posted August 12, 2000 07:05 PM            

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Here is my situation. For approximately the last 9 months I have been training w/ my friend for his bodybuilding show. We seemed to be good partners, our strength is comperable our body types are a little different, but we both enjoyed training intensely, and I used to work at the gym we trained at. Here is where things begin to go bad. I switched my gym location to possibly better my standard of living. The problem being I drastically had to change my hours. However I still found time to work w/ my partner 2-3 times a week. About 6 weeks prior to the show I was asking my friend if he wanted me to start making reservations for rooms for the show and what not. He told me not to worry about, he said he would take care of me cause I was a good partner.
Now about to weeks before the competition my sister began having some problems w/ her house, and needed my help. So therefore the workouts had to suffer. But I kept in contact w/ my partner the whole time.
Well the day before the show I get a call, my training partner calls me a lets me know I do not have a room to stay in. Well actually I do I would have to share a room with My partner, his girlfriend, my partnes friend, his girlfriend, his other friend and his friends father.
Now I don't know about any one else on the board but that whole set up sounded a uncomfortable to me. So I ended up not going to the show. Me this guys partner and friend for nine months. So I politely decline to go, and wish my partner the best. Now here is the kicker. I don't even get so much as a phone call after the show. Needless to say I am a little confused, and pissed off to say the least. Am I wrong to feel this way, or are these friends not even worth worryimg about?
Thank you all for allowing me this time to vent.

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posted August 12, 2000 08:29 PM            

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wow, tough situation. not really one you need to trouble yourself too much over. you did as much as you could for him to prepare. he has to understand that you had family to help too. if he is "punishing" you for helping someone other than him, all you have to do is back away for a while. he will realize, "damn we had some good workouts" and may give you a call. also he may not have called after the show because, face it, those diets and preparations take alot out of you.
may be just a miscommunication between you both. pride has a way of working its way in and hushing people. one possibility is that he feels you may be pissed cause of the room thing. best bet if you want to continue to be friends/partners is to just call him up and act like nothing has happened. if he sees that you arent miffed, he may take that as a means of saving face and just try to pick up where things left off.
i admit that is messed up about the room etc. if need be you two can hash it out and see where the misunderstanding lies.
damn i wrote a book on this...hope that helps. good luck.

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posted August 12, 2000 08:31 PM            

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no.

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posted August 12, 2000 08:36 PM            

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At the end of your post you asked "are these friends even worth worrying about?", it should of read "are these acquaintances even worth worrying about?" No they are not even worth one of your thoughts, you handled the situation with maturity and professionalism, dont worry, you are not wrong.

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posted August 12, 2000 09:30 PM            

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bro im sorry but that is blatent attempt to disrespect you ..after all you did for him..he has the audacity to do that to you ..fuck him...dont give him a secong thought

peace romeo

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posted August 13, 2000 12:30 AM         

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never trust anyone except your wife, and never rely on anybody except your wife!!!!!!!

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posted August 13, 2000 12:59 AM            

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Sounds tough bro. He sounds like he might not have enough to be greatfull about.
Do not worry, it was for the best.

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posted August 13, 2000 01:25 AM            

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People are ungrateful man. I know what ya mean, but I was never dicked over that bad before. I filled in for a kid on my boys hockey team cause the coach was short on players. I go and play, check the shit out of anyone and everyone that tried to get by me and played my ass off. I got a thanx from my friend and his dad the asst. coach. The head coach pretty much blamed the loss on me. I wanted to hit him so bad.

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posted August 13, 2000 01:46 PM            

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Thank you to everyone who took the time to read and respond to my post. I hate to push my problems on other people but this situation was really starting to get to me. Once again thank you all.

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posted August 13, 2000 11:23 PM            

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bro my guess is that you looked better and this friend got jealous of you beating him. I am just telling you this because if I had a frien in the same contest and he looked better and if I were an ass which I am not but if I was then asked to get arrange ments for him then I would skrew him over. but if it were the real me I would accept what i have and continue with my friend by my side.I think posing with a friend would pump me up and I could do a lot better.

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