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Novice 
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Hi everybody I really need some help with this one, as this situation is driving me up the wall, not to mention one of the parties involved�. Anyways, I regularly post on this board, but I registered a new name just for �user protection� on my part. So here�s the story: almost three years ago I met this great girl at a party who had just moved into town from San Diego. She invited me over to her house to smoke a bowl when she overheard me talking to my friend about doing that. I immediately gave the girl major props just for having the guts to come up to me and talk to me since most girls are intimidated as shit by my size. To make a very long story short, this girl quickly became my girlfriend, and although she is a few years older than me (she�s now 31, I�m now 27), I can literally find NOTHING wrong with her. She�s a knockout, she�s the nicest girl you would ever meet, totally honest, hardworking, sweet, good sense of humor, everything�. She�s a nurse in training, finishing up nursing school, knows about my gear use, and is fine with it. She�s been to mexico with me a number of times to get it even, not to mention her giving me test suspension injections a few times! We always have a great time together, never fight, she�s very open minded and intelligent and always has a perspective on life that I feel like adds to my existence. My family loves her and so do all my friends. We started training together at the gym (at her request) a few times per week about six months ago. I keep pretty busy in my life with my job and playing music, so I think she wanted to take every opportunity that she could to spend time with me, which I appreciate. We went to the Arnold last year in ohio, and she�s been getting very interested in the whole fitness thing, which I believe she would do very well at if she wanted to because she�s in very good shape, has the cleanest diet of anybody I know, and does whatever she puts her mind too � not to mention that she�s got a killer body. So anyway, being the dog that I am, I�ve cheated on her a few times over the years. None of these girls really meant anything to me, but I almost felt justified in doing it since I was so young when I first met her and hadn�t quite yet experienced all the girls that I wanted to, even though I was completely (or so I thought) happy with her. She never found out about any of these girls, thank god, and I thought that after the last one last summer, I was done with that whole drill. Well, of course, somebody came into my life about six months ago who has made a significant impact on me. I first met this girl over the phone, as she was calling me from the place she worked at from a yellow pages advertisement that I put in the phone book in that area for my business (its about 100 miles away). It was rather odd, but we immediately hit it off over the phone even though the topic of conversation was initially about business. She is about four years younger than me, almost 24 now. Even though I never ended up getting this account, she called me a couple of weeks later just to chat. It was during this conversation that she revealed to me that she had appeared in an issue of playboy a few years ago. Having never met this girl, but already having had my interest high from our phone conversations, I became smitten with her. We talked a number of times during the next few months, usually she called me, when one Saturday night I came home very late from a concert that I was at (in her area, ironically), and she had emailed me and also left me a message on my voice mail. She was at a hotel about halfway between where she lived and where I lived and had gotten into a huge physical confrontation with her boss � who had been after her since day one that she had worked there � and she was going to drive home to the state where she is from, about halfway across the country (we�re in California). So she wanted to meet me before she left. She came out very late that night, and to make a long story short again, she ended up staying with me for almost a month. We got along very well, had a lot of fun, got to know each other, it was a blast. I temporarily broke up with girl one, citing a recent dispute that we had had regarding the amount of time that we were able to see each other, so that wasn�t a factor. I was just riding the wave, until a couple of weeks in, that it was obvious that girl number two�s money would soon run out. We talked about her staying in the area and getting a job, which she did very quickly, but I finally decided that I thought she should go back to her home state and make a decision about what she really wanted from there. This girl had become very attached to me by this point. She really didn�t want to leave, but I basically made her, which she did a few days before Christmas. Once she left, we have stayed in very close contact, email a few times per day, talk a few times per week. This wouldn�t be a problem, but of course, things restarted with girl one during the latter part of girl two�s stay here. When I wasn�t able to see girl one during those weeks, I realized how much I missed her, and I basically made the decision that I had made a mistake and that girl one really was the one for me. I thought that things would just go back to being the same once girl two left. They have, and now, they�re actually even better. But now that girl two is gone, I miss her a lot. If you guys could see some of these emails I get from this girl, you would know how crazy she is about me. I know that people will say this is not possible, but I really love both of these girls. They are both, in their own way, perfect for me, and I know that I could be with either one of them long term if I wanted to. They are both head over heals about me, I get along great with both of them, and they�re both what I want in a woman. My dilemma is what to do here. Girl one does not know about girl two, but girl two knows about girl one and our history, and has more and more been putting on the heat for me to choose. Me and girl two are going to meet in Arizona in about three weeks for four days, and I�m thinking that maybe I�ll be able to make a better decision at that point, but I really don�t know what to do here. Girl one simply proceeds with me like there is nothing strange going on, but I hate hiding this behind her back since EVERYTHING else in my life she knows about and she accepts about me. With girl two, well, we�re practically clones of each other. She�s in sales, so am I, she�s a HUGE music fan, I play music regularly and am always going out to see it, I�m totally into the gym, she�s now a certified personal trainer, not to mention a hot bod. The �looks� factors are not issues with these girls � they�re both unbelievable. The chemistry between me and each of them is right, but it�s totally different with each situation. I don�t know if any of you guys have been in similar situations as this, but I really feel like I need some resolution to this. Also, if any girls have been in similar situations, I welcome your feedback as well. I know that if I don�t make a decision, somebody will for me, and I could end up losing both of them and nothing to show for it.     | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 390 |
