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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:09 AM
  
Lately I've been bitching a lot, sorry but I've gotta bitch one more time about something to you guys. There's this girl that I really, REALLY like, and she likes me as well, but she is in a long-term relationship right now, (4 years) and is not willing to end that relationship to get with me, in case we end up not working out together, she's afraid she will have lost her other BF for nothing. My problem is that I cannot accept the possibility that I may live my whole life and die without ever being with her. I mean, to me, she is so beautiful, her body may not be perfect, but to me, it is. We are very close friends, but I just wish I could take a walk with her holding her hand or cuddle next to her while watching a movie. Crazy huh?? I sound like a sappy little bitch!! That's how I know I lov...like her so much. I can't and don't want to forget about her, but I'm afraid that my heart (hahaha I didn't even know I had one till I met her!) will be ripped out of my chest and pissed on if I we end up going our seperate ways one day. What should I do?? BTW- I have told her how I feel, and she is only 18 also.. WTF is she going to be with this guy for the next 60 years and ignore all the other chances to live her life???? You only live once.. Frackal needs help. IP: Logged |
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SnapperHead Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 20) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:33 AM
Hmmm..... tough call, but i say you approach her and be honest and open about the way you feel for her. I wouldn't suggest trying anything sexual on her for numerous reasons: possible embarrassment, boyfriend, complicating things... etc..., but telling her exactly how you feel and how she makes you feel would be a start, make yourself a stable, trustworth option to her boyfriend. Don't push anything but let your intentions be crystal clear. If she doesn't want to make the change to go with you, except it and move on, you don't want to be with a girl whom is indecisive about being with you anyway, it'll just make you more insecure. And if all else fails, kill him and be the comforting shoulder to cry on....... (while your hand is on her ass) IP: Logged |
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bignate73 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1239) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:40 AM
keep trying bro. its gonna be tough but if you guys are that close she may see that things could work out and she wont be so fearful to be alone. sounds like she is just afraid to take a leap. show her(by being a good friend) that she will not get hurt if shes with you. thats the tough part for people who cant be alone. is she dissatisfied with her current relationship? if she is then just give her what she is missing in that relationship. it sounds underhanded but if shes unhappy then the only thing keeping her with that guy is a)loyalty or b) fear of being alone or c) settling for "3 out of 5" qualities that her boyfriend is satisfiying. see where im going? basically show her you can be everything she wants and some things she doesnt even know about. good luck bro, keep us posted. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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TxCollegeguy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 408) |
posted July 30, 2000 05:08 AM
I think Snapperhead has the right idea....be honest and upfront...don't try to get sexual with her right away and don't let her get sexual right away....Cause maybe thats all she is disistified with...If she responds to your feelings then play lo-Key and see how things go...DO not and I MEAN DO NOT!! Jump into anything with her...Reguardless of how well you know or for how long...take things nice and slow so she knows that you are REALLy there for her...This will also help protect yourself from getting crushed in the future if things don't workout... IP: Logged |
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TxCollegeguy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 408) |
posted July 30, 2000 05:10 AM
I think Snapperhead has the right idea....be honest and upfront...don't try to get sexual with her right away and don't let her get sexual right away....Cause maybe thats all she is disistified with...If she responds to your feelings then play lo-Key and see how things go...DO not and I MEAN DO NOT!! Jump into anything with her...Reguardless of how well you know or for how long...take things nice and slow so she knows that you are REALLy there for her...This will also help protect yourself from getting crushed in the future if things don't workout... IP: Logged |
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havoc Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 528) |
posted July 30, 2000 12:52 PM
