posted May 20, 2000 01:16 PM            

So my best friend comes and picks me up anmd we head up to the bar for some liquid healing. He calls me while I am there and I tell him I am obviously not in a position to talk and for him to call me when he gets up the next day. Soooooooo, he doesn't call the next day or yesterday (yeah i know hes a dick), and I don't want to call him b/c I wanted to give him time to sort out his thoughts and whatnot, but I am not gonna sit here for a week wondering if I still have a boyfriend or not...So heres the question...Should i call or not...If u were him would u want me to call?

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"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.."

posted May 20, 2000 01:20 PM            

Make him come to you, he is the one that called the shot in the first place, let him be man enough to finish it.

In my opinion, calling him would be somewhat of a signal of submission to him.

posted May 20, 2000 01:28 PM            

NOPE!! don't call, if someone has made up in there mind that they don't need you, or the relationship is going no were, then he doesnt feel the same way about you, as you feel for him, and probibly never will.

me and my girlfriend broke up 2 days ago after 3 years, because me and a friend were talking to 2 other girls in a parking lot, because she was wanting to know how much i was selling my car for, then my girlfriend drove by, and saw us, and she wont talk to me anymore.......little does she know, that the girls we were talking to were 16, 6 years younger than me, and they both had boyfriends. it's just funny that she's so stooped, and didnt even bother to ask me what's up..........

posted May 20, 2000 03:47 PM            

Call him and tell him it has been fun, you will always remember the good times, goodbye.

If you drag out the break up you will end up hating each other, trust me I have been there. goodluck and it will only hurt for a while.

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IF YOUR NOT MAD ENOUGH TO BITE SOMEONES EAR OFF, YOUR NOT MAD

posted May 20, 2000 03:58 PM            

WCP and the Buff-man are right...It's an ego thing with men....we all like to be pursued...that's what he wants....time apart may make the realtionship stronger.....it may break it completely, it's always a gamble.

My personal opinion is that it takes two to make a realtionship work...not one who is moody being carried by the very backbone of the couple(you)!!

Give him time...while you can have more time for your friends....enjoy it......let freedom ring......who knows who you will meet...cause, It's all good sister!!!

posted May 20, 2000 05:22 PM            

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A coward dies many deaths, but the valiant die but once.

posted May 20, 2000 07:46 PM            

There is no point in calling him. He's the one that he needs time to sort things out, so let him do that.

In the meantime, do a few things without him. Have some fun with your girlfriends. Go to a different club next weekend if you haven't heard from him. There are a lot of clubs in the Long Island/NY city area. ha ha

Seriosuly - he went away from you - let him come back

posted May 20, 2000 08:05 PM            

The secret at least for us has been that neither of us take ourselves too seriously.
We realize the ups and downs of life, but unless it happens to be life threatening, don't sweat the small stuff-it will pass.

Sum it up this way: Enjoy yourself and life, nobody knows that like you do. If you get caught up with mental conflicts within, trust your instincts, act on them. You may make mistakes but that is how we learn-by making them. Just keep moving forward. If your boyfriend is truly devoted to you, he will follow. If he doesn't, then he was not worthy of you in the first place.

posted May 20, 2000 11:00 PM            

My story:My ex and I broke up at the end of Jan, well it was a break so to speak...well by the time Valentines day had come and go we decided we were going to continue the break and not get involved seriously with anyone...FastForward to Last night...Thanks to my neighbor down the road who called me to get me into a yahoo chat room...I found out my ex is now engaged...I laughed and starting making a joke out of it and soon as she knew it was me...she started getting all defensive and questioning all the girls I knew there, as if she was my girlfriend still....What a joke...

So the moral of the story....take charge and screw being nice I hung around and wasted to much time trying to Figure things out so to speak.....There's a time for sensitive and understanding and theres a time to go to the matresses....

Go and Stand Tall...end of peptalk

posted May 21, 2000 02:24 AM            

For once Ranger old man..Ill say..your not full of shit..heh..heh..heh..

Blackhaus...dont go naked..unless you send me digital pics...heh..heh.. we can trade...hAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!..

posted May 21, 2000 02:57 AM            

i can only speak for me but if the girl i love asks me if she's the one or if we have a future i'd step right up and say "HELL YEAH"

i don't mean to be a downer. if you're the one he'd speak up with out a thought. but that's just me.

i hope you find what you're looking for!

posted May 21, 2000 08:36 PM            

Hope you didn't call. Because if you do, and you "bawl him out" (How old are you? 15?), all that will do is show him that he can shit on you whenever he wants.

Do you want to be shit on? If he doesn't know if he wants a relationship, guess what? He doesn't.

Here's a reality check: He's working on someone else right now. If it doesn't work, he'll come back to you because he knows you'll be there for him. So this time don't be. Unless of course you want to be thought of as Plan B.

How about this: you don't deserve that shit. Fuck him.

Matt

posted May 22, 2000 07:57 PM            

to give up your heart is a big thing, and if he is going to ? how he feels, then he obviously does not give 2 shits about your feelings.

I think he went out and cheated on you. After he was done he felt bad and realized u might the one worth waiting for. BUT he fucked up.

posted May 22, 2000 09:08 PM            

Blackhaus1: - No flame but the "15" comment was because I don't think he even really deserves your attention unless he can show up in person and apologize and maybe then you can forgive him. Maybe.

REDHOT: I disagree about men not knowing what we want. More accurately, I think, we don't always know when it is there.

But then again REDHOT, you live in Alabama and from what I have seen of that place, 99% of the guys are worthless.

Matt

posted May 24, 2000 11:40 AM            

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A coward dies many deaths, but the valiant die but once.

posted May 24, 2000 03:30 PM            

Been married 15 years and don't have to play the game anymore.....but remember how....

good luck

posted May 24, 2000 03:59 PM            

I can't answer your question about would I want you to call if I were him.....because if I had the opportunity he has, I surely wouldn't be acting like he is.