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Little_Hurt Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 22) |
posted July 12, 2000 06:04 AM
  
My first cycle after having a child wasn't too bad, he couldn't walk, etc. However my son is now closing in on 3 and now when I come home from pounding the weights(after work) I just want to take a cold shower and sit in a hot bath. I physically after legs cannot play with him or arms carry him around for a least an hour. I feel horrible cause he wants to play and I just sit around watching those god awful movies (Barney, Teletubbies, you guys know) while my wife makes my seperate dinner and it drives me crazy. Does anyone have any system they use or advice on how to manage the time with the family so I can stop feeling so guilty. Thanks. IP: Logged |
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denmaur Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 348) |
posted July 12, 2000 06:17 AM
Have you considered training in the morning? My gym opens at 5:30 am and I find its the best time for me. It's less crowded and it leaves more free time after work to spend with the family. IP: Logged |
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Little_Hurt Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 22) |
posted July 12, 2000 06:41 AM
Yes D but my work hours are from 600 am to 4 pm. Wish my gym was open 24hrs, but its not. Thanks for the suggestion anyway. Also didn't mean to be bias with the title since there are females also. IP: Logged |
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denmaur Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 348) |
posted July 12, 2000 08:13 AM
Thats a tough schedule. If you give it some thought you might come up with something creative. Ex; buy some basic equipment for home to minimize your time at the gym. Any chance to get a little in at lunch? Is there another gym open 24 hours. there is usually a solution if you look long enough. IP: Logged |
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jdismukes Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 226) |
posted July 12, 2000 08:37 AM
I have had to cut back on my training. I like to train 6 days straight and just work one bodypart at the time. But now I have to workout every other day, I get my cardio by playing with my 8YO daughter, we take bike rides or play ball. I have a 13 YO and all I can say is enjoy them while they still want to play with you 'cause once they become teenagers the last thing they want to do is play with daddy. IP: Logged |
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mistah_d Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 20) |
posted July 12, 2000 09:33 AM
My daughter just turned 1 and is VERY ACTIVE. Do whatever you can to adjust your schedule to be a bigger part of your kid's life because they can't adjust theirs...Believe me, if you don't, you'll look back and be sorry because all you can do is look back, not go back. Good luck IP: Logged |
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Ice Man Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 469) |
posted July 12, 2000 09:41 AM
I hear ya. I have 2 daughters 4 yrs and 2 yrs old. When I get home my oldest daugher loves to wrestle and some nights it's hard to even lift her and she only weighs 40 something pounds. So what we do is I eat dinner and talk to them about their day, preschool, etc... this gives me about 40 mins to recover. After that we play or color or watch one of their movies. I would endure what ever pain I had to in order to spend the time with them. It's not always easy, but it is ALWAYS worth the effort. IP: Logged |
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Little_Hurt Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 22) |
posted July 12, 2000 10:04 AM
Glad to hear all the dedicated fathers/bodybuilders in that order. I should have mentioned that I only workout late when I am doing a cycle since my partner who does the same cycle works 2nd shift. I guess today was one of those "damn where did the last few years go", days and it just made me feel like shit, but believe me I am foremost a father and second a bodybuilder. Just had to vent thanks for the responses though felt like I was the only one running home to get some QT, and never really heard anyone talk about this on the board. IP: Logged |
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mistah_d Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 20) |
posted July 12, 2000 10:09 AM
Awesome to see those priorities. Part of being a big, strong guy is to be a good role model and strong father figure for your kids (if you have them) I'm proud to be a bodybuilder, but I will never be more proud than when my little girl brags about how big and strong her Dad is. Good luck with everything IP: Logged |
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ralphe Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 190) |
posted July 12, 2000 10:10 AM
buy some basic equipment and work out while you watch Barney....those day will be gone soon enough.....I didn't think so either.....do crunches and curls while watching with your child....be creative and inventive.....you may not look like Arnold this way but you sure will have fun and not regret it......mine are now 10 and 6 and they do some working out with me......monkey bars....etc. search and be creative you will find it good luck IP: Logged |
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lil'tex Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 86) |
posted July 12, 2000 10:18 AM
when my son was born i totally changed everything about my daily schedule. i quit playing softball 5 nights a week and started lifting in the morning before work. he is now 2 yrs old and he is all i look forward to in the afternoon. you may want to consider changing to a gym that is open 24 hours. that would mean you would be lifting at 4 am though. it is tough juggling the schedule for the children, but it sounds like your wife is pretty cool about it. my wife asked me to lift in the morning so that i could be home to play with him in the evening. IP: Logged |
