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Superstar2b Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 28) |
posted August 07, 2000 05:04 PM
  
I moved out to San Francisco from Austin 14 months ago b/c I was offered a great career opportunity with an IPO that I just couldn't pass up. I left my boyfriend, of three years, back there as he was still finishing up college not knowing if the long distance thing would work for the two of us. Well, in January, after eight months of separation (and graduation!!), he moved out here! His main goal, besides to be with me, was to get me to move back to Austin. I've been trying to get my current company to keep me employed and work from Austin but they don't plan on expanding that area so I'm out of luck. So just as I start to look for new employment, which by the way has not been going so great, I find out that my company is possibly going to be bought out! Before finding this out I was just going to leave as soon as I found another job but now I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my options (stocks) and the potential to move into the new company, which is also located in Austin, but my boyfriend is going to leave this month! He's tired of being here and having my job drag on and on and he misses his family and friends as no one else is out here for him but me. Am I being selfish taking my job into consideration first? I've worked so hard for over a year now to get where I am, including money and options, and I just feel it would just amount to a waste of time if I was to go back empty handed and take a job that was less then what I do today. I swore to myself that I would never be apart from my boyfriend again, that eight months was torture for us!, but I just find it so hard to walk away from everything when there could be a big payoff coming soon. So should I leave with him or let him go back to Austin without me, not knowing when I'll be able to get there or see him again? Any advice is appreciated! IP: Logged |
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Rotten Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 248) |
posted August 07, 2000 05:36 PM
He made his choice already, and he made up his mind what his priorities were. He has put his family and friends above you. Where are your priorities? I did what you are thinking about doing, and it was a mistake. Let us know how it turns out IP: Logged |
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Callaway Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 3) |
posted August 07, 2000 06:31 PM
I'm in almost the same situation. Me and my girlfriend got together 3 years ago down in Houston. Six months later she had to move to Boulder, Colorado to go to C/U to get her PhD. It was a tough descision but I decided I wanted to move up with her. Two months later I found job and moved there. Now after two years I can't stand my job and the company isn't doing well so I decided I will move back down to Houston August 14th with my old job back. She will be up here for two more years.I don't know how it's gonna work out. I'm lost right now. She say things will be okay but I don't know. She's Hungarian so she might even move back to her country after school!!! Damn she is the greatest person I've ever had. Oh well..... Sorry for the sob story. Just had to vent. IP: Logged |
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Kaisersosay Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 281) |
posted August 07, 2000 07:16 PM
Well I never realizied how much I love my girlfriend until she told me she needs her space.I 'm going insane and I know she talks to someone else.I have to go see a shrink because my heads so fucked up.Never knew what I had until its gone If you love this person try to think like a team. IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1264) |
posted August 07, 2000 07:22 PM
OBVIOUSLY IF HE DOESNT SEE HOW IMPORTANT YOUR CAREER IS TO YOU ,THEN HE ISNT WORTH HAVING AROUND. YOU CAN MEET NEW PEOPLE EVERYDAY! TELL HIM TO GO HOME WITH OUT YOU CAUSE YOUR JOB IS WHAT MATTERS TO YOU THE MOST RIGHT NOW. AND IT SHOULD BEING THAT HE ISNT MARRIED TO YOU NOR DO THE 2 OF YOU HAVE CHILDREN TOGETHER! GET OUT NOW, AND TRY TO STAY FRIENDS. IP: Logged |
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superdave Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 486) |
posted August 07, 2000 08:56 PM
he cant move out there to try to make you move back. If he moves out to where you are, thats the decision he made for him. You made a decision for you when you moved. He should respect that or move on. IP: Logged |
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