Wow. That is a hell of a story. Here is my opinion if you are interested: Tell girl 1 that you cheated on her, first of all. That is fucked up to hide that from someone that you "love" and who you may spend the rest of your life with. She has the right to make an informed decision. Can you imagine if you were in here shoes? Not knowing that she had cheated on you several times? Wouldn't that mean something to you? I think once you do that the decision might become more clear. If girl 1 doesn't want to be with a cheater, she will leave you, and it wasn't meant to be. Then you can put your time and energy inot girl 2. If girl 1 still wants to be with you, then she is one hell of an amazing woman and you would be crazy to ditch her. Again, just my opinion, and not necessarily worth a shit! | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 950 |
I agree with StoneColdGold here...Lay it out their on the line and see what girl 1 says. That should be the first thing to do before making a choice | ||
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Novice
Posts: 4 |
stone cold- in theory, you're exactly right BUT, i have always heard that telling somebody you cheated on them is the WORST possible thing you can do, and should simply be avoided at all costs i think that i am of that mind set at this point and to answer your question, i think i would rather NOT know if she had cheated on me, because it would just make me not like her, and if she knew that about me, she would have a major one to hang over my head | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 226 |
Wow is right! Holy shit man! Ok first things first. Is girl #2 willing to get with Girl #1? If so tell #1 about #2 and get it on with both. Ok, Ok, that aint' happenin' just a thought. You need to tell #1 or do you? Goddamn I am confused too. BMOM, where are you? My husband and I broke up for 6 weeks (before we were married), he was with someone else who fell in love with him. Evidently he did not love her, or did he? Hell, that was 6 yrs. ago. I got so sick when I found out, I lost 15 lbs. in 3 weeks. I literally almost died. After a while I realized that I loved him and really wanted to be with him. He didn't cheat on me though, we broke up, so it's different. I wasn't with anyone else so I really felt the pain, BAD. I wish that never happened to our relationship. Although he has done a total 360 it will be with me forever....Girl #1 will have the same problem. This is what will happen. You tell #2 you want to be with #1. #2 says Fuck Off & die. #1 accepts it for a while, then she can't handle it anymore, you break up for good & #2 still thinks you are a motherfucker. Loose/Loose situation. Can't say I would blame either, been there, done that. Look at it from every angle and figure out which will work best for YOU!!! That is what you are most concerned about isn't it??? ------------------ | ||
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Freak 
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girl 2 is ur best choice, (btw, this sounds familiar, I know youve posted this before) why, youve fuked up w/g1 already. YOU have made the decision for her already, and you know that. And it will be reallized later when it all washes out, and it will. Maybe not tommorrow or the next yr, but it always does, eventually. go ahead and tell her if you want to, but she will be devastated, and you will loose her. Cuz this wasnt a one time thing, its been ongoing. G2, well, be cautious. I say this cuz she has a goal, that is to get you. She's on her best behavior and in pursuit of her prize. No tell'n what shell be like once she gets it. But at least youve been honest with her. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 226 |
BTW-women are very closely related to hounddogs, we can smell a liar a mile away!!! Remember: The truth always comes out, if it doesn't it will eat your insides for the rest of your relationship with #1 if that is in fact who you pick. #2 has no shread of sympathy or respect for #1 or does she? If not she is a treasonous trollop in my book. Hey, that's just me, what the fuck do I know? ------------------ [This message has been edited by kartchick83 (edited February 26, 2001).] | ||
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Novice
Posts: 4 |
gilbyag- this is the first time i've posted anything about this if somebody else had a similar story, hey, i hope they got it worked out kartchick- | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 226 |
What makes you think she is not getting any guy she wants besides yourself? Seriously, I would never, I mean never fuck/mess around/whatever you want to imagine...with a man who is involved with another woman. Why? Because he will do it to me, believe that. By my story that is kind of contradicting, but I was with my husband for 2 yrs. we broke up, we got back together, we got married. Simple as that. I would never wait for a guy to make a decision on whether or not he REALLY wants to be with me, gimme a Goddarn break, you do, or you don't. In the words of Judge Judy, "Keep it simple, Stupid!" Some people like the challenge, you are a BIG challenge to #2. To #1 you are heartache. When the challenge is over with #2 your balls will be flopping in the wind, BE CAREFUL!!! I was girl #1 at one time, it really hurts, I am telling you, don't hurt a fellow #1. See, the name says it all, she is #1!!!!!!!HELLOOOOOOO!!!!! ------------------ | ||
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Novice
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thanks kartchick you've ALMOST got me fully convinced, especially since i'm just getting the full court press from #2 non-fucking-stop and its giving me a headache any other opinions? | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 226 |
Just don't hurt the good ones (#1's) Get it! Convinced yet? What about Now? Now????? KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID!!!!!!  Hell I'm having my own little problems with Frackal right about now....hahahahahaha j/k ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1033 |
Fucking wake up and realize what you have. Dont fuck it up again. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 390 |
bro, please believe me that i'm not trying to be a dick, i'm just giving you my honest thoughts: I think you're being pretty selfish. I mean, all this work to figure out how you can have your cake and eat it too. I guess my heart just goes out to girl #1. My WORST nightmare is to be so adroitly deceived by the woman I love that I could want to spend my life with her, not knowing that she was fucking around on me. No person deserves to be blindfolded and forced to walk around in the dark. People that say "telling her that you cheated is the WORST thing you can do" are just being selfish, in my opinion. Telling the truth is a habit. So is lying, especially about something like that. You hold onto a lie that big, and years down the road it will bite you in the ass, one way or another. I say tell #1 and be responsible for your actions. If she leaves you, its because you fucked up. So take the lesson and move on and don't cheat on the next one. I apologize if sound preachy. Again, this is just my opinion. ------------------ |
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