 UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! |
 George Spellwin's ELITE FITNESS Discussion Boards
 Chat & Conversation
 Why survive?
|
| Author | Topic: Why survive? |
|
dafoe69 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted June 22, 2000 09:40 PM
  
I've built my life around this girl for 4 and a half years. I'm in total love with her but she has never felt the same. It does not stop me from having these feelings. I've lied in the past about me and other girls I've messed with. I fucked up bad, this girl is fantastic. She is what I look forward to in the morning. We've never dated, yet. Right now she hates me for talking to this one girl, I didn't tell because I didn't want her to this that I was up to some shit when i wasn't. So if she choose not to be in my life anymore why survive? Please no there are other girls out there there's only one Christina That I love. IP: Logged |
|
remedy Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 21) |
posted June 22, 2000 09:56 PM
Just don't do anything stupid man. I know what you are going through sort of. I was with a girl for 8 years, and I'm still 150% in love with her and not with anyone else. We broke up about 3 months ago. She said she fell out of love with me and needs time to sort her shit out. She isnt seeing anyone, because I will kill them, and I think she knows this. Anyways, the pain I went through the first few months was insane. My first serious heartbreak. This girl is the most perfect, beautiful fucking thing you've ever seen in your life. I have no desire for anyone else. Life sucks when you are in-love and it isn't coming back at you. Just deal with it, it gets easier dude, trust me. Eventually your system starts shutting off your obsessive feelings and you start feeling better. Once you "get over it" they always come back anyways. I'm sure shit will work out with you. Just don't go offing yourself. remedy IP: Logged |
|
remedy Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 21) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:01 PM
Oh and I also wanted to add - you think you've built your life around this girl ? You haven't even dated her yet man. I lived with mine for 6 years bro. I was about to ask her to marry me (got a $7500 1.2 carat g-rated diamond) when we broke up. Best thing you can do is not persue this girl, make her persue you. And stay positive, being fucked up and not wanting to live over a girl isn't attractive. People don't always want what is easy to get. THINK ABOUT IT. remedy IP: Logged |
|
dafoe69 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:02 PM
thanks bro its just if I had to wake up and either see her with someone else or not in my life i wouldn't wake up the next day I couldn't handle that. IP: Logged |
|
goleafs Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 305) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:05 PM
just got out of a five year beauty , and yeah right now it sucks and the heartbreak is hard. but there is no reason to end it all. after a while when your head straightens out you should talk to her about it , until then see a shrink. seriously. if youre having these thoughts , there are pros who can help. IP: Logged |
|
dafoe69 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:06 PM
She has everything good family, money, everyone wants her, and all I have is me. I've bought the gifts, said all the words, have been there for her, I just don't know how to fix the situation. IP: Logged |
|
dafoe69 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:08 PM
if I tell her these feelings of death she'll take it the wrong way and think I'm crazy when its just that I just see a need to stick around without her. My family is very sterile about caring, I've lost friends over her because she's always number one I just don't understand. IP: Logged |
|
goleafs Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 305) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:09 PM
fix it by letting it be. let things take its natural course. trust me youll know hen the time comes. oh yeah i forgot to say we've since got back together and it was the time apart that made us able to.ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. remember that IP: Logged |
|
remedy Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 21) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:10 PM
dafoe, the hardest lesson you need to learn is that you can't FIX anything. You can't control the situation. What is going to happen is going to happen regardless of what you do really. What you need to do is just be smooth, let her know you want her and be cool. Then let her come to you. Persuing her too much is going to push her away. Trust me I've learned all this shit the hard way. Because of my actions I may never end up back with the love of my life. But life goes on regardless. Just stay happy if you have to fake it even. Just stay positive and let her come to you man. There are a million women in the world, and believe it or not - although it doesnt seem like it now - you will meet better and better woman as you go on. Plus a good thing that kept me going is that if you do something stupid and kill yourself, you never know - she might have been coming back to you THE VERY NEXT DAY. So be patient and hang in there. remedy IP: Logged |
|
dafoe69 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:19 PM
guys I'm sitting in a computer lab at 10:15 because I would normally be out with her. Today is her birthday and I even have a fucking four hundred dollar bracelet with her name on it. We had plans a week ago but because i'm an asshole she changed them and Is probably hanging out with this asshole that wants her too. I need someone to talk to badly but i can't share this stuff with anyone. I doing pretty bad. IP: Logged |
|
dafoe69 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted June 22, 2000 10:46 PM
Please god BUMP IP: Logged |
|
kram696969 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 176) |
posted June 23, 2000 03:11 AM
shitty deal bro. you feel as if you can't live without her, as time goes on, you do. and you will find someone better. kram-mark IP: Logged |
|
THE STEEL BEAST Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 503) |
posted June 23, 2000 03:19 AM
THERE MAY BE ONLY ONE CHRISTINA,BUT THERES A MILLION OTHERS..... ------------------ One more road to cross The only difference between me and a madman is that I am not mad. BLOOD LIKE VENOM, IP: Logged |
|
LivLarge Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 519) |
posted June 23, 2000 03:24 AM
