posted May 09, 2000 03:36 PM         

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I'm not proud of it but it seems that I have a tendency to do this alot. I guess it is just the fear of committment or I'm too damn horny for my own good. Am I alone in this or do all of you battle this problem also. I would love to get some girls perspectives on this one too.

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posted May 09, 2000 03:48 PM         

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if you want a chicks perspective i think that is a terrible thing to do...if you feel the need to cheat on her you shouldnt be with her at all...its not right...

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posted May 09, 2000 03:57 PM            

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Just my opinion, but that is just human nature for man. We are the kings of the forest and we must find and conqure every and anything. That is just what men do, we lie and say o never would i do that, but put me in a room with pam anderson and watch what happens. Guys can get just as caught up over the hottie on the street. It is the forbiden fruit that is the most tempting and if we can get our hands on it believe me we will bite the shit out of it. Just my .02

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posted May 09, 2000 04:11 PM         

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Let me re-word that last sentence. Are there any women on this board that find themselves in this same predicament, cheating on their guys. I know it happens, it has happened to me many times. Sorry if it came out the wrong way.

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posted May 09, 2000 04:18 PM            

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Sure it happens and what the hell in discussing it. Just that the juice seem to make you feel like you can just live in the edge all the time. So you push boundaries, from sex, to about everything you do.
I dont think you are any different than most humans and if you choose to cross that line, then it is between you and your spouse, or you and your gf or bf. No ones business or judgement should be passed.
It does have consequences thougth. Be ready to face them if you want to play, otherwise, stay single!!

Bunny

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posted May 09, 2000 05:20 PM            

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Man bro,

I hate to sound soft, but I would hate to have somebody cheating on me. I aways think the other guy knows me and is laughing at me when he is doing my girl. Maybe that sounds crazy, but It keeps me from doing it to them. I can say only one time in highschool did I do this to somebody, I got a BJ from another girl, but me and my girlfriend were only together a couple of weeks and I broke up with her because of it. I did not tell her that I did that, but just told her we were to young to be hanging with each other 10 hours a day 7 days a week. She was upset, but I am sure it would of been worse if she knew. Anyway next time you feel like screwing another girl think about another guy screwing your girl! That may help curve you hard-on.

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posted May 09, 2000 05:32 PM            

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Good point checkmate!! No one sees the harm in cheating until they picture their woman cheating on them. Somehow there is not the same attitude or understanding. From past experiences of getting cheated on, it hurts like hell and why would you want to put someone through that. And then going back to their bed after you have been with someone else????Shows a lack of respect or any kind of integrity. I am committed to one and one only. I don't even take the time to look at anyone else. I am so obsessed with my man that no one else could ever hold my interest.

Contrary to popular opinion, though we are mammals, we are not animals and can control our sexual desires. It is not a seasonal thing for us to mate and not a necessity, but a desire. A person can survive without sex, not very happily or content, but can be done. Human's have one thing no other species has and that is SELF CONTROL. We have the ability to stop and think about what the consequences might be and act on that instead of primal desire. Too many people act now and worry about consequences later. Could be why there are so many unhappy or broken families, marriages, and relationships.

I don't know guys, but I treasure my relationship way too much to risk having a quick fling to satisfy something only my husband could satisfy anyway.

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posted May 09, 2000 05:32 PM            

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i have no respect for people who cheat,
and i hope everyone who does, get's cursed for the rest of there lives, and will never have a long-term relationship.

oh yeah, i have never hit a women before,
and i never would, unless she cheated on me, that's only good enough reason,

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posted May 09, 2000 06:04 PM            

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Short, to the point, well-said. I give Big Bad Buff a "10".

Mrs. TG

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posted May 09, 2000 08:11 PM         

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I have to agree with Mrs TG. She hit it right on the head. I'm very happy with my man and don't want or need no other. I do
check out other men, but I would never act on it. I think it's more of an admiration of a well built body.

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posted May 09, 2000 08:33 PM         

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if you feel the need to cheat then you shouldn't be in the relationship. thats probably a sign that things weren't meant to be in the first place.

if your too horny for your own good, then you got some issues to deal with...

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posted May 09, 2000 08:44 PM            

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I have done it. It was kind of difficult not to in college. It was even more difficult, because I was an accomplished football player. You also have to take into consideration Spring Break and Spring semester. All of the women in college, so ready to show off their bodies, and so willing to experiment.

I wasn't proud of what I had done, especially after my significant other found out. The only thing I can say is avoid it if you can. Go against what your instincts as a man tell you, and try to put the lust into your personal relationship. God, all of those experiences in College were extremely fun though.

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posted May 09, 2000 08:49 PM            

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Make her feel like a woman in everything that you do......be her friend.....conservation. The keys to a good realtionship......Me?.....I'll stick to poetry, and novels....heh heh heh...too much pain on both sides....doesn't matter who cheated....the pain is there!!!

Ranger

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posted May 09, 2000 08:52 PM            

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Oh Yeah,
Ladies.......VERY impressive.....any man that wouldn't stick beside any one of you, has to be the dumbest sumbitch on the face of this earth.....Just my 2$ worth...Peace!!!!

Ranger

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posted May 10, 2000 02:57 AM            

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hmmmm...well fortunately..my girl is very open to most things..so this is not a problem...I have plenty of variety in my life..and it works very well.