Frackal, put yourself into her boyfriends shoes, would you want some other male telling your girl this and that in a subtle attempt to persuade her to become more attached to you, certainly NOT. If your meant to be with this women then you will be, whether its in a week, month, year, decade etc. If not then there is that person out there for you. Your time is coming, patience is a virtue, if its this girl you speak of then great , if not, fuck it, move on, but it is slightly disrespectful to her man of 4 years, just my opinion bro, good luck with your situation. IP: Logged |
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Slopain Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1125) |
posted July 30, 2000 01:28 PM
I think your giving girls too much credit havoc, She doessn't know what she wants and she doesn't know what she needs. I like to play it smooth, but if Frack wants her, I say fuck her man and steal that shit. Why would you let some guy come in between you and this girlie? I don't give a shit if its her fuckin father - you want her, take her period. Love and Fighting bro, there is no rules for either one if you want to win. You expect every man to show you the same respect if it came to jackin your girl?? hell nah. I was in a similiar situation with a girl who was engaged, she broke up the engagement for me - but then I figured wait a minute she is going to expect me to marry her, so we parted and she went back to her man and got married, I went to her wedding with my current girl (talk about a wierd situation). IF SHE IS SUPPOSED TO BE WITH THAT OTHER GUY, THEN YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO TAKE HER A WAY FROM HIM so thats the test if you can get her, well then she is yours. easy. Slopain IP: Logged |
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tnheygirl Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 170) |
posted July 30, 2000 01:33 PM
HEy Don't mess with her! If she leaves him for you she'll leave you for the next one or worse she'll leave you and go back to him! She's been with him for 4 years, she's staying for more than convenience. If she likes you that much she wouldn't be considering in her mind if you are even worth taking a chance on. She has somthing in this other guy where she's weighing her options to see if your worth it. Don't do it! If you wanna be friends fine. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Slopain Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1125) |
posted July 30, 2000 01:37 PM
yeah listen to her and then spendd the rest of your life wondering whether she was THE ONE, f that. Sack it up bro, and get that shit, take it like its yours..because it IS. You have to take chance - yeah you might get hurt but thats the game. Id take a month of heartache easily rather then wondering when Im 50 why I didnt see if she was THE ONE. F everyone else, if she is important to you - the go get her. what else matters? are you going to let "rules" get in the way of someone you lov..er like a lot?? Slopain IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 456) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:00 PM
Just go for it bro. I'm in a similar situation with a chick I like thats friends with my step sister. We're cool with each other and always wind up flirting and shit when we are together. Her b/f now is a dickand he doesn't like me for some reason. (He don't know I like her)I say fuck him if he don't like me, all I know is he can't roll with this. As for what some people are saying bout "rules" and shit, they wouldn't follow the so called rules if they were in our spot. So I say "Rules? We don't need no fuckin rules." The girl I like is comin over Tuesday with another friend for a couple days, so when she gets here and my step sis and the other friend aren't around I'll tell her whats up. I know what ya mean though bout how it feels to be with someone who you're attracted to and get along great with, its cool as shit. So as I end this post I say go for her, don't give 2 shits bout her b/f and don't think twice bout what ya gotta say. Say what comes to you first, those are the words from the heart. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:11 PM
Again I appreciate all the advices. I am leaning toward the "fuck her BF" philosophies of Slopain and Rexie. Now her me and her BF are 'cool' with each other, but I think he knows that something is kind of up 'cause she says she talks about me to him. Now, when she asked him what would happen if she cheated on him, he said, and I quote, "Nothing. You would both be dead." This is not much of an exageration I'm afraid. He is not someone to be fucked with at ALL. We have already done some 'sexual' stuff, kind of, but we stopped before it went any further. She has cheated on him at least 2 times I believe, maybe more, so that says something about her feelings toward him right there. What I'm basically going to do is continue to be close friends with her, and flirt like crazy like we do now, and kind of hope she and her BF break up. I do care for her, but I'm not gonna get killed (read: severly beaten) for any girl. If you guys are interested I will keep you updated from time-to-time. BTW-She does know exactly how I feel, I told her everything I pretty much told you guys, which puts me in the more vulnerable position, but oh well. I guess this will just be something I will have to wait out and see what happens. IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 456) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:22 PM
