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BigGuns2 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 162) |
posted August 09, 2000 02:29 PM
  
I need some advice and thought why not ask my elite fitness brothers and sisters. There is this girl that I have liked for a long time. She just recently broke off a 6 year relationship. I want to start dating her, but I'm sure she needs time to herself after being with someone for that long. We have already done some things together, but just as friends. I want to let her know how I feel, but I don't know how much time she needs before she will be ready to date again, and I don't want to scare her off. IP: Logged |
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special_bill Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 348) |
posted August 09, 2000 02:35 PM
thats a tough one....i would say go for it and express yourself....the reason being if you "give her time" there is the possibility that she'll meet someone else and you will go crazy with regret...of course she is very vulnerable right now and is used to having kinky intimate sex with her ex...i mean freaky-zoo sex, sex you cant even imagine with thick dogs mind, the sex born out of monotonous necessity....she is probably willing to do things you only hear about from seasoned prostitutes in amsterdam...but anyway, best of luck... IP: Logged |
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Vanguard Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 186) |
posted August 09, 2000 02:36 PM
Go out, have some drinks, get her back to your place and that rebound thing will kick in and shell be real easy. If you start getting emotional about which is what it sounds like your fucked. IP: Logged |
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Thick dog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1525) |
posted August 09, 2000 02:41 PM
She will probably need time, so keep being a friend to her. On the the other hand, I have also seen girls who are anxious to date other people after breaking it off with someone. Whenever she says something about her ex that she didn't like, try and show her that you would or will do the opposite. At the risk of sounding like a scumbag, you should also try and be present at times in which she will be vulnerable, such as when she is drunk. IP: Logged |
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Fitnes1 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 191) |
posted August 09, 2000 02:43 PM
Be honest & up-front with her. Don't overwhelm her, but you could let her know that you enjoy being with her & enjoy the times you spend together. She'll appreciate your honesty! Good luck! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Rotten Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 301) |
posted August 09, 2000 03:05 PM
Yeah, I agree. Be a friend to her. Let her make all the moves, so if things do happen then its her choice and you were just being a friend instead of taking advantage of her. IP: Logged |
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BigTruck Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 234) |
posted August 09, 2000 03:20 PM
6 years is a long time. She definitely needs time off. If you get in now, you're going to be the "rebound guy" (which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but means it probably won't last). I'd hold off awhile, but be prepared to see her go out with other guys in the interim. The key is being the guy right after the rebound guy. One caveat: if she didn't love the dude and was just in the relationship for convienience (say, for at least the last 6 mos to year), then what I said above is null and void. In that case, go for it! IP: Logged |
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 03:22 PM
time, time, time IP: Logged |
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BigGuns2 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 162) |
posted August 09, 2000 04:10 PM
Thanks Guys and Girls. I knew I would get good advice here. IP: Logged |
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seeseerider Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 114) |
posted August 09, 2000 07:59 PM
follow fitnes1 advice you cant go wrong!!! IP: Logged |
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Checkmatebloated Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 824) |
posted August 09, 2000 08:12 PM
Give is to much time and I'll be phuking her on the rebound!!!~ Let you intentions be know, but say you want to give her all the time in the world to figure out what she want. If you don't let her know what your feelings are, I'm going to get to phuk her! Then she will be lost for who knows how long. You got to talk. i do not agree with being silent. IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 08:17 PM
I would keep things quiet and then work up to telling her. I got into a relationship with a girl that was dating a guy for a long time. We got together to quickly and spent four years together, almost got married and then split up...I have heard it takes half the time of your relationship to heal a broken heart. I was with her for almost four years and I've been single for over a year and still have no desire to have my heart broken again.. She was my world.... Think about it bro and take your time
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 08:31 PM
I hear ya hack.... so its been a year and you still aren't ready for another relationship? How long does it take? I've had my heart broken more than once but this last time has really did me in, i'm wondering how long it will take me to ever open up to someone again and actually believe in someone. Life sucks sometimes. IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 08:38 PM
MissG, not sure...It's been alittle over a year and I date here and there but they are hard to find the good ones..ya know? I want a beautiful woman that is strong willed, opened minded, inteligent, able to carry on a conversation, and my best friend, I want to be lost in her eyes and her beauty. The simple sight of her smile and that can change my day.. I guess I am asking for alot, but I really am one of those hopeless romantics! Long walks on the beach, flowers for the hell of it, I love to cook, I put the seat down for gods sake!! But, I still can't wait to find this woman!!! Hack IP: Logged |
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 08:52 PM
I dont think your looking for alot. All the things you want are all the things you should want. I wish you luck in finding your special someone. I am a firm believer in "everything happens for a reason" (i keep reminding myself of that now) Sometimes, you don't understand why your going through certain trials, or whatever you want to call them, but later it is more clear. i think it makes us stronger. I'm sure that person is out there for you somewhere, and when the time is right it will happen.  IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:00 PM
Makes me stronger!! lol... I have heard that saying before and I kinda believe it but, at the same time I can say I never got involved in any type of drugs until we splt up...Any thing to make the pain go away Hack IP: Logged |
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:09 PM
I hear ya... i've just drank a half bottle of wine and i'm feelin kina gooooooood  IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:17 PM
God Bless you!! What kind where you drinking? LOL.. I enjoy a good bottle when I'm not training...Going on my 3rd month now and I haven't touched a thing except for the night I went to Katman Du.... Hack IP: Logged |
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Checkmatebloated Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 824) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:22 PM
Bigguns, you better listen to me, because somebody is going to say all the right things before you do and get some of that! IP: Logged |
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:24 PM
its some cheap a$$ beringer white zin, i perfer merlot, but i'm broke now and forgot this has been sittin in my frig since December! At least i'll be able to sleep tonight. I haven't slept through the night since for 4 days now. but tonight i'll sleep like a baby  IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:26 PM
Nothing better than a good buzz, cozy bed and a Meg Ryan movie.... Yes I own almost all of her movies...Let the flaming begin.. Hack IP: Logged |
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Checkmatebloated Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 824) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:31 PM
Hey, quit ripping on cheap wine also! I like Sutter Home and Baringer white zif. IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:33 PM
Sutter Home is not bad, I even like the ghetto 1 gallon bottles-o-wine with some ice cubes... Hack IP: Logged |
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Romeo Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 805) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:34 PM
hey bro ..do what everyone said ..be straight up..but dont make her flip out ...she is probably still hurting
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:38 PM
Talk about Ghetto --- ever had Old English?? ha! that was back in the day. IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:46 PM
LOL...what about King Cobra or MD20/20 IP: Logged |
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:47 PM
Yep i remember md 2020 and cisco IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 09:51 PM
MissG, keep this up and we'll change your name to MissThang... Anyway did you ever figure out your hushmail account problem? Hack IP: Logged |
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missgalaxy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 265) |
posted August 09, 2000 10:01 PM
yeah, it's fixed . i finally remembered the passcode. I've just been so messed up lately i couldn't remember. But its cool now. Victoria Gotti about to be interviewed on TV. CBS this should be good. IP: Logged |
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HackN2it Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 120) |
posted August 09, 2000 10:07 PM
You've got mail....MissG IP: Logged |
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