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 Any ideas on finding inner peace...(Not a joke post)
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Elite Bodybuilder 
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A few of you might know my "life story" over the past year now, and I have finally come to the conclusion that I don't feel an inner peace with myself, and that many factors have influenced this. What factors might make a collegeguy who has no real world problems such as paying bills have. The girl I was making plans with to get married out of the blue drops me from her life. Ok I get a bit depressed having just moved across Texas for her, but I move on...Same time my parents seperate because my dad after 20+ years of marriage realizes he's just not happy...Once again depressing but I do what I can to move on. School becomes very difficult for me because of the outside distractions and my "Inability" to close them off. I still try, but just don't feel that I'm really doing my best reguardless of how much work I put into it and my grades start to show. Most of my friends and I have all gone our seperate ways after a bad incident involving money...Ok thats a bit depressing but I move on and amd still trying and making new friends. Lots of living arrangement issues that would really piss off everyone, but I deal the best I know how to and try moving on. then I start to realize that "moving on" from those issues hasn't been helpful cause With the exception of my living arrangements mainly a certain roomate I haven't dwelled on this crap. I just do not feel at peace with myself. Nor do I feel like I have on a subconscious level dealt with those issues properly. I'm sure everyone or some people at least have reached this point in their lives where they don't feel that inner peace that they know they should have. I'm sorry for this rambling but I don't feel productive with my life and felt compelled to ask for opinions and simliar stories from people, since at this time I'm not in contact with many people who I feel at ease talking about such an issue.     | ||
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Olympian 
Posts: 1660 |
FIND SOMETHING YOU LIKE DOING AND DO IT WELL. ME,I LIKE POWERLIFTING AND BODYBUILDING. I ALSO LIKE EXOTIC SPORTS CARS. COME TO THINK OF IT,I OVE TOO MANY THINGS!! ------------------ DONT ASK ME TWICE,UNLESS YOU WANT TWO BLACK EYES. YOU CANNOT IGNORE GENIUS.
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Olympian
Posts: 1866 |
I agree with the Beast, find something you enjoy doing, and do it! I'm not exactly "living the college life," either, but it's my decision! I prefer crashin' early so I can hit the gym the next morning instead of goin' out drikin' 5 nights a week! Drop me an e-mail if you want to chat... Look at it this way, at least you're not a T-sip, hehe... ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 420 |
first off, bro, let me say I sympathize and wish you the best of luck. don't get too down on yourself... the fact the you are even aware enough to understand where your life lacks is a HUGE testament to your ability to achieve what you want in your situation. At the risk of elevating everyone's estrogen levels (and being ridiculed by the EF population), I'm going to reccomend some books. I have spend the last 5 years or so of my life really trying to focus on the things you are talking about, so please trust me on some of these suggested readings: Conscious Loving, by Gay and Katherine Hendricks. In fact, just start with those. I just finished reading Conscious Loving after my breakup with my girlfriend. It's kinda geared toward relationships, but I think you will find it of GREAT help. It is a wonderful book. It will definitely help you deal with those issues that you brought up. Also, if you are interested and serious about this, tell me what city you are in. My stepmother is a remarkable therapist and has helped me beyond measure. I'm sure she could reccomend a good therapist in your area who will give you the tools you need to improve yourself in the way you describe. Best of luck in THE journey of life. Its really the only one that counts. And most people never even start on it. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 379 |
These are my songs to you, I don't usually dedicate songs to guys I don't know but here you go, from me to you (don't laugh) Barry Manilow "I Made It Through The Rain" & Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance" download them if you can and listen (really listen) to the words.... ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1114 |
thanks kartchick83...the lyrics to(I hope you dance) were encouraging and (I made it through the rain) well whenever I find that inner peace again that will be the song I have in mind | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 313 |
Been a rough ride for you as of late...Sorry! It's so darn easy to let the crap in life get you down. Harder to push forward. Life is all about choices. You can either decide to learn from the bad experiences or let them eat you alive. Keep the focus on your goals for school and training at the gym. Keep all the other shit on a back burner...or it will eat you alive! Taking time for you and what ever makes you happy is what you need to do right now. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 379 |
You're welcome, I hope you find what you are looking for, I have come from the depths of hell at one time, it's a rough road but you will get through..... ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 420 |
quote: I disagree. You even said in your post that you don't feel like you've dealt with your issues properly on a subconscious level. You put that shit on the "back burner" and you are just asking for trouble. | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 2655 |
We are all waiting to die. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1114 |
yep. I think all the issues haven't fallen off the backburner just adding to the flame I'm dealing with now I'm in San Marcos which is just South of Austin...My mom also mentioned talking with a therapist about all the issues early tonight when I brought this up and she admitted after I confronted her about things that her and my father are getting a divorce That brought my issues and the feelings about them full circle | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 313 |
Originally posted by StoneColdGold: I disagree. You even said in your post that you don't feel like you've dealt with your issues properly on a subconscious level. You put that shit on the "back burner" and you are just asking for trouble. ----------------------------------- Shit( meaning)His mom and dad's problems. That has nothing to do with his life. His folks will always love him - THOSE kind of problems are HIS mom and dad's problems-he can not change certain things that go wrong in other people's lives.Sorry, I should have made myself more clear SG. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1133 |
