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Superstar2b Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 19) |
posted August 01, 2000 05:15 PM
  
Need some impute here! I moved from Austin, TX to San Francisco a little over a year ago due to a career opportunity. Obviously its worked out great as I've been out here for 14 months now with the company. Problem is my personal life is starting to take a beating & I'm confused as to what to do. My boyfriend of over three years has been the most understanding & supportive guy I know while I've been out here. We spent eight looong months apart, flying back & forth at least once a month to see each other. We finally decided that he would come out here "for a little while" while I tried to find out what was going to happen with the company (as an IPO I didn't know if we would be brought out after our 1st year). So in January he made the venture out, took a part time job at a gym & has been getting more & more miserable everyday. After my year anniversary here I finally made the decision that I would move back to Austin but I wanted to do everything possible to stay with the company (not just b/c I really do like the company but also for my options & salary which I'm afraid I'm not going to get in Austin). This search for another opportunity with my company started at the end of May..its now August 1st & I've found out there is no way for me to stay with this company. Now I have to find something in Austin and its not going very easily. He wants to pick up & go & I don't blame him in the least bit - but I'm afraid to lose him, I'm afraid to be here on my own once again trying to pack up & move out there. Am I wrong for doing this? Am I stupid? He talks about sacrificing & he feels he's doing all of it while I work but I'm trying to do the right thing for my future, hopefully for our future. He has a family business that he wants to get back to & take over & feels I should just say screw the company & pack my stuff & leave. But I don't have the guts to do that, plus I don't have the $$ to live on if I don't find a job right away nor do I have a place to live! He has offered me to stay at his parents house till I did find something but that is just so not me - I can't feel like I'm burdening his family, I'm just not that type of person. So do I just let him go back on his own & then have him come back once I can move? Am I being selfish in trying to be successful in my career and not choosing to drop everything for him? PS..If anyone knows of employment opportunities in Austin for sales support or operations, please let me know! IP: Logged |
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Romeo Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 672) |
posted August 01, 2000 05:25 PM
super i do not think you are being selfish..i think your being a dependant women ..who has earned everything she has gotten..listen sometimes you have to do what is best for you and you alone ..as hard as it is.....it may be the only way..let him go back and you stay..and let your career blossom...unless you are hoplessly inlove with this man..then follow your heart.....actually follow your heart no matter which choice you make
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HackN2it Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 51) |
posted August 01, 2000 05:36 PM
I was with my girl for a few years and turned down a few good jobs so that I could stay with her. As her career grew my grew worse and worse, She is now doing quite well in her career and with her fiance. I have had to bust my ass to get where I am over the past two years. I was with her for almost 4 years and thought we would never split up. He needs to understand that if you are doing really well where you are that you should stay where you are. It's very hard to decide but, how can he NOT find a job in Cali? I would try and work with him on this. If you two split up in another year, then what? You would have lost everything you worked hard for. Atleast if you keep your job you can support yourself! If you two where ment to be than it will be! What does your boyfriend want to do? What can he do? I'd be glad to help search online and make some calls from here to find him something there. Hack IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1308) |
posted August 01, 2000 06:59 PM
LEAVING TEXAS ISNT SACRIFICING ONE GODDAMN THING. Sometimes life is yelling in our face saying "this is the best thing for YOU" and because of some other person we fail to listen. All for what! You are leaving EVERYTHING that is YOUR life by moving back to austin, tx. Say it "I am moving back to austin texas from california, mountains, ocean, great weather, great weed laws(my favorite), NICE people!" Sounds crazy doesnt it. Well i am just saying that if you end up breaking up with this guy are you going to be kicking yourself because you moved. Dont think about this guy when you are making your choice. If he really cared he would have made it work in california. I left a legit job paying $3000 a month, which for a 19 year old is a kick ass job, to move to a place where i would be back making $800 per month. Now that is love. even if you never listen to anyone in your whole life again just please listen to me. DO NOT MOVE BACK TO TEXAS! Please, Please, Please. if you do, come back in 6 months i will be here and tell me how I was right.lol Good luck and if i didnt say it already, dont move back to texas for some guy. IP: Logged |
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