Bro i feel your pain. i had this awesome girl a $500 ring i gave her for christmas. she never felt like i did and it never worked. i felt like shit for several months. im not trying to make you feel worse or anything but i did. i started just lifting harder and harder and tried to get my mind off of her but i couldnt. i tried hooking up with other girls and still i thought about her. my friends always told i was a fool because i would give her what ever she wanted over them and they got pissed. but you know its been a year since i last really saw her and i realized that she isnt for me. if she was then she would be with me. we still talk occasionally and she always comes up and gives me a hug. she told me a little while back her biggest mistake was not falling in love with me. but by then i knew that she wasnt meant for me. bro, if you do something stupid than you will never know if she will love one day like you do her or you will never find the real true love of your life. its not worth not knowing. i am now glad i lived through a personal hell for months because i realized if she made me feel that good and shes not the one, then the one out there for me is unbelievable, i cant even imagine. Tom will be a brighter day if you let it be. try not to torture yourself. what will be will be. there is nothing you can do to make her love you. Good Luck Bro! IP: Logged |
|
supraman Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 188) |
posted June 23, 2000 09:06 AM
Man, I lost my girl of 3 yrs about 2 months ago! I was never so depressed. My best advice to you is to act like you don't give a f**k(but don't be an ass)...this eventually gets to them! It is going to be tough at first I know!!! Get yourself straightened up and talk to her! When you see her just smile and ask how she is doing like everything is just fine and dandy! I did this and now she emails me a twice a week leaving her new phone number all kinds of stupid shit. I replied to the first and did just what I told you..told her how good work was going and let her know that I'm going out and haveing a good time, told her that It is best that we are just friends....this drove her nuts! Like I said she emails 2x's a week now and I don't respond...damn its great! I finally realized that she wasn't the one..don't get me wrong sometimes I think about the good ol times we had and get alittle depressed for about 30 seconds and then think about all the other beautiful women out there...thats gonna happen for a while I'm sure. Man I'll tell you what really got me through...GOD! I don't care what you've done or who you are he will always listen and help when you really need it! I'm not a holy roly I just believe in this very strongly. You put him first and everything else falls in line! Remember...time heals all wounds! and there is a reason for everything! Good luck man, keep your head up! ------------------ In Hoc Signo Vinces IP: Logged |
|
Bossman Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 269) |
posted June 23, 2000 09:26 AM
I've been there bro, it was the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. Went out with her for 5 years. She's a hot blonde who was captain of the cheerleaders and an honor student. We were inseperable and she ws my best friend. We broke up two years ago and everyday was a struggle. I was depressed for a long time, but it gets easier. I treated her like a queen. I guess I did something right cause she still calls every two weeks and tells me how no one she meets can compare. Oh well, her loss. Now I'm makin the coin and put on 20 lbs. of muscle. Drives her crazy when I go to the clubs and she sees me with hot chicks. Find a new hobby, like mountain biking or softball or something, keep yourself busy. Itll get better bro, believe me. ---------- Bossman IP: Logged |
|
The_Blond_Myth Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 323) |
posted June 23, 2000 10:07 AM
Bro I attempted suicide about a month ago over that shit. It is not worth it!! I have since turned to gear and lifting, and keeping my training PERFECT. I just got another girls number, but I probably won't call, FUCK THEM!! I have muscles to grow. LP IP: Logged |
|
Thick dog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 710) |
posted June 23, 2000 10:21 AM
This is the reason I try my damndest not to get emotionally attached to girls. You said she got pissed off because you "talked " to another girl, so obviously she has more feelings for you than you think. I noticed you said you guys have never dated. Have you actually asked her out on a date? Not just a friendly date, an actual date. You may want to wait a few days so you can come to your senses and have a serious conversation with her. Tell her you never would have talked to the other girl if you knew that she would have gotten this upset and see what happens from there. Good Luck and hang in there. IP: Logged |
|
BuryMeBig Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 11) |
posted June 23, 2000 11:25 AM
dafoe bro listen after 4 years you are either in the friend zone or you to are in the craziest relationship imaginable..this is not a flame as there is a reason for major concern...but shit or get off the pot..be strong enough to tell her your feelings. your situation is not healthy..you have not even actually dated this girl and you talk of killing yourself...you need seriuos help..dont you love lifting and getting bigger and hanging with friends and family.these are things you truly live for.i dont know how old you are but the fact is women come and go and it hurts sometimes but you always survive..thats why you survive..lay it on the line with this girl and if she aint down move the fuck on..your life is to important..."date the weights" IP: Logged |
|
miles Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 30) |
posted June 23, 2000 11:43 AM
dafoe, hang in there. When my girl and I broke up after 2 years, I just walked around crying and talking blather and bumping into things for about two months. It is really hard to do anything when you are an emotional wreck, but somehow the pain is worth it. The experience has made me stronger, and I think I can deal with the next one in a better way as a result. It is a lot like lifting, it hurts a lot, and the more it hurts, the more you get out of it. Try and listen to what you mind is saying, and decide if it is true or false. Lots of it will be false, so ignore that, but some of it will be true, so listen to that. I bet you have something very important to discover about yourself. I did. IP: Logged |
All times are ET (US) | |
 |
Contact Us | Back to Elite Fitness
Elite Fitness Discussion Board