I will not apologize for being a predator by nature. Im not saying that women arent special or should be objectified by any means..cause I say god bless em all...but I refuse to deny myslef the fruits of this life.

Now if on the other hand..things were different with my gal and I..then no I would not do that. I respect and love her too much.
Its pretty cut and dried for me. Simple enough..

"Mankind...who because of his "superior intellect" is often the same, if not in most cases worse than his brethern that walk on all fours" ---Anton Lavey

WCP

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posted May 10, 2000 03:11 AM            

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Having been through the temptation, I can say I'm glad I didn't and won't. It would ruin the relationship I have with my best friend and his wife. I'd rather cut my throat then to ruin their marrage. So don't do it, you will have to live with your self afterwords.....Think about it carefully and disregard your hormones if your jacked up on 'roids. Having said that I would like to warn you all, it's not worth the risk, no matter what. I love my best friend and his wife too much to even really consider it. He's so lucky to have her, now I just have to convince him of that, God himself knows how lucky he is, she is special and no matter what her little idiosyncratic tendancies, she is she's worth it..I wish I was so lucky, but it's not to be....sigh.
Some day soon I'll find her..God willing of course...

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posted May 10, 2000 04:33 AM            

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Do hookers count?

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posted May 10, 2000 04:42 AM            

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I cheated on my first wife, but I wasnt happy 2 yrs into the marriage. It was a nightmare of a relationship and we just didnt relate. I was into fitness, she was into eating, I was proactive, she was a complainer. Ah well...that's the past. That was a while ago. I got married again last Sept. and my wife is WONDERFUL! I cant imagine life without her and she brings me so much happiness and joy! I couldnt imagine cheating on her and I would never have a reason to because I'm totally happy with her and I love her deeply. I didnt have this feeling in my first marriage. My wife is just magnificent...plus she's a personal trainer!!! Woo hoooooooooo!

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posted May 10, 2000 11:40 AM         

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cheater here ( hand raised ) I just got caught on New Years day this year. Damn that sucks, I felt soo bad. Then they started fighting about who I was going to stay with etc... the other one cleand out my checking account, changed the message on my beeper, called my Mom. It was very bad situation.

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posted May 10, 2000 11:51 AM            

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I guess I will have to raise both my hands on this one. While I was in college I cheated on many of my girlfriends but they were never real serious relationships. Since I met my wife I have curbed those desires to cheat. If you finally meet someone that you really care about those desires will never surface.

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posted May 10, 2000 12:47 PM            

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I've never cheated. I just stay single. Then I don't have to worry about it.

Too easy.

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posted May 10, 2000 01:15 PM            

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I never cheat, I ask permission.

If you love the women your with you shouldnt lie or do anything behind her back. If you love her be honest. If she loves you she will understand and you can work something out.

If your willing to cheat, you should be willing to let your partner be with other people as well. If you cant handle that you dont need to be sleeping around.

Sometimes the people most willing to cheat are the most jealous when they catch thier partner.

Fair is fair, and love and sex are two seperate things.

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posted May 10, 2000 04:09 PM            

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Mr Texas Guns is a lucky man, I have been reading Ms Guns posts for months now and your realtionship seems excellent. You remind me a lot of my lady and that is a very good thing! Props to you both.

Slopain

spoon haha hookers, damn. hehe

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posted May 11, 2000 02:08 AM            

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When I first got engaged, I started to get anxiety about being with only one girl for the rest of my life. I work with a bunch of girls and I knew that a couple of them were definately into me, so I took advantage of the situation. I nailed a couple of them a couple of times, but then I started to feel guilty, and couldn't do it any more.

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posted May 11, 2000 04:35 PM            

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i have cheated on several of my girlfriends. it is not something to proud of and definately speaks volumes about the relationship your in. the hardest part is i always seem to be much more attractive to the opposite sex when i am in a relationship (anyone else have this problem). when i have a girlfriend i have to beat the girls off at the bar. when i am single i get nothing but dirty looks. thats my excuse and i'm stickin with it.

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posted May 11, 2000 05:20 PM            

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Yeah jorje, thats the undeniable truth women want men who are wanted by other women, younger ones anyways, and if you also in a relationship you become even more desirable.

Slopain

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posted May 11, 2000 08:53 PM            

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I FEEL GUILTY IF I DON'T CHEAT.
I HAVE A CHEATN HEART, I AM A CHEATN FOOL
I CHEAT EVERYTIME I INJECT MYSELF

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posted May 11, 2000 09:03 PM            

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Know what? Everybody cheats. That's right. Everybody. And everybody lies about it. There are no intimate relationships, only intimate moments.

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posted May 12, 2000 09:22 PM         

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theres no easy way to build trust. it comes with time... just be patient. you'll learn to trust again...err i hope

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posted May 15, 2000 07:36 PM         

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Call me old fashioned but under no circumstances whatsoever is cheating right or acceptable. I have never cheated but I have had my last three girls friends cheat on me. For five years I can't get in another relationship for fear of being hurt like that again. If your relationship is at a point where you feel you need to cheat to get "fulfilment" you should either talk about it and work through it or end the relationship before you act it out. It is completely dishonorable to cheat on someone you have made a commitment to! You lose trustworthiness and that carries into the other aspects of your character as well. People that I know cheat will NEVER have my trust!!! My thoughts

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