So, I met this chick on the Net (something I've never done before), through a free online dating service with questionaires, etc.
We exchanged email for about a month, then spoke on the phone. A couipla weeks later we met in person. She is cute, about 2 years older than me and a single mom (I have a son who lives on teh other side of the country with his mom.).
We get along very well, and the sex is very good. We talk alot an dseem to have similar outlooks and goals. Her son is adorable and likes me alot.
So what's my question? I'll tell ya...
In the past I have more than a few superficial relationships because I will fall for a chick by looks, and if teh sex is very good, we'll end up hooking up. Almost invariably, after 6 mos. or so, I would find that the chick was not my intellectual equal, or just that she drove me up a frickin' wall. So this time I wanted to remove looks from teh equation, and try to meet a woman that I got along with, intelligent, and whom I like to talk to. Well, it turned out that she is also cute. Not gorgeous, but cute. (Well, as you can see from my posted pic, I'm no male model myself.)
My question is, now that I've found a woman taht meets so many requirements, should I be worried that there are no "fireworks"? The passion is there, and I like spending time with her , talking to her, and sleeping with her. But I haven't fallen head over heels.
In past relationships, I would be utterly tormented with obsession and passion, sleepless nights, etc. Seems unhealthy in retrospect, but it's what I'm used to.
This new relationship seems healthier, but different.
Does anyone know what I mean?

Some will call me a jerk, but I find most of the girls I date are not my intellectual equal in about 5 minutes. Doesn't mean we can't go out or have sex, but it means no lasting relationship will develop.

As for falling head over heels - that usually happens when you meet someone who is - more than anything else - fun to be around. So you start to tell yourself how great she is and soon you go nuts.

The thing is, time usually reveals that you were only making her into something she was not, to justify your behavior. This person for whom you were crazy will usually reveal that they are fun but not anything more, and the relationship goes away.

By your own admission, you have met someone cute who you like talking to, spending time with, and sleeping with.

Pat yourself on the back, and enjoy it.