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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:20 PM
  
Okay, here I go. My boyfriend has been harping on me for like 3 months to start exercising and a month ago I started cardio, walking then jogging. Well, now i jioned the gym, and have a personal trainer too. I am doing weights and cardio now. So I proceed to tell my bf how my body fat went down and all he said to me was, "well, my body fat can't even be read on the machine". I thought that he would at least be happy that my body fat dropped but he wasn't he just kept on bitching at me that I am still fat, and will never stick to the diet exercise. Why do you guys do this, and act this way? Here I am trying to better myself and all he does is cut on me and make it like no matter what I do it will never be good enough! At first when I started this it was because of him, but in the past month I know I am doing it for myself, to boost my esteem and everything else about me! Everytime he puts me down I use that as motivation to work harder. IP: Logged |
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MrMuscle Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 749) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:25 PM
you know what?? fuck him...not litterally, but just dump his ass..obviusly he cant handle the fact that you are doing something for yourself, NOT for him. ------------------ "...damn you for not giving my TEST" - Metallica IP: Logged |
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Jay-T Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 102) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:28 PM
What a jerk!! Ask him for a little respect or just stop training and eat to your heart content! Jay-T IP: Logged |
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BigPappa Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 187) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:30 PM
All I can say is, what an asshole! He should motivate you and give you the support you need both mentally and physically. He is insecure in some part of his life for him to be like that. Bottom line, dump his ass. Yes, rather harsh but that attitude is very telling of how he lives and handles other aspects of his life. I give my girl crap like that too but it is only in a joking way and we do it to each other joking around and since I am her trainer and knows I am crazy about her body, I can get away with it but this guy is pathetic. Chances are he has a little bit of love around the waist, right?...just point to his legs and call him chicken legs or something! Anyways, what I would do is just blast his ass away by in 2-3 months coming back and looking like Fitnesschick or something. Use the advice on this board...train, diet, hit the cardio AND weights and do a decent, not small but decent, cycle and he'll soon be left in the dust. He'll probably still try to keep you down but don't let him. I would tell him straight up that this is important to you and that if he can't be there for you in a positive way that he isn't the one for you. IP: Logged |
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Fitnessbarbie Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 52) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:31 PM
Maybe he thinks he's motivating you by saying what he's saying, but I have to agree with MrMuscle...dump him...he obviously doesn't deserve you....he should be supportive not abusive!! Congrats on dropping the body fat....keep up the good work!! IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 122) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:32 PM
Dump his ass. No self-respecting asshole would put someone else down unless they were insecure about themselves. Get rid of the dick. We all ain't like that. See my reply in the "why brides wear white" post to see what men ask of women. Its just a joke so don't take it personal. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:41 PM
Thanks BigPappa, but no he is actually fit himself, but he isn't big. i know he has very little body fat. I figured maybe I would start calling him names to make him feel like shit! string bean, flag pole, DORK(which is a whales dick) things to make him feel hurt! I want more muscle on him but does he lift more NO! And He won't even lift with me, to help me out. I see all these couples helping each other, why doesn't he help me. IP: Logged |
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PT101 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 37) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:42 PM
My $0.02 would be, ask him why he talks to you like that. It could be jealousy, motivation, a number of things, but if you don't say anything, how are you going to know. It's hard to have an open line of communication between two people, but for a relationship to work, ya gotta talk. Tell him how you feel. Do you work out with him, or always by yourself? Now if he really believes what he is saying and is that big a Bastard, kick his ass out on the street  Good Luck, and above all, keep up the hard work. IP: Logged |
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riptchick Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 55) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:43 PM
Dlady make him regret that. You keep it up and trust me you won't want to give him the time of day. You'll be fine and he'll still be a dumbass. You deserve someone who will be encouraging and stand by you no matter how you look. IP: Logged |
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tri~zilla Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 280) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:44 PM
get rid' o' him ! and come be with me! IP: Logged |
