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 Would you guys stay with a girl that beat the shit out of you, then apologized?
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Elite Bodybuilder 
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Me and my girl got in a huge fight, and she started pushin/punchin/kicking/scratching me. Then she totally made commends, and put out the best piece of ass I have got from her in a long time... What would you do??? Stay with her??    | ||
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Freak 
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You should would blow the biggest load of your life into her eyes and then when she is stumbling around in a zombie-like fashion you should turn her in my direction and I shall 'punish' her further with repeated thrusts of my large penis into her vaginal cavity. Seriously, only you can answer that, but if she does it often, I would say no. [This message has been edited by Frackal (edited February 18, 2001).]  | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 102 |
What was the fight about? How is the relationship otherwise? How long have you been together? The fact that she attacked you like indicates underlying feelings about something in your relationship. Have you ever noticed a violent side to her personality? | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
Well, she is PMSing, and the fight was because she saw on my cell phone that I called one of my "girl friends". This is like the 3rd time she has done this to me. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 102 |
Well I understand now why she reacted in the way she did. If I even bring up to my fiance that another woman is attractive she gets upset. | ||
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Freak
Posts: 2295 |
If that's the third time, tell her it better be the last. Violence is unacceptable from either side of the relationship IMO. However, I'm pretty inexperienced with long relationships so I don't know. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
next month, we will have been together one year. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 102 |
If you've cheated on her during the course of the relationship I'd let her go. I cheated on every gf save for my current, and I never felt the compulsion with her so I proposed. | ||
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Moderator
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Brotha Harmonic, let me understand this correctly. She has raised her hand to you not once, not twice, but THREE TIMES?!?!?! If the situation was reversed and you were the girl and you had been hit by your bf that number of times would you stay? NO! Violence is NEVER acceptable, neither is jealousy. Whether you were cheating on her or not, that does not give her the right to hit you. PMS or NO PMS!!! There is a Hungarian saying, "You should not dirty your hands by touching trash." If you were my bf and I caught you cheating I would not use my hands to hit you, but I would use my hands to show you the door. See what I am saying here? Let her go. If you cheated on her, why do you want to be with her. If you did not cheat and she is a jealous psycho path....why do you want to be with her? ...just my .02 ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 102 |
Bump for BM | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
I didn't cheat on her, I just called a girl that I know (and never got ahold of).. On my cell phone, it shows all the last incoming and outgoing calls.. She went through my call log and saw that I called that one girl. And, I never even talked to that girl.. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 102 |
She probably thinks you've cheated on her, or planned to cheat on her. So what you goin' do? | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 114 |
If I entered a topic saying my husband beat me up what should I do? I would hope you all would tell me "leave the fucker, he'll do it again" especially if I said this was the 3rd time. Grant it your injuries are probably not as severe as if my husband was beating me up, it's also emotionally painful, those scars don't heal rapidly. She has to know this is not acceptable behavior, unless you like a good ass kickin' every once in a while. I kick ass on the track only.  ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Sounds like she has some trust issues with you if she's checking your cell phone to see who you have been speaking to. Whether she thinks she can justify this or not, do you want to be in a position where she is checking up on you? What else could she possibly be doing? Going through your wallet? checking your pockets? Now to be phicually abusive to you regardless of what she thinks you are or are not doing, is unacceptable. Tread cautiously, only you can make the decision what to do but apologies don't always excuse the behaviours. Good Luck | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
I think when I go home tonight, I should have her read this thread.. What do you thing? | ||
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Freak
Posts: 2295 |
Yes. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
I think I will. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 114 |
I was going to suggest that myself, maybe she will see what an ass she has been, sometimes things need to be thrown in their faces. I didn't mean to tell you to kick her out. You have to do what you are comfortable with. If you love her and think things will change then go for it. I just hope she doesn't hit you anymore. If she does bring her to the track and I will run her over, it will only hurt a little. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Kartchick- Your so funny! It seems like your life evolves around kart racing. I think thats totally cool. | ||
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Moderator
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Brotha Harmonic ....RE-READ my post and pay close attention to the quote below. Whether you cheated or not is TOTALLY IRRELEVANT! The girl has issues to say the least and you need to send her on her way! Unless you come at her w/a kitchen knife or grab her so that she bruised, she NEVER EVER has the right to act in the fashion you described!...PERIOD!!!
quote: Am I making myself clear? ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 825 |
bikinimom, i bet your life is/was really fucked up at one point. a person has to get really traumatized before they become preachy, (not an insult, im the same way now) | ||
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Novice 
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Harmonic, when a relationship has violence in it, it has become absolutely unacceptable.. This was obviously not an isolated incident, as you said its happened 3 times.. No one deserves to have a hand raised to them in a commited relationship or othewise.. It is clear that she has a lot if issues.. Uncontrolable jealousy being one of them.. Not only did she hit you, but violated your privacy by searching through your cell # list.. That shows just how very little trust she has for you.. Remember that love and lasting relationships are built on a foundation of trust and friendship.. Her actions have shown that she possess'es neither of those qualities.. Plus, if I remember correctly, you did cheat on her.. I was in a very similiar situation with my last relationship.. I was with the girl for over a year and a half.. We moved in together and it was most of the time unbearable.. I would catch her searching