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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 919 |
Tonight, my ex-gf (with whom I still live untilo 11/2) decided that she'd like to take a nose-dive off our 5-story apartment bldg. Cops and Fire Dept. convinced her otherwise and have escorted her to a hospital. We broke up about a month ago, and she has been having trouble with that. Says that I am the best thing that ever happened to her and that she doesn't want to live without me. I never thought it would come to this. I didn't really think she'd jump, but I couldn't take that chance. This is all so weird. This morning, I bought a gun lock so that she couldn't ever have access to my pistol when I wasn't around. She was smart enough to know that my .22 rifle very likely wouldn't do the job. So I must have known that something was up. Four cops had to truck her away forceably. I have this vague sense that I should feel guilty, but I don't. We broke up because she couldn't be there for me emotionally or physically, and we had been trying to deal with that, and she acknowledgdes that she was pushing me away. So now she feels like a fuck-up. This is kind of surreal. Do I call her family? Her friends? My friends? My gf? Do I go to sleep? To work? I'm gonna play solitaire and go to sleep and go to work. She is going to be admitted and observed for the next 72 hrs. She is safe, she is an adult, and she can decide what she wants to have happen from here. Peace out y'all, and don't do anything stupid. ------------------     | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 171 |
Damn bro, that's some fucked up shit. But in all honesty if she was gonna do it, she would have. I do think that she needs help regardless. I would at least call her family and tell them about the incident if they don't already know. Good luck, I've dealt with crazy women before and it's no fun. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 701 |
That's a wild situation you've gone through.....I agree w/ YAKUZA. I think at least her family needs to know about her situation. They would probably be upset if they found out later. I know I'd want to know if a relative of mine went through something such as this....good luck to you. ------------------ | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 1835 |
damn- what's it like to know you inspire such madness?...you should tell her folks for sure...and move the fuck out my man...that can't be healthy... | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 66 |
The attempt was a cry for help. If you are any kind of a man you will help her. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 919 |
Well, the hospital released her a couple of hours later, because they could not hold her against her will. To tell the truth, 8pack, I am a hell of a man. But when she tells me that the only thing that she wants to live for is to get back with me, I cannot give her what she wants. I can help to find assistance, but if she doesn't take steps to help herself I cannot do it for her. She has not even told her folks that she suffers from depression and does not want them to know. Do I disregard this wish and call her folks and tell them? Would she see that as betrayal and feel even more motivated to kill herself? I don't know. She seems to be using the suicide threat as emotional blackmail. I will not placate her by lying to her. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 71 |
Don't let her use you...her problem is with herself, not you. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 919 |
I feel I do need to be there for her, as soemone who does care about her, but not as a lover. I will help her as best I can, as someone who loves her, while also trying not to give the impression that I am still in love with her. I've had some dark days myself, and friends helped to pull me through. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1082 |
I would offer to help her in any way possible and be there if she needs it, but it does sound like she is trying to get back at you and wants you to feel responsible for her problems. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 733 |
why are you even still living together after the relationship has ended, that is the unhealthiest thing I have ever heard of. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 919 |
She couldn't afford to move right away, so she's been saving money for deposit for a new apartment. I thought that was the decent thing to do. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 259 |
bro she needs someone to fill her life ! introduce her to some new friends ppl ! was she drunk/high ???? she needs to feel loved and that someone cares about her ! i think u started to meet a new gf ?? maybe thats the reason ? she wanted to grab ur attention ! | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 336 |
Yet another reason not to move in with someone until you really know them or are married. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 530 |
MAN MY GF OF 5 YEARS(WHO CHEATED ON ME WHEN WE LIVED TOGETHER,I HAD TO MOVE BACK HOME)I KNOW I WAS NOT THE PERFECT BF,BUT I LOVE HER AND CARE ABOUT HER.BUT SOMETIMES WHEN I BRING UP THE PAST OR MAKE A MISTAKE OR IF SHES DEPRESSED SHE SOMETIMES SAYS THAT SHE WANTS TO DIE AND KILL HERSELF AND IT SUCKS CAUSE OUR FRIEND HUNG HIMSELF ALMOST 2 YEARS AGO.YOU HAVE TO BE THERE FOR HER.I COULD NOT IMAGIN WHAT I WOULD DO IF I LOST HER CAUSE OF THAT. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 919 |
She is asking me not to tell anyone, but I'm about to gop on vacation this weekend, and think that someone besides me needs to know that she is currently in a very bad place. I have told her closest friend, via email, what she has been going through. I feel as though I have betrayed her, but I would ghate myself if she did anything foolish that I could have helped to prevent. I feel guilty, but also feel that I did the right thing. I think it is selfish of her to try to leave me as the only one with the responsibility to watch her. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 919 |
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