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MiracleMan Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 154) |
posted July 12, 2000 11:27 AM
Bro, I have two girls myself, 5 & 2. Looking to have #3 soon. Balancing both training and family is very tough. Personaly, I invested in a complete home gym, also I have been very fortunate that I can afford such luxury. 340sq, 20K invested. Built in my basement in my home, my basement is also 1600sq ft with 10ft ceilings. I have treadmills, stairclimers, cable crossover, hack squat, smith machine ect ect. Loaded with all commercial grade stuff. I love it. I get better quality workouts in less time if I went to the gym. I know this may not be possible. Remember, family comes first, I have lost pleanty of workouts days do to family issues, its never easy, but also looking buff for your wife and yourself is also important, plus when other women look at me, it gets the wife horney, "I hate when that happens"...LOL.. Try not to take too much time from your kids, these moments/memories at this age will never be able to get again. Good Luck IP: Logged |
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BigTruck Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 86) |
posted July 12, 2000 11:46 AM
I agree about trying to find the 24 hour gym. I made the decision to work out early (4:30 a.m.) in the morning, because night workouts are just too damn intrusive. It's a great way to start the day AND the baby sleeps away the whole time -- I don't miss anything. Then when I'm home at night, I'm HOME. Believe me, your wife and child will love you for it! IP: Logged |
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foreverblast Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 65) |
posted July 12, 2000 11:48 AM
there is no time like family time.. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Heemaan445 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 299) |
posted July 12, 2000 12:14 PM
I hear ya....I have two sons 3 $ 1.... I feel guilty all the time thinking I need to spend more time with them, BUT, I also realize that its "quality" over "quantity"... Meaning, when the boys are watching Pokemon or the Iron Giant, they can give a rats ass about me sitting there (ha ha), so thats when I go do my grass cutting, or lifting in the basement...but I dont have that option all the time, I find myself staring at them in their cribs/beds at 1am all the time cause I had such a busy day.... Just make your time count with them, they'll remember 5 minutes of awesome playtime with the parent over 2 hours of just sitting there !!! IP: Logged |
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jersey boy Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 253) |
posted July 12, 2000 12:54 PM
Brother I feel for ya. I come home from work and usually eat and take a nap on the days I train. One thought though is to train on the weekends. I train twice during the week and try to hit the gym on the weekend as well. It is hard as hell when youi have to tell your wife to take the kid so you can get to the gym. All I can say again is I DO feel for ya. get big or get out IP: Logged |
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bikinimom Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 179) |
posted July 12, 2000 04:41 PM
Well guy, I'm not juicing but when I'm done training I feel like I'm a thousand years old and NEED A FREAKING NAP! ....hard to do when you have laundry to do, dinner to make, errands to run, homework to help with, shuttle kids to all of their activities, clean sometimes, paperwork for my hubby's business and on occasion pursue my own career and so on, and so on, and so on. I also have to prepare sometimes 3 different meals, one for the kids, one for my husband and open a can of tuna and eat a bowl of oatmeal (by the time I get around to me, I basically eat what I need, not necessarily what I want). I also bake birthday cakes, make halloween costumes, read bedtime stories and give baths, kiss booboos, and listen to my hubby's problems of the day.
I UNDERSTAND YOUR FATIGUE BETTER THAN YOU KNOW! I don't have one baby ...I've had four. And THEY ALL WANT IT NOW! Just suck it up and play with your baby ...you are the center of his universe. Even if you just lay on the ground and let him pull your hair or put him on your back and play "horsey" (that's what I used to do when I was big-pregnant and my girls wanted to play with me.) One of the proudest moments I've had was when my girls came and saw me compete and started posing and asking me, "Now how do my hands go Mommy." And now they tell everyone, "My mommy is a bodybuilder - she's REALLY strong. She's stronger than your DADDY!" I'm just like yea, mommy rocks! IP: Logged |
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BigPapaPump Moderator (Total posts: 400) |
posted July 12, 2000 05:16 PM
Been there...done that. I make it ahabit to always be home and pick up my son by 4:00. We hang out and play until dinner, which is about 6-6:30. I eat with the wife and son and then head off to the gym. I get my quality time in with him and the gym. I never train on the weekends...this is strictly family time. BPP IP: Logged |
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picasso Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 41) |
posted July 12, 2000 08:23 PM
When mine was born I was on the road all the time.That Sucked.I would say cut back if you have to,you can't replace the first couple years. BTW,mine is 15 now and it's a whole different thing.We do everything together,I coach his baseball team and play in my own league but he understands when I'm tired,I'm there but I'm not friggin wrestling.Sure maybe I can't live the dream "bodybuilders lifestyle",but they don't have what I do and I'll take what I got anyday. IP: Logged |
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Kahn Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 581) |
posted July 12, 2000 10:54 PM
Have him blood tested first, he probably isn't yours. HA! I'm kidding, of course. What about taking a meal replacement with you and doing one or two at the gym to speed recovery? I lift at 9:30 so its not hard for me. IP: Logged |
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