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mightydog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 160) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:46 PM
He got you started? Ok, he served his purpose. He is useless to you now. Pull the plug on him. IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 763) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:47 PM
I agree with fitnessbarbie. He is prob. just using that for motivation. It isnt a good way, but maybe that is just all he knows. Just keep it up. Do it for yourself cause thats is all that matters. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:47 PM
PT101, he has said before that he calls me names to try and motivate me but I don't let him know that it has worked, I want him to know that it does hurt when he talks that way to me. I just need a NORMAL MAN, not a BOY! IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 113) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:48 PM
Dlady - you deserve better gf. If he's not supporting you in your efforts in any area in your life he's not good for you. Calling him names back is just childish and the reaction he wants. IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:52 PM
Yes, the mature Skydancer has spoken! Why is it you always make me feel like shit, I want to get him back, sky. You know revenge is ever so sweet. I will keep up with this working out too, I want by next year to bench press more than him so I can KICK HIS ASS!!! "SASSY MOUTH" IP: Logged |
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mightydog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 160) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:53 PM
Dlady, I think you answered your own question. What your criterea for a normal man? IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:57 PM
MIGHTYDOG, I DON'T KNOW IF THERE IS ONE OUT THERE??? I GUESS MY NORMAL MAN WOULD BE A MALE WHO IS LIKE MY FATHER, TREATS ME LIKE MY DAD TREATS MY MOTHER. HE HAS ALL MY RESPECT AND LOVE! IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 113) |
posted June 13, 2000 02:59 PM
D - well its not my fault if you go crawling back to him when he treats you like dirt...just don't come cryin' to me!  *sassy right back at ya!* IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:08 PM
sKYDANCER ~ BOY, I HOPE YOU WERE JUST KIDDING! I WAS J/K HOPE YOU DIDNT TAKE ME SERIOUSLY. I AM HURT NOW, I WOULD NEVER BE MEAN TO YOU. YOU HAVE HELPED ME OUT!! IP: Logged |
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mightydog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 160) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:11 PM
Dlady27, If its Daddy you are looking for guess what, he is not out there. IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 113) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:13 PM
OF COURSE I was kidding....I knew you were teasing me gf - don't worry about it. IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 763) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:14 PM
girls, girls, girls. when will you ever learn. The first time a guy does something and you let him get away with it he will just keep on. You have to train us. We have no idea how to keep you happy. You like something one month then the next month it just pisses you off. You will never find the perfect man, you have to create one. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:21 PM
MightyDog, No, i want I guess here it is: someone who will: respect me, love me, care about me, have me #1 in their life, be my best friend, understand me, listen to me when I talk, give me some attention, hurt when I hurt, be happy with who I am. Also, want them to be mature, have a stable life, no crimnals, no drugs, have future goals in life, not act like a kid, take me out to nice places, show his feelings and emotions to me, be sensitive, cook dinner once in awhile, hmmmm, anything else, oh, he has to be excellent in the bedroom area,have some decent friends of his own, not live in his parents house after the age of 25, make that 23 if he is out of colllege, and have a very nice build to his body!!! [This message has been edited by Dlady27 (edited June 13, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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BigPappa Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 187) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:27 PM
"pay the bills, telephone bills." "got have a j-o-b if you wanna be with me" "I don't want no scrub" ...three songs that pretty much sum up what most woman want. IP: Logged |
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MrMuscle Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 749) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:28 PM
i dont undrstand this...the man you are describing is how i excpect al guys to be towards the girl they love.its just naturall... ------------------ "...damn you for not giving my TEST" - Metallica IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:29 PM
No No BigPappa, I work for the phone company so he doesn't need to pay the phone bill! LOL IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:31 PM
Mr. Muscle, i told you men aren't like you! These are USA men... they don't act like you. they are corrupted !! IP: Logged |
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skydancer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 113) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:32 PM
Mr M we need more men like you in this world. IP: Logged |
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MrMuscle Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 749) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:37 PM
hmm..u mean single men? ------------------ "...damn you for not giving my TEST" - Metallica IP: Logged |