Just remember, when you get down - we are the elite. Focus on whatever your training goals are. Everyone here will back you up and offer you support you even though we all take the piss! Personally I think you need a good hard slap in the face. Think positive and look at all the good things you've got. If you walk around depressed all the time you will never move upwards. | ||
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Mutant  
Posts: 3474 |
True inner peace can only come from within. U cannot find it through owning, or doing. You buy a thing, and eventually the luster and joy fades. You do something and that too will lose it's brilliance. You must learn to look within yourself to find inner peace, that's why it's called inner peace in the first place. Everything in this world is based on a system of duality. Therefore no matter what thing or event you find that you enjoy from this world you will also find something about that thing that will or does bring you sadness. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 50 |
I used to get down because of lots of things, its a vicious circle whereby even small things start to hit you in the end and time passes by and is worthless to you. Putting up with this kind of pressure makes you a very strong person as you have to come out of it everytime, you just have to realise you can also use this and channel the rage and depression you get from events like this into attaining goals for yourself. Thats what I did anyway, I was so sick of being low I shut myself off from everything and channeled my rage into what I wanted out of life and got focused on what I wanted. Too many people go through life talking and not doing, let the talkers be talkers and use what you have learnt and been through to make you a do'er. Leave the rest behind. You have the ability to change and mould yourlife as finely tuned as you want, dont let anything or anyone get in your way. Dont let time pass you by. Good luck man, I sympathise with you dude. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 50 |
The only way I found to get inner peace was to take on everything. If you want to sit around and just die, then good for you, but I couldnt be like that. Bruce Lee summed it up with: "Seriously, if you always put limits on what you can do, physical or anything else, it'll spread over into the rest of your life. It'll spread into your work, into your morality, into your entire being. There are no limits. There are plateaus, but you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. If it kills you, it kills you. A man(woman) must constantly exceed his level"-Bruce Lee I found inner peace in that. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 114 |
Just 10 to 15 minutes per day of meditation allows me to deal and banish my perosnal demons. I occasionaly go to a Zen temple to do this. Grotto. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 62 |
Grotto - What exactly do you do when you meditate brother? | ||
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Novice 
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The only way I have found to inner peace is to let go of my past problems and resentments and look to a higher power to help guide me. Left to my own will,I managed to get drunk, drive my motorcycle off the road,and kill my girlfriend at that time. Since then, I went back and finished college while waiting for my sentencing. I got reengaged to the love of my life. Then, her dad died of cancer, she freaked and broke up with me, and two weeks later I got sentenced And off to jail I went. I spent about a year locked up and still have 6 1/2 yrs. probation, and $30,000 fines and restitution.Needless to say, I have to find some sort of peace or I will freak. I just take it one day at a time and rely on a higher power to help me out. Things could always be better, all and all I am usually at peace. I know this when I lay down at night and my mind doesn't race and I rest peacefully. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 411 |
Crazy1: meditation = stopping your thoughts. At first people will assert that it can't be done, cause after all, what's a mind for but to have thoughts? But it can be done, and it's definitely worth learning. And it's not Religion. It's often associated or taught by religious institutions, but meditiation itself is not Religion. TxCollegeguy - welcome to the world. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 556 |
Tx -- individual counseling can make a world of difference. ------------------ Copyright � 2001 TheMachine Company, Inc. | ||
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Olympian
Posts: 1678 |
THIS IS A GREAT QUESTION...BECAUSE I TOO AM INSEARCH ON INNER PEACE I THINK THAT ONLY WAY TO TRULEY BE AT PEACE WITH ONE SELF IS TO FIRST BE COMPLETELY COMFORTABLE WITH WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU ARE MADE OF ....YOU TO BE ABLE TO LOVE YOURSELF WITHOUT CRITICIZING YOURSELF ...ONCE YOU HAVE THAT ....THEN YOU MUST LEARN TO LOVE EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE AROUND YOU ...I KNOW IT SOUNDS CHEESY BUT I REALLY BELIEVE THAT ONCE YOU CAN DO THOSE 2 THINGS THEN YOU WILL..BE THAT MUCH CLOSER TO INNER PEACE
------------------ "modus operandi" "hesitation is the mother of all regret" | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 851 |
 i need to be taking this advice badly | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 132 |
Honestly man, you want to do some soul searching and try and find inner peace, do some fresh psychadelic mushrooms, grow them yourself and do them around someone you know and trust. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 60 |
vixenbabe i just want to say that you are fucking dumb if you think his parents problems cant affect him. that could be a major cause of the depression. pard my language but this is a sensitive subject for me. sorry for calling you fucking dumb but oh well!!! ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 259 |
burndaddy's 2 cents, try to focus on the really important things ie: your health your family and close friends and your spirituality... spend time everyday defining to yourself what you believe inner peace to be then before you go to bed write a list of gaols to be completed the next day, the first few gaols should be something that make feel good about yourself... remember inner peace is good but if you are to content you will loose the drive and determination that comes with emotional conflict... ------------------ |
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