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 Having to tell a husband that his wife died
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Pro Bodybuilder 
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The other night at work a patient of mine suffred a cardiac arrest and despite a full code being called on her(CPR for 20 minutes and multiple rounds of drugs to get the heart beating again) she failed to develop a heartbeat and was pronounced dead. She was a frail little 75 year old,85 lb lady who was in very poor health. I have done CPR 6 times and all six have died. This one was different. I never really thought about the person while I was doing CPR before I almost looked at the person as if they were the mannequin that I learned on. This was different. I looked at her lifeless eyes and saw a person. I thought about her husband who was extremely attatched to her and would be lost without her. I became really sad because I knew the code was just a formality-she was dead, and nothing was going to bring her back. Still things like this were not new to me. If you are going to be in a profession like this then you need to learn to cope and accpet things like this happening. All my training and knowledge from a book could not prepare me for what I had to do. It is protocol that when a person dies in the hospital that we do not tell the next of kin over the phone that they passed away. We just tell them that they need to come in quickly. I felt so bad-like I was hiding something from this poor little man. I led him into her room unable to look him in the eyes-almost as if I were lying to him. He saw his wife and still thoght she was alive and I had to tell him that his wife of over 50 years was gone. He cried uncontrollably-I stood there with him and my heart felt like it dropped out of my chest and onto the floor. It is something hard to describe terrible to feel. ------------------     | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 725 |
Thats something real hard to handle. I don't think its something that I could handle at all. You must encounter stuff like this all the time. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 151 |
good grief man i feel for ya the weights must be a great outlet for you | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 740 |
My worst day at work would never match that heartbreak...I always admire people in your profession. You deal with life and death on a day to day basis like no others. Do you find it makes you live your own life a bit better? ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 196 |
Bro, I feel for ya...I rode for a Heavy Rescue squad for 5 years. I have done CPR atleast 300 times of which one lived for a few more hours. I have seen it all and it is not an easy thing to deal with. I'm only 26 and some of the shit I have seen I will never forget. But, think of all the people you did help. The small child that broke his arm when he got hit by the car. Going to schools and doing demonstrations, things like that. This has helped me and I can tell you, for me when that pager went off, I was a machine. I had no heart, no feelings and no emotions. You have to, it's a job and must be done right without hesitation or someone's life maybe lost. All I can say is I understand. Been there and done that. If you have a problem, there are many groups for this that work great for some. If you need to talk or a shoulder, we are here.. Hack ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 398 |
Sky- Things like that just remind me of my own mortality.When you are younger death seems like an eternity away. Like a destination that will never be reached. The other day kind of showed me that you should get all that you want out of life-and not to leave this earth with an agenda of words left unsaid and things left undone. ------------------ |
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