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Blood4Blood Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 46) |
posted June 06, 2000 09:35 PM
 
I'm very, very attached to my girlfriend. I can honestly say I have never felt for anyone quite like I feel for her. Something is troubling me though. She gets shit on by all her "friends" Let me explain. She is the type of person who will bend over backwards for you. Anything that she is capable of doing, she will do it for you, no questions asked. The problem is that because of this, shitbags always take advatage of her. People use her. They shit on her. They abuse her mentally, break her stuff and blame it on her. No one even shows appreciation for what she does for them. And she takes it. And she calls these same people her friends. She knows she's getting fucked over, but she takes it anyway. She just keeps on letting anyone with the inclination fuck her over. I'm having a really hard time dealing with it. It gives me a very negative view of the world when this happens (every day) It's like casting pearls before swine, I can't stand to see somone I care about so deeply get hurt so bad everyday. I'll admit that she is weak for letting people do this to her. But it doesn't do anything to ease the pain by saying I have a weak girlfriend. ___________ It's like I always say. Guys like me and you, people like us, were like eeer royalty in exile, born to lose, ya know? White Trash Rob IP: Logged |
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goleafs Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 110) |
posted June 06, 2000 09:39 PM
 just emphasize to her that she needs to say NO more often. tell her to do it , like once a day for a week (then up the doses-just like gear). it could also be an inferiority thing , in which case a pro might be needed. for what its worth: i cant stand dirtbags that walk all over people like that. they make me sick. good luck man. IP: Logged |
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Kahn Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 304) |
posted June 06, 2000 10:19 PM
Fuck that--RIP the bastards. No shit, man, as soon as somebody shits on her, sucker the fuckers right on the noggin bone. Word gets out that this is the trade now and she's got all the respect nice people need. Fear works, try it! IP: Logged |
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goleafs Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 110) |
posted June 06, 2000 10:21 PM
or...go with khans reply. both should work just fine IP: Logged |
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Basement Dweller Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 19) |
posted June 06, 2000 10:34 PM
Bro, sounds like she has low self esteem. Help her find something that she can be successful at, which will help her build her self esteem (maybe something like weight training). Then she will realize that she doesn't need to do things for people in order to feel good about herself. She will feel good about herself for who she is, and will tell her "friends" to take a hike. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Blood4Blood Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 46) |
posted June 06, 2000 10:36 PM
Kahn, there is nothing I would like to do more. If you see a cockroach in your house, what do you do? Ya smash it and don't think twice. These people are worse than cockroaches, if you ask me. But there is 2 problems with my doing that 1. Her friends are girls. I don' think I would score too many brownie points beating down a bunch of chicks. IP: Logged |
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Blood4Blood Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 46) |
posted June 06, 2000 10:40 PM
Basement, your absolutly right, she has horrible self esteem. That's a big part of it. Come to think of it, there really is nothing that she does and feels good about giving her all too. That gets me thinking IP: Logged |
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Joseph_stalin Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 630) |
posted June 07, 2000 03:13 AM
theres no evidence that she has low self esteem. maybe she is just too kind to hurt other people. IP: Logged |
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Kahn Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 304) |
posted June 07, 2000 11:22 AM
I lmao picturing you slamming chicks in the head at random, but you're right. Try telling her to be proud of the fact that she is the best friend her friends have. It isn't doing them any good to be poor friends to her so she should take a stand for the good people. Tell the sorry, but I can't help you. Tell her she is who she is and there are plenty of people that aren't that good to others. She should be proud of that and be able to stand alone on that fact by itself. Then sucker punch the boyfriend of the chick. See how much they love him!(kidding of course)(maybe) How about you leveling with her friends and telling them that it is hurting your girls feelings? What about bringing up the proper treatment in front of them? IP: Logged |
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Thick dog Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 417) |
posted June 07, 2000 11:42 AM
If she has a low self esteem then you should be exceptionally nice to her. This should help her a lot. I have been with girls with low self esteems before who feel like they have to be liked by eveyone in order to be accepted. I have found that you have to be extra complimentary to them. Tell her to blow her friends off next time the walk all over her. Maybe this will change their attitudes. IP: Logged |
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Peanut Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 198) |
posted June 07, 2000 11:42 AM
My wife is the same way. The only person she will say NO to is me. I've gotten to the point that I don't give her any sympathy when she comes to me bitching and complaining because she got fucked over again. I tell her every single time that she needs to learn that two letter word "NO", but so far she has refused to do so. It has gotten to the point that she will bend over backwards for other people but probably wouldn't even piss on me if I was on fire. She has had some problems with her self-esteem and these two are a direct correlation of each other. The only thing I can say to you is make sure you make her aware of every time she gets shitted on, maybe one day she will realize that it is happening way too often. I don't know if I helped but wanted to let you know that your not the only one out there experiencing this. IP: Logged |
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Blood4Blood Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 46) |
posted June 08, 2000 06:29 PM
Thanx Bros IP: Logged |
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