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 How Do You Know........
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Elite Bodybuilder 
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When to let someone go? I am asking EVERYONE HERE this question right now. so, how do you know that it is time to leave someone?, and how do you know it won't be the biggest mistake of your life? Like how many people say, "damn I should have never left her/him, they were the best thing that ever happened to me." I do not want to be one of these people, so help me out here.     | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 59 |
You know when you post a question like you did. Let the bastard go, move on. Case Closed. ------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 12 |
When pain > the good. Or if they have done things that will haunt you forever and everytime you look at them you think about that 'thing they did'. If you cant picture her (in my case) as the mother of your children. I always do this test, if they fail they may not get 'released' but I at least know what the relationship is all about. Slopain | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 808 |
My first true whatever you wanna call it lasted four years. That girl put me thru more Hell than one person should ever deserve in a lifetime. For some ungodly reason, I just kept trying to make things better. Finally one night after I found out she was fucking around on me again, and ended up getting in a fight with the prick and two of his friends, I said enough. It just clicked. I thought, why the fuck am I doing this to myself and making myself this unhappy. I packed up a U-Haul the next day, shed a tear or two, and have never looked back. God I wish I would have done that a long time before, but you just gotta wait until you know it inside for yourself! If you are already asking questions like this, its time to move on Dlady! ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 87 |
Dlady, If you have these thoughts something is not right. And if you leave them and it hurts that does not mean it is not the right thing to do. If you love someone let them go. If they come back to you then it was meant to be!! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 288 |
Ask Dwayne Bobbit I'm sure HE would have a real good answer to this question. OR If you see her actually fucking another guy, its over. If she throws all your shit out onto the street, its over. If she comes at you with a semiautomatic weapon screaming die fucker! Its over. If she goes down on your best friend during a ball game at your place, its over. These are just a few examples of how to tell when things are over.... ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 426 |
When I bust a nut, it's over. J/K DLADY, I think we all came to the conclusion that you should have left him long ago. Whne someone threatens you, that should be a sign. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 875 |
I know when by the fact: If I enjoy the time away from this person as opposed to being with this person, its time to call it quits. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 375 |
i agree with slopain. being in a relationship should make you happy. we all get into fights, but when the fights are constant and you are miserable most of the time - i'd say you'd be better off alone. you partner should make you grow, make you feel good about yourself and respect you. you, in turn, should do the same. if you are bringing each other down constantly it's not a good sign. don't try to force things to work out. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 875 |
...After all is said...Another reason why I'm glad I'm single and going to stay that way. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 357 |
I agree w/ Slopain01 - when the pain > the good. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1458 |
MD, I think your first one was the best here, thank you. But now that I have told him i am with another guy and have been for 2 months and no longer want to see him. Why do I feel hurt and have that pain in the abdomen? Could it be because this hits close to home, cause I was hurt by someone i really loved before? And I know how he may feel right now...I just have all these thoughts and feelings running thru me right now. At the same time I feel completely empty inside. I feel like the world's coldest bitch. Not to mention I took the easy way out and said it over the phone to him, and told him to PLEASE not contact me. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 288 |
Dlady in all seriousness, if you aren't getting what you need from a relationship then move on. Life has alot to offer, don't look at this as the end of something, look at it as a learning experience that you can use in the future. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1458 |
WODIN, I know that I have moved on, I know this because for the past 2 months I haven't been with him, I have been with someone else, this other man in my life I can go do ANYTHING with and we have fun together, by ourselves. Where as with the ex I could not, if we were alone all we did was fight and argue all the time. I just sit here now and shead a few tears as all the memories go rushing through my head and I feel really bad because I know how much i just hurt him. Thanks for being here right now guys, i just need to let this stuff out cause I have no one else to tell. Can't trust my friends here in PA. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 875 |
Emotional pain is residual, it takes time. You must of had some good times too so you will experience some loneliness. I would not suggest that since you feel a certain way that he does too though its easy to use what is known as transference after a significant emotional event. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 59 |
D , those feeling in your abdomen that you speak of are natural and are going to occur, hell you spent and dedicated alot of time and feelings into this whole thing, its impossible for you to not feel that way, your going to miss anything you have been around for a certain period of time whether its a dog, cat, human or llama. Its simple  oubt doesnt exist in True Love, doubt is not part of that equation, stop sacrificing your feelings, move on, if anything is meant to be it will happen, if not then it wont. Oh and my ganja would------------------ | ||
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Cool Novice
Posts: 34 |
if she wont fuck your best friend and wont let you take pics of it , THEN IT,S OVER. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 312 |
hey, you hurt cause what you did was wrong...also, this guy you are into slept with you while you had a sig other and did not mind...shows his morals.. being brutal but honest...I been where you are...this one will fail eventually...good luck. |
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