Well if he said "you'd both be dead" you only have one option. Have him taken out before he gets you taken out. JK As for you leavin yourself vulnerable, you did, but that may be even more appealin to her in your tryin to talk her into goin out with you. It shows the sensitive side and girls like that...so I'm told. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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mac sloan Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 148) |
posted July 30, 2000 03:39 PM
Frackle my advice would just be her friend. I woudn't flirt with her cause then the mind games come into the mix. If you like her, treat her like you would want to be treated.Since she is confused the only thing that will help you out is being a close and true friend.Friends are for LIFE. IP: Logged |
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RaginAsian Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 90) |
posted July 30, 2000 04:03 PM
Frackal, if you're serious about getting this girl, you can't tell her. This is going to hurt, but if any thing has a chance of working, this is it. If you're talking to her regular, cut off all communication. Don't return calls. See her at the gym? Don't be rude, just go about your business. She probably knows she's got a hold on you. What you have to do in your mind as well as hers is MAKE HER EARN YOUR TIME. Go meet 10 new chicks, and grab a coupla' numbers while you're at it. She'll be crawling your way when she sees the action that you're creating as well as what a Herb her boyfriend is. Ragin Asian IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 456) |
posted July 30, 2000 04:17 PM
I wouldn't go as far as cuttin off all comunication with her. I landed a chick before by talkin to more than before. I just asked questions and listened to what she had to say. Ever see American Pie when they were in the choir room and Oz is like "Like that college chick said all you gotta do is talk to girls, ask them questions and listen to what they gotta say." And Stifflers like "That seems like alot of work" Damn it is alot of work, for real cause you wanna skip that part and move on to the better stuff but its vital in gettin a girl. Hell that idea worked though b/c I landed me a date for the Soph Hop. Damn shame though, I spent over 300 bills on that nite and got shit in return if ya know what I mean. I mean nothin, not even first base. ------------------ [This message has been edited by Rexie317 (edited July 30, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1305) |
posted July 30, 2000 04:41 PM
being that all is fair in love and war, set the dude up. Send a hot chick into his work or something to try and get his phone number. If he will cheat on her he isnt what she needs. If she has cheated on him do you think she isnt going to do the same to you bro. I say kill them both and move on. That takes care of him being in the way and your feelings for this girl that isnt going to be good for you anyway..........kill'em all! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted July 30, 2000 04:59 PM
KILL 'EM ALLLLL!!!!! LOL Moe. I'm not going to cut off all communication with her...then we'd just grow apart. I will NOT however, be her bitch. No fuckin' way. I have never been and never will be. I have thought about setting him up, that's pretty low, but like they you said, it's all fair when you feel the way I do about this girl. Unfortunately, her BF is well....fat. He's like 5' 10 225 or something and it's not muscle. That's another thing, he knows she doesn't like him like that, and IMO, if he knew how special she was, he'd get off his considerable ass and lose some fucking weight. I think there is a fairly good chance that he may cheat on her in the right situation. I know he cares for her, but I wonder sometimes if he isn't just staying with her 'cause he can't get anyone else. I was at her house once with him & her, and it didn't seem like he had a lot of respect for her. Him and I came back from the store at 2 AM and he walked in yelling and loud to wake her up. But anyways.. like I said, all I can do know is focus on BBing and just wait.. IP: Logged |
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BigGuns2 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 147) |
posted July 30, 2000 05:03 PM
Since both of you are young, alot can happen in the future. Remain close friends with her. If you cause her to break up with her boyfriend for you, you better believe she will hold that against you when you all get in arguments or disagreements. At 18, chances are she will want to date other guys once she gets out of high school. After dating someone that long she would have alot of adjusting and emotions to release. If she breaks up with this guy, don't make the mistake I made and move in too quick. Be there for her as a friend at first and that can bloom into a great relationship. Good luck. It's ashame that this boy and girl stuff has to be so damn complicated! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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The Canadian Oak Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 43) |
