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YellowD98 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 497) |
posted August 10, 2000 02:35 PM
 
Here's how it is. I've been dating this wonderful girl for 2 years already. We've been really close up until about early this year and around the beginning of the summer. For some reason, I just don't want to spend time with her very much. In fact, I can barely stand her. All those things that you never really care about when you first start dating someone, are getting on my nerves. She's constantly asking where I am, who Im with, and why Im not with her. A lot of times, I tell her Im just too tired or busy to see her when I really just don't want to see her. Recently, she's been asking a lot of questions as to whether I really want to be with her still or not, and frankly, Im not too sure. We used to make plans together about getting married after graduating college and all, and a few months ago, I was absolutely sure. Now I tell her "we'll see" or "thats still a long time away". Its almost as if our relationship is on cruise control now. I know what she is going to ask me, and she knows exactly what Im going to say. Nothing new ever happens, and we never talk about anything interesting. She's a below average student in a community college and Im an honors student at a major university. I want to talk about interesting things in the world, she wants to talk about stupid stuff like her friends at school or whether or not I like her hair. I can't stand even talking to her on the phone. I know this sounds very bad of me, but I can't help it. I wish I never felt this way, so it wouldn't be so hard to make a decision. But she has been nothing but wonderful to me, maybe too wonderful. Maybe its my fear of loneliness that keeps me clung to her and carrying on this monotonous relationship. I would love to date other people, but It would kill me if I ever hurt her. This probably sounds very cheesey, and there is no sense in me posting this on the internet, but thats how empty I feel inside right now. Most of my friends tell me that I should let her go, etc. but I was hoping for some objective opinions. Life is too difficult to live sometimes. IP: Logged |
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Thick dog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1563) |
posted August 10, 2000 02:41 PM
Honsety. Just sit down and tell her how you feel. If you are not happy, you need to tell her. You don't want to waste a couple more years just being polite. If you act disinterested, she may sense something is wrong, but you are probably better off telling her. IP: Logged |
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FreakMonster Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 95) |
posted August 10, 2000 02:49 PM
If you feel like that you definitely need to move on. Of course it's gonna be hard because your used to having that security blanket there all the time. I was in the same exact situation you were in and me and my ex broke up several times and before we could end it for good. It's hard to let go of someone you care but trust me you'll be happier once you start dating around. There are many fish in the sea!!!! Girls are a dime a dozen!!!! IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 646) |
posted August 10, 2000 02:54 PM
Sounds to me like you've answered your own question... ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Superstar2b Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 36) |
posted August 10, 2000 04:20 PM
It is a tough decision but its one you have to make. First you need to tell her what you're feeling and what's disturbing you in the relationship lately. If you just break up with her she will not understand & if she's as hooked into you as it sounds, she'll probably turn obsessive. Maybe you both just need a break from each other. Has she noticed anything wrong with you or the relationship? If not, its time to be honest and open her eyes. It seems like you're headed off in a good direction with a career but she seems to be lagging - are you guys looking to go down the same road in the future? If not, why continue wasting each of your lives? You don't need to cut off contact with her but I think you should switch your status and be friends with this girl. Sounds like you are already ready to go onto seeing other people - don't worry about her hurt feelings, she would be worse off if you continue to live in this lie. Good luck with whatever you decide! IP: Logged |
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kram696969 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 517) |
posted August 11, 2000 12:23 AM
if you dont change your feelings towards her SOON it is obviously going to not work..and the sooner it is over,the soon you can get over it and her also. so..think about it, then act on it. be honest. kram-mark IP: Logged |
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