Here we go again, in this tiresome drama. This post is pretty much pointless but I need a bit of enlightenment on a subject that puzzles me.

This girl that I like, (YEAH, THAT ONE) said that she would literally probably be willing to leave her current BF (who she says she loves,) and who honestly does care for her immensley, if a 'baller' was to come along and sweep her off her feet.

She said, and I quote, "I would be somebody's bitch, if they would buy me whatever I wanted."

In return I said, "So basically, your aspiration in life is to be a hoe."

She somewhat agreed. Now this of course caused me to lose a great deal of respect for her, because hurting her BF to cum my way is one thing since we're both strongly attracted to one another, but leaving him for something that empty is another.

This tears at me because she is soooooo sweet and innocent on the outside. She's got a great disposition and seems so nice. It's like she has 2 different personalities. I don't understand. I cannot accept that she is basically a worthless whore who is 2 steps away from becoming a full blown prostitute. Remember, this is the (1st) girl that I LOVE!

I've been told I was shallow because of how much I care about looks. But this to me seems to be the ultimate form of substance-less. I kind of feel sorry for her BF now. I knew from the start that if we ever got together the she would end up cheating on me, but this is ridiculous.

You are going through shit you have never gone through before, this is new to you, give yourself a couple of years to grow and learn in this particular aspect of your life, trial and error, I will say it again , trial and error. With the knowledge and experience you will have in two years, it will make this situation look insulting to you because of how you will grow mentally.

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SEEK OUT KNOWLEDGE, WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING: MY THOUGHTS ARE UNIVERSES...

A. She's fucking with you. She's got a boyfriend yet she's chillin with you behind his back. If she were to drop her bf and get with you, in all likelihood she's gonna do the same shit to you. We all think "she'll be different with me" but guess what...NOPE.
B. She wants to a stripper. Do you really want the person you love showing her tits to every single dude that rolls into the tity bar? Just the simple fact that she would consider dancing would make me bail immediately.
C. Now she admits to you that she would ditch her bf if some loaded dude picked her up and took care of her. If A and B didn't run you off first, this one should've convinced you.

You're a level headed dude and I realize you think you love this girl but she's taking you for a ride. And granted this is advice and nobody takes people's advice and you're gonna do what you want, I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in. This girl has too much baggage.

AND as always in any scenario, if you really want this girl that badly, treat her like fucking shit and ignore her and you will have her wrapped around your finger in no time.

Drop this fucking chick. She is a whore. I know it hurts to hear that, but wake the fuck up man.

Lose the emotions you have for her because the longer you have them, the more hurt you will end up. Take this bitch for a ride. Fuck the shit out of her and fucking drop her.

'Cause that's all she's worth.

Cleaner and the others have all made very good points.

It seems to me that you are seeign her as something she is not. You love her, so you want her to have higher goals than things and whatever else, but in REALITY, she doesn't have any greater goals now. You want to see her a s a potentially great girlfriend, but REALITY is that she is seeign someone and spending time with you, etc. It seems like you are wanting her for POTENTIAL and not who she is today.

Look, I've made myself crazy for a girl before - done a lot of the same things you are - so I know that it is not easy to deal with.

It's easy for the bros here to tell you to dump her, but when you are emotionally attached it can be tough.

I think that I will do my best to drop this issue with her, and more importantly, with myself. It's obvious to me, no matter how much I don't want to admit it, that this won't work.

Matt: You made me see what I wasn't seeing bro. I DO want her to be something so much better than she is/will be. Apparently, she feels otherwise.

I don't think I can just say, 'Ok, I don't love her anymore.' and be over it like that, but I CAN stop pursuing the issue, which is stagnating.

how do you really know that you love her as opposed to being really infatuated with her or the idea of being with her. to me i just can't understand how someone can love a girl w/o having a relatinship with her. "love" is a strong word to use.

and i know how it is to lose a girl that you care about... not a day goes by that i don't think about the girl that i let get away...

You are correct in what I'm sure you expected to be my answer about being in love before, no I have not. So it is definitely possible that I don't even know what it is.

But I'll tell you this: I have never felt so strongly about a girl no matter what for so long, and I'm attracted to her in a way that I cannot describe. It is sexual, but that's only a part of it. Nothing would makes me happier then just holding her hand or listening to her voice.

Lust is mostly focused around sex right?

Anyway, it's all irrelevant, because as sick of this topic as you all are, this will be my last post on it unless something really significant happens between us. I just don't know where else to turn for advice, my peers are not the best source, you people are.

You can't just forget her in a day. If anyone is telling you that you can, they are misleading you.

Don't try to replace her with someone else either. Not possible. Instead, go out with other people and lead a normal active social life, which will help, as opposed to being miserable constantly.

Hang in there.