posted July 30, 2000 05:05 PM
just keep pumping and if she doesnt go for you then you will be huge and she will be kickin herself for not going for ya,i knwo this girl i like last year is kickin herself cuz im 35lbs of muscle heavier and she thinks im like all hott and that now and i dont give her the time of day ------------------ IP: Logged |
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buckydingdong Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 116) |
posted July 30, 2000 05:13 PM
The more I think of your situation Frackal, I can only second Moe's advice. Kill 'em. IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 557) |
posted July 30, 2000 05:31 PM
Whoa Frackal - you said she's cheated on him a couple of times ALREADY??? And whats to stop her from doing that to you?? Why is she with this guy for 4 yrs (since she was 14???) has cheated on him, flirts with you etc...?? wtf is up with this girl?? And she's your hearts desire??? I think you need to look elsewhere...remain friends, don't pressure her...if she leaves him and you are available then go for it. I think this gal is trouble though. Like someone said if it is meant to be than it will happen...but I would think long and hard about it. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Future One Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 91) |
posted July 30, 2000 07:38 PM
Ok, dude, this is what you do. You take a dart gun, stick a serynge full of corticosteroids into it, and shoot the BF into the ass. Then you wait a few weeks, and laugh your head off as he gets smaller and smaller! HAH HAH HAH HAH!! To top it off, get some hard gear (Anadrol50, Parabolan, etc.) and use it yourself to GROW GROW GROW!!! just my idea... ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Slopain Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1125) |
posted July 31, 2000 01:34 AM
Stick your dingy in her bro, and carry a big bat. Lets name it 'boyfriend be good bat' of course if hes toating thats another situation. Slopain IP: Logged |
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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted July 31, 2000 02:27 AM
I figured I would just respond to everyone's suggestions individually. BiGuns2: Good point. She will hold it against me. She is actually 'out' of HS, has been for awhile now. (GED) She's actually living with this guy, so it is pretty serious. Lilstud: Hell yeah bro. Next year after my 1st cycle and I'm a fuckin' swole 220 we'll see if she can resist. And if she ends up dissing me in the end, (She's not like that but...) I will swing by her/our work with my new fine ass girlfriend just to say "Hi." Buckydingdong: I was thinking of sending her this thread to see what she thinks about it, but I don't know if I should when everyone's telling me to kill her! LOL Skydancer: You echoed some of my fears about the cheating thing. But in her defense she IS pretty young and confused. (And horny) The 'quality' of the guy's she's been with in the past and hearing her 'fuck stories' (I asked her to tell me) FUCKING PISS ME OFFFFF!!!!!!!!!!!! though. Damn...the fact that these worthless druggie pieces of shit got to have such a great girl and I (may) never will makes me extremely sad/mad. Future One: Hehehehehe...ummm... I think you may have misread her BF's stats. He IS about 5'10 220, but it is just FAT!! He doesn't work out at all or anything so it's not like he has anything on me in the looks dept. Hehehe..maybe I'll shoot him up with catabolics just for fun though. Slopain: I like that idea bro. Unfortunately, when his Hell's Angels friend come's after me, I don't think my "BF BE GOOD" Bat will scare him very much. -I am not sure if she brings me more happiness, or sadness though. Probably about a 50/50 split. She said after I had told her everything that I felt that "the feeling is mutual, and we're retarted for each other, and it should be simple, but it's not." I think it would be easier for me to channel all these strong feelings I have for her into total hatred then just make them go away and feel nothing for her. I am NOT going to be her puppy dog/reserve BF and wait for her though. I WILL date other girls until this situation is resolved. ABOVE ALL ELSE I REFUSE TO BE HER BITCH!!! I ALREADY TOLD HER THIS. I THINK I SHOULD TELL HER THAT SHE DOES NOT HAVE FOREVER TO MAKE A DECISION ON WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO. ONE DAY I WILL NOT BE IN HER LIFE ANYMORE AND SHE WILL WONDER IF SHE MADE A HORRIBLE MISTAKE. GIRLS FUCKING SUCK!!!! IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 456) |
posted July 31, 2000 02:49 AM
Frackal brotha, the easy way out isn't the rewarding way. The harder the battle the more glorious the victory for it is dearness that gives everything its value. Fight for her. Some may tell you that your love for her is an obsession, but what is love if not an obsession? I wonder too how chix can fall for losers and not give too shits bout the "good" guys. They'll learn in time that those chumps will get them nowhere in life. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Austin316 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 445) |
posted July 31, 2000 04:00 AM
