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 Hacked off bigtime
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 109 |
This is kinda long so if you don't read it no biggy, just needed to unload. I'll give you the brief version of this story to spare the boredom. 18 years ago I started dating my ex-wife, and as we continued to date I found out about an ex-boyfriend of hers that even knowing I and my girlfriend were getting married continued to secretely write love poems and songs and crap to her, but not send them. And then on our wedding night he threatened to kill me if I hurt her, (which of course I would never do) I had enlisted in the Marines and was sent to Okinawa where I brought my wife and child so that we could be together. During our time overseas, her ex got divorced with his ex claiming he was cheating on her with my wife. Move up a few more years. I started attending college to earn my degree in Engineering, when things started to unravel. She started freaking out, pulling her hair out, throwing things at me and such. Well as time went on I had got my dream shot, I was going to OCS in the Marines to be a pilot, half way through, I decided that my wife and family (now two daughters) was more important than my commission. So I quit the Marines to be with them. A few months later, she left me and went back to live with her parents. Every time I tried to get her to come back she always had the excuse of "I already made plans for this weekend, maybe next weekend." Come to find out she had started hanging around her ex-boyfriend Well, after almost 4 months of trying to get her back I gave up and decided to get on with my life. Move ahead a few more years, it is now Desert Shield time and I have reenlisted in the Marines, In a nutshell she used that to prevent me from seeing my kids by moving to Seattle Wa. With the little salary we were paid and with what I was sending her, she and her new husband (the ex boyfriend) new I would not be able to see the kids. After a year and half of that they forced me into allowing him to adopt my daughters (now three) under the pretense of an open adoption, that still allowed me visitation. Well, guess what they lied about that too. Present, it has been ten years now since then and they still refuse to live up to there promise. In fact in a letter I just recieved from him, he stated the only reason I want to see the kids is purely a selfish one to satisfy my curiosity, it goes on and on like that, which lead me to understand that the reason he nor she wants me to see the kids is that they have brain washed them into hating me by the lies they have continually told them over the years. So, now I am getting a lawyer and playing the long shot in getting some visitation.
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Novice 
Posts: 10 |
Chesty - wow! Sorry to hear that. You gotta for yourself see this one out. Hope all goes well. Cleaner | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 31 |
Chesty, your situation is bad, and I feel for you. One piece of advice: do not give up. My Dad gave up after my mom and her second husband screwed him over, and I resent teh hell out of him for that. He got discouraged and stopped trying, and my stepdad was an asshole. My stepdad adopted me, so his sorry-ass name is on my birth certificate, so future generations will think that he's my biological father. 1.) Do not give up teh fight. I met my biological father 20 years later, and he had no canceled checks, just a lame excuse that my mom wouldn't accept his money. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 71 |
Fuck that, that shit pisses me off. I hate to say it but thats how things are now adays.. You get married and it isnt for ever, people marry on whims and crushes. I am young (23) I have learned to distance myself somewhat from all my love intrests, I have a wonderful girlfriend that I love, but in the back of my head - I am ready for the other shoe to drop. Some Women constantly think the grass is always greener, and they have the romantic view of long lost loves, and shit. Of course they arent't doing anything wrong because "Im just following my heart" thats typical. I dont follow my dick everywhere (someplaces yes, everywhere no). Long story short, sorry about that situation brother, I know your not looking for anything just wanted to vent, but gaddamn thats some shit - given up a career move to put your priorities first and then they take off on you. Keep your head up, you sound like you handiling it healthly. Slopain | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 350 |
I agree with the weapon bro. My wife missed out on her biological father for about 10 years and she was very upset about it. Fight for your rights man. On a side note my wife and her father now have a really great relationship, so things do have a way of working themselves out bro. Hang tuff man. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 109 |
Thanks alot all of you, I sometimes do want to give up, but I can't. I have been patient in letting the kids adjust to the situation, but damn it has been ten years. The only thing that keeps me going is my daughters and two sons. And if it had not been for my two sons, I would have given up on... well let's just say I would not have made it to Valhalla.
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Cool Novice
Posts: 31 |
Hang in there, Chesty. Be a good man. I know enough now to see how my Dad got screwed over. Your kids may have troubles dealing with the situation, and someday, it may manifest as anger towards you, but if you show yourself to be an honorable, trsutworthy, and loving man, they will realize things as they mature that they can't realize when they are teens. When my son is in his teens, I am anticpating him having trouble understanding why his mom and I split up, but I hoep that as he matures he'll see me for what I am, and respect me as long as I earn that respect. |
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