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ryry Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 525) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:03 PM
  
well i'm in an emotional crisis right now and i have no idea what to do. this is a long story so bear with me on this one. the only girl i've ever fallen in love with is about to get married. we met in high school. there was just this instant connection between us. we became the best of friends, she was kind of like a little sister to me. then we decided that we should take it to the next level and it went great, we went out about 10 months then she dawged me out. we got back together a month later and broke it off again in like another month, this time it was my fault. we still remained the best of friends all these years though. we went to the same university and we even messed around a bit when we were both available but we never really got back together. well just this x-mas, her boyfriend of like 3-4 months who is in Louisiana (we're in Washington), proposed to her and now they are all set to get married next june. needless to say i guess you don't know what you really got till its gone. i let her go because i was young then and i wanted to play, i didn't know any better. but after realizing what was out there, i realized that this was one amazing woman that i let get away. all of you people talk about how your soulmate should be your best friend for the rest of your life. well this woman has been there with me through thick and thin, she is the only true friend i really have, she is my best friend. i can't stand the thought of her not being in my life and for that matter, her getting married to some other guy. i want to tell her how i feel but at the same time i don't know if i'm ready to get married myself. i just turned 22, i don't think i'm ready for that kind of a commitment yet. i know this might sound stupid, but i'm thinking that the only way to stop this marriage is if i get married to her myself. we still have this unspoken love for each other... i don't know if you guys know what i'm talking about, kind of like you never really stop loving a person after you've been through so much. what bothers me the most is that i think i just let my soulmate walk in and out of my life and its just tearing me apart right now. i've never fell in love with another woman before, much more feel the way i feel about her. i just wanted to get some of you people input in this since i know that some of you have been there. i just don't want to look back in my life and feel that i let my soulmate slip away...
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FlexB Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 481) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:18 PM
I almost NEVER reply to posts like this but I just couldn't let this one slide by. GET OVER IT!!!!!! You are still young. You already said she dogged you out so what makes you think she won't do it again? I'm not trying to be an asshole but some of you (young)guys act like your first love is gonna be your only love. Beleive me, when you get whipped by some other girl after her, you won't even remember your old flames name!! I understand that you "think" this girl is the only one for you, but you will get over her. You first said that she dogged you out, then you turn around and say that you were young and wanted to play. So who dogged who out? I'm confused. IP: Logged |
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BACKDRAFT Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 152) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:20 PM
At least you should let her know how you feel,what do you have to loose?At least you tried.Who knows what she will say.Good luck!! IP: Logged |
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Romeo Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 242) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:22 PM
ryry man i know what you mean...bro there was this girl in high school who i really liked...i asked her to my junior prom and she turned me down because she was going with the biggest kid on my football team...no joke 1 ugly mother fucker--going bald fat shit tall as hell----but a very nice guy i must say....well when we went to spring break the next year she was there and we had an amazing time together ...i started to fall for her but she was still seeing this dude who she loved....all while she was telling me that she loved me also...pretty fucked up right....well to make a long story longer i broke it off with her.....and she wouldnt talk to me ...2 years have gone by and i still think about this girl...she has been away at school...and she is still seeing the same ugly fuck....but my point that i have met so many different girls and we have chilled but after a while i would find something wrong with them...it would be the most small and trivial thing ..it didnt matter it would bug me ....every girl mind you except the i have been telling you about.....i thought she was my soul mate because of this....then i realized she was more fucked up then me if she could cheat on her man with me ...then what would keep her from messing around on me ....now i hate the bitch but that is besides the point.... i have no idea why i said all that ??? but if you want my advice tell the women your feelings ----hesitation is the mother of all regret..tell her or you will regret it peace romeo P.S.----just tell her you are not ready to settle down yet----also make sure you are not just doing this so she will not get married because that would be really selfish IP: Logged |
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T-BONE Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 224) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:37 PM
Ok, here's my advice. I broke up with my ex of a few years 1.5 years ago. She is now engaged to some other guy. There is only one thing you can do. Be a man, suck it up, and wish her all the best in the world. She is obviously very happy with this guy, why take a chance of ruining her happiness. If you really do love her, you can be happy for her and let her move on. It sucks, but there's really no other way. IP: Logged |
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Basement Dweller Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 38) |
posted July 07, 2000 08:45 PM
Ryry..... There are plenty of fish in the sea. Move on bro. It will take time, but eventually you will look back and realize she wasn't the one..... ------------------ IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1102) |
posted July 07, 2000 09:30 PM
I am in the same place bro. I havent even talked to the chick in a few months, havent even seen her in 3 years, but i still love her more than life and no other fish in the sea will ever compare. I even fell in love with another girl, moved in together and would have married her sooner or later, but one day ami called and i realized every feeling i had for my current girlfriend didnt even come close to the way I felt about her. I am a million miles away, but if you are close enough bro just go for it. Lay it all out on the line and see what happens. I am 23 bro and have been in love with the same girl since I was 16. sure there have been a shit load in between, but it all comes back to her. You will kick yourself if you dont go for it now bro. Hell go tell her right now if you can. Email me if you do and tell me how it went. I wont be able to tell mine for a while so I would like to hear a success story. good luck bro ------------------ IP: Logged |
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ryry Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 525) |
posted July 07, 2000 09:42 PM
i feel ya moe. this woman was there for me in the beginning when i was a nobody, an absolute loser. this girl got to me. i guest i always thought that she would be around and that is why i have taken what we had together for granted. i know that earlier in college she wanted to get back, but i wanted to play. if i only knew then what i know now... flexb, she dawged me our first time together. but the 2nd time it was my fault. when i said i wanted to play, this was when she wanted to get back with me later. we are suppose to talk later tonight but i don't even know where to start and what to say. i just hope things turn out for the better for both of us... ------------------ [This message has been edited by ryry (edited July 07, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1102) |
posted July 07, 2000 09:45 PM
bro i tried to tell ami once and I just couldnt put it all into words. Nothing i could have said would have even been close to the way i feel. I have no idea how to get around that, but if you find it let me know. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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runner Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 111) |
posted July 07, 2000 10:13 PM
ryry, you GOTTA' tell her what you're feeling. flex may be right, she may NOT really be your "soulmate" but you're always gonna' wonder about what might have been if you don't do something about it now. btw, does anyone know the garth brooks song "unanswered prayers"...that's what this situation reminds me of. IP: Logged |
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