Hey Frackal, maybe you should hook up with that internet chick again and get it out of your system lol IP: Logged |
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Thick dog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1277) |
posted July 31, 2000 09:11 AM
I say try to go after her. Any girl that you want to actually hold hands and cuddle with has to be something special. I'm still looking for that special girl, or girls. IP: Logged |
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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted July 31, 2000 01:38 PM
BUMP FOR DLADY'S AND OTHER FEMALE OPINIONS PLEASE. IP: Logged |
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miles Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 65) |
posted July 31, 2000 06:28 PM
Dude, all is fair in love and war. Get rid of the mother fucker and take the girl if that's what you want. That's just the way it is. Only the fittest survive. Take a stand. You will either get her, or you won't and then you'll go on, but either way you won't be stuck. IP: Logged |
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Vanguard Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 82) |
posted July 31, 2000 06:44 PM
Girls are evil, always remember that!!!! IP: Logged |
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BitchH8R Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 16) |
posted July 31, 2000 08:01 PM
I'll second that vangaurd! IP: Logged |
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madbomber31 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 440) |
posted July 31, 2000 09:08 PM
girls suck... thats one of their fortunate traits... its fun when they suck... on a serious note... dont fuck with her... she is someone elses property... who wants a bitch that would dump one guy for another??? thats fuckin pathetic. and if she is 18, and has alot of sex stories..... she is basically a whore. no offense. IP: Logged |
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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted August 01, 2000 02:05 AM
NO OFFENSE TAKEN MADBOMBER. I THINK I MAY JUST SAY 'FUCK THIS' TO THE WHOLE SITUATION. SHE MADE IT PRETTY OBVIOUS TO ME TODAY THAT SHE WON'T BE BREAKING UP WITH HER CURRENT BF ANYTIME SOON, AND I'M SICK OF WAITING AROUND AND WONDERING. WHEN I THOUGHT ABOUT IT TODAY, I REALIZED SHE MAKES ME MORE SAD THEN HAPPY. THIS IS NOT REALLY HER FAULT, BUT IT DOESN'T CHANGE ANYTHING. THE ONLY THING THAT DEPRESSES ME AS MUCH/MORE AS HER IS MY PATHETIC SIZE. (NOT THAT SMARTASS, MY WEIGHT) I'M REAL FUCKIN' MOODY AROUND HER TOO 'CAUSE MY FEELINGS ARE GOING CRAZY ALL THE TIME WHEN SHE'S AROUND. SO WHAT I'M GOING TO DO IS JUST BE HER FRIEND. I'D CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION WITH HER AND QUIT MY JOB, BUT I WOULD MISS HER TOO MUCH, AND I STILL HAVE STRONG FEELINGS FOR HER OF COURSE.... 1 MORE YEAR OF HARD WORK THOUGH(AND A LITTLE 'ASSISTANCE IN A BOTTLE') AND I'LL BE SO FUCKIN' SWOLE COMPARED TO NOW THAT SHE'LL WISH SHE FUCKING TOOK ME WHILE SHE HAD THE CHANCE. ARRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I CAN'T WAIT FOR LEG DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [This message has been edited by Frackal (edited August 01, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 456) |
posted August 01, 2000 02:19 AM
Frackal man. I swear that we're in a situation so similar its friggin scary. This chick I like is here for a couple days, but she says she "loves" her b/f. I say she only says that cause he said it to her and she was scared not to say it back. Hes an asshole, and comes from an asshole family. His parents don't like her b/c shes not Greek. And since hes a little puss like his parents were when they were younger, won't say anything. But that works out in my favor. This girl is so sweet, nice body, nice personality, smart, etc and I was told we looked like a couple in the mall by my older step sister b/c we we're walkin with each other. Aand that we also look perfect together before. I just don't know how to tell her how I feel bout her. But I know I can't let her current penis b/f try to take advantage of her. If it means us dukin it out. Well then an ass whoopin will ensue on him and he'll get a 5 toe'd foot up his ass. Sorry to cramp your post Frackal. IP: Logged |
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rancid Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 33) |
posted August 01, 2000 02:28 AM
INFATUATION! Life's about loss, and we don't just curl up and shrink, get on with it and let go of this crush you have on her, you'll get over it. Remember what doesn't kill me makes me stronger! IP: Logged |
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runner Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 137) |
posted August 01, 2000 07:43 AM
why the hell is she stayin' with her boyfriend? he sounds like a serious loser. even though it may not be what you intended, i think cutting back on communication with her will bring her crawlin' to ya'. IP: Logged |
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Frackal Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 614) |
posted August 01, 2000 05:01 PM
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