully in the end all will work out, but who knows... | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
Madbomber......can you convince her to relocate?
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 103 |
If you were in a relationship with the only person that you truly loved but weren't really happy with them. Just the little things that you think were important were really missing from the relationship would you stay in it? My girlfriend is young, 18 and right now we are very far from each other, but she is trying to wait for me. Some of the things that bother me about her, I believe are age related. This distance is extrememly hard on us. I am not happy. She is really disapointing me. I'm not sure if its the distance playing tricks on my mind or what. Right now she is in relationship #1, and I feel she is taking advantage of me, although things are not so when were together. I could'nt picture myself with anyone else, but the way things are right now, I am in doubt that I will be happy with her. Do you think this shit is playing tricks on me?? I know some of this is that I'm jealous(sp) that she is living her life while I'm stuck here in Bosnia and have no life. I know its tough with me not being there, but I'm doing every thing I can to keep her ass happy. Mighty dog I agree FTW!!!! AAAAHHHH!!!!! ------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice 
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yea i had a girl she was the shit, ditched her and now havnt met anyone close to her. So my advice is to anyone dont fuk up a good thing | ||
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Moderator
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Delts, You're oversimplfying. There is much more to it than that. All healthy relationships are not always #3. Relationships go in cycles - ups and downs and each person has to give a lot to it, or it dies. (You know this) All relationships cannot be categorized in 3 paragraphs. Physical attraction - even to model-type girls - fades as the relationship goes. Yes - you see her and you think "she's hot" but after you've been together a year it is way less important. My last girlfriend was absolutely beautiful and after we were tigether a while, that had absolutely nothing to do with why I was with her. That whole premise about #2 "worshipping her" is invalid in almost all relationships of any length of time greater than a month. A girl will quickly see that her boyfriend lacks confidence, and almost every girl I know desires a confident guy. (As I want a confident and secure girl). Realtionships are dynamic. Your analysis is static. | ||
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Moderator
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Matt, Just let it go for a little while and relax. You have way too much hostility inside of you. Less test and more Deca will make you a happy camper [This message has been edited by 2Thick (edited November 26, 2000).] | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
2Thick.....good to hear from you brother....lol. Matt, you make good sense, but the truth is in relationships.....that it's all about control. The 50/50 thing is nearly just a hoax in my opinion. As I said, I spent eleven years in #2, mostly for the children and hoping things would "work out". Granted....there is alot more to relationships than what I've listed here, but there's been a great deal of good conversation posted here. So it looks like I've got at least a few people thinking. Thanks for the responses brothers. delts ------------------ | ||
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Freak
Posts: 1777 |
You forgot Love slave! How can you forget love slave!? ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
Wodin.....the love slave is in #1 for sure, and possibly in #3. But you do make a good point, and that's one reason for a high rate of infidelity these days. Most often the lady you "love" may fulfill the heartfelt part of the relationship.....yet probably misses the mark as far as "completely satisfying" your sexual requirements. As males we appreciate a lover and a "monogamous" slut wrapped up in one. And this is based on the fact that....once again....a man likes the control issue. It's as much of a turn on as the act itself. delts ------------------ | ||
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Guru
Posts: 2274 |
delts, i believe it was you who asked if i could convince her to relocate.... i shouldnt have to. if she wants to, then she is free to do so, and obviously if she does then maybe future steps will be taken. but i knew ahead of time she wanted to stay near her family, and as soon as i got my feet wet down here i knew i wasnt meant to be in nashville... by the way, i hope the eagles beat the shit out of the titans next week so these old whores i work with dont talk shit... i cant stand bitches talking football. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 541 |
I hear ya madbomber.....just thinking about the possible options bro. I do agree about the women football fans sometimes.....my brother's wife talks like she knows it all. Too funny. delts ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 995 |
How about just a cool chick that accepts a brothers choices. |
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