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 I need some serious help with this - ~posted under a new name~
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Novice 
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This is kind of scattered, but this is the best I can do right now. I can usually put concepts together better than this, but I�m a mental wreck right now. Here�s the deal - Every couple of weeks I get hit with some sort of jealousy thing. I guess she�s convinced herself that I am some big stud, trying to screw as many women as I possibly can (or some damn thing). We�re talking chicks at they gym�trainers, members�women that race on the boat on overnight races (there are no women in the crew)...and of course I�m screwing a couple of women that I work with (not). Then there�s the email thing. She seems to think that all these women (or men?) from EF and elsewhere are emailing me. Emailing me about what I have not a clue. Last night she had a look at my email � AND FOUND NOTHING! I send myself more stuff from work than anything else. (I bet she felt stupid after that) I have been nothing but honest and true to her, yet every-so-often she comes at me sideways and forces me into defensive/pissed off mode by implying that �there is SOMETHING going on�. Our sex life is good, home life is good�.her kids love me�she treats me great...I love her...yet I feel like I can not take this jealousy thing much longer. Does anyone else have this hind of crap going on? What should I do? I don't want to end the relationship and ask for the engagement ring back. I am at a total loss on this one. I guess I'm RaTpHuKeD.    | ||
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Freak 
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um, talk to her, communicate! let her know how you feel and what its do'n to you and how her actions are affecting you relationship. let her know shes really close to ruining what you have. simple as dat.  | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 1430 |
homegirl doesn't sound like she trusts you, that's the bottom line. she's either insecure with herself or you exhibit flirty behavior with other women that causes her to be jealous and insecure about you. figure out which one it is. if it's her, try to either help her or get her some help. if it's you either cut out the flirty non-trustworthy behavior or let her go and continue it. good luck pHuKeDRaT. this sounds like a big buck type problem. | ||
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Freak
Posts: 2320 |
quote: true dat. Dawg, trust is the basis for a good relationship. If she don't trust you then u don't need to be with her. As SS mentioned, I get this shit alot from girls. They're always jealous, thinking I'm sleeping around, (they ain't never gonna catch me though, my game is too tight)...but anywayz, just flat out tell her "if u don't trust me, then we don't need to be together". | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 378 |
lesson I'VE learned recently: keep the email secure, or at least keep nothing incriminating in there. i got snooped but nothing bad was found, as a result, i'm more trusted now than i should be. your fianc� should be reassured that she meddled and found nothing....if she's not, you might have yourself a chronic problem... | ||
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Novice
Posts: 6 |
She even had one of her friends email me in an attempt to hook up over the 'net...another test that I passed. | ||
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Freak
Posts: 2297 |
ok now thats fuked up. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 760 |
wwo! thats bad | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 451 |
That's called entrapment. Confront her with it and tell her it doesn't bode well for your relationship. | ||
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Freak
Posts: 2280 |
I agree with Gil here..."she is fucked up!!!" & you cannot change a woman like that! | ||
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Novice
Posts: 6 |
I'm starting to see a trend here....and I just talked to her. She told me that this will never happen again. I had to remind her that I have heard this before. I didn't go in to this relationship wanting to be the "repair man", but is it possible to help someone that is so insecure? | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1273 |
Sounds like it's time to tell her to put this shit to rest or hit the road Why would you put up with this shit? Will she not get with the program? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 451 |
Is relationship therapy a possibility? Sounds like this could be worked out with some help. Good luck. |
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posted March 08, 2001 12:52 PM