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Vitaman Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 223) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:40 PM
Hey Dlady what do you mean men from USA are corrupted? Just kidding. May be your bf is seeing results but will not admit it. Good luck and keep doing what you enjoy. IP: Logged |
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Thick dog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 541) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:47 PM
One way that may work is the next time he does something mean or disrespectful, don't put out for a while. He should get the message. If he doesn't, then you guys should sit down and talk about your differences. IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:47 PM
Ummm, Yes we mean single men, you boob!!! IP: Logged |
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mightydog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 160) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:52 PM
There you have it. Mail order girlfriends/boyfriends. Well, I have a tall order of what i think is best for me too. You know in a relationship, you have to leave some slack. I leave very little slack, thats why i always keep my relationships short and sweet. Works for me. IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 03:57 PM
VITAMAN, I AM WONDERING IF MAYBE YOU HAVE A POINT THERE. YOU JUST MIGHT BE ONTO SOMETHING!!! HMMMMMM....... IP: Logged |
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Bunny55 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 113) |
posted June 13, 2000 04:16 PM
Good posts and good advise. I am involved with a younger man (8 years younger) and he did the same thing. So I set him down, told him I need the encouragement and not the comparison. If he did not provide it to me, then I would find someone who would and respect me and he can hit the door. That is not unreasonable at all in wanting the respect and incouragement from your bf. If you dont get it from him, then in time, you will naturally be drawn to a man who does provide that acceptance and encouragement. The lights went on and he did not realize what he was doing. Never done it since. Worked like magic. IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 04:21 PM
LOL IP: Logged |
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Motorhed Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 122) |
posted June 13, 2000 05:08 PM
D. always judge a man by how he treats his mother. Does he hug her, tell he loves her, etc. This guy sounds like a person that is not IN LOVE w/ you. you should be the most important person in his life. he should make you feel like YOU are the most wonderful person in the world. There are good men out there, I'm one, but engaged. boot this loser!!!! IP: Logged |
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moe dank Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 763) |
posted June 13, 2000 05:44 PM
NO CRIMINALS I am one of the nicest people you could ever meet. Just because a bunch of middle class white people cant figure out a way to tax what i do, doesnt make me a bad person. I have goals what else is there. I dont studder and on a scale of 1 to 10 I am a good 8 maybe a 9. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Beezers Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 33) |
posted June 13, 2000 08:40 PM
My ex-girl dumped me cause i was too nice. i'm still not sure what she was looking for. i loved her, respected her, and cherished her with every ounce of my soul and she still left me. i would have done anything for this girl, died for her, just to see her happy. i did anything humanly possiblr to make her feel good and be happy but she still left me. i don't get it. i was too nice and respecting and that got me no where. IP: Logged |
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bignate73 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 867) |
posted June 13, 2000 08:54 PM
i have to disagree with your "boyfriend's" tactics, or maybe hes just being arrogant. either way, dont look at all american men in that light. he may just take for granted that he has a girlfriend. its sad to say that alot of american guys probably do take their women for granted. ah well, its the way of the world. the assholes get the good chicks and the cool/nice guys are on the wayside. just keep doing what you are doing, do this for your benefit and not to get an compliment from him. his opinion is worthless, at least he has proven so thus far. keep up the good work. "you go girl"....hehe. peace IP: Logged |
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Rexie317 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 122) |
posted June 13, 2000 09:26 PM
I say you should dump his ungrateful ass and find a good guy. But now a days it seems if your a nice guy u get platonic friendships....dear God I hate that word. Yet the dick heads of society seem to get all the girls to fall head over heals for them. Not all just what I see. Every girl I ever had feelings for says "your like my brother". Things are started to pick up though for me and being the way I am will eventually pay off. Looks like moving paid off afterall. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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BIG RICK ROCK Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 426) |
posted June 13, 2000 09:44 PM
' HEY!! Dlady27 "STOP PULLING YOUR SISTER'S HAIR!!!!!!!" nah but really, don't take any hit from him, and just refuse to have sex with him if he is abusive, that will put him in line, IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 09:49 PM
yea, right... he'll just do it himself like the rest of you on here. All of you said it's easier to play with it youself then have sex with a woman. IP: Logged |
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T-BONE Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 116) |
posted June 13, 2000 09:55 PM
Hey D, I just now noticed that you live in New Stanton. Well I live in Irwin (5 min from you), If you need someone to train with to help motivate you, let me know. Not hitting on you, just trying to help you reach your goals. IP: Logged |
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MattTheSkywalker Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 1027) |
posted June 13, 2000 10:39 PM
it isn't us men. It's your boyfriend. He is a jackass. matt IP: Logged |
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Kahn Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 392) |
posted June 13, 2000 10:43 PM
I hate my first wife even more, now. I tried to encourage and support but she turned it around in her head and held it against me. I didn't even know until it came up in counselling. Just my luck, married a twisted bitch(the first time, I'm stylin now  (.Y.):PIP: Logged |
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NoviceJuicer Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 145) |
posted June 13, 2000 10:57 PM
Obviously your boyfriend just cannot be happy for whatever reason....there is no use trying. As the old Police song goes "There is a little black spot on the sun today, same old thing as yesterday..." No matter how sunny it is, all he will notice is the black spot. Now that we know that all that remains to be seen is if you are crazy. The informal definition of crazy is doing the same thing and expecting something different to happen. If you know he is determined to be cranky no matter what, then either : 1) live with it and like being with a cranky person 2) If you want someone who appreciates you, and who will respond positively to the positive things you do - move on. But this guy is going to be negative no matter what you do. Moe is right too. IP: Logged |
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Dlady27 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 155) |
posted June 13, 2000 10:59 PM
just wanted to say ..."geez, thanx Matt! why haven't you written? IP: Logged |
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cowbell Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 237) |
posted June 13, 2000 11:02 PM
Keep up the exercise and dump your piece of shit BF if he can't support you in your efforts. Keep up the good work and do not let him get you down. IP: Logged |
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Jay Z Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 706) |
posted June 14, 2000 12:26 AM
maybe you're fat...j/k ------------------ IP: Logged |
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mrbill Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 34) |
posted June 14, 2000 04:11 AM
Dlady, i think you are asking the wrong question. It shouldn't be "what is wrong with men?" , it should be why am i putting up with someone who doesn't respect me and what does that say about myself? This is not a flame, but i don't understand why people put up with jerks and then say all men are shit. It's not all men, just the one your with. IP: Logged |
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Vitaman Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 223) |
posted June 14, 2000 06:09 AM
I also think people (men and women) change after they been in a relationship for a while. Sometimes these changes are tolerable and other times they can turn into complete( ), you can fill in the blank. Dlady I bet your boyfriend was different when you first went out. Sometimes the person we first start dating turns out to be someone else and not always for the better. Just keep going to the gym and doing what you like to do. You will get your compliments from others and hopefuuly he may even hear some of those compliments. This will be your victory by having others notice the change in you while he has to sit there and hear those compliments. This is like having others do the revenge for you while all that time you are just hitting the gym and doing what you like. IP: Logged |
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mightydog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 160) |
posted June 14, 2000 08:04 AM
Let us know what you decide to do Dlady27, just curious. You know funny thing, my girl and I talk shit to each other but we know its a joke when we do. I think it helps clear the air. Theres a time and place for that. Fun people never take themselves too seriously. This is by no means a defense for your b/f, just something to think about.Good luck. IP: Logged |
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oeffler Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 23) |
posted June 14, 2000 05:10 PM
Dlady27, let me break it down to you. You see, your boyfriend knows one of the many laws of nature that you have not yet realized- If you treat your woman like crap, she will never leave you. I know this sounds bad but it is true, I mean look, are you still with this guy or not? Yes, you are. So his plan is working. I have no idea why this works, women are impossible to understand, this is just an observation I have made. [This message has been edited by oeffler (edited June 14, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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MakingGains Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 23) |
posted June 14, 2000 05:17 PM
I say talk to him on how you feel and if still act the same way get rid of him and move on in your live. Life is to short. Keep up the training, did it for yourself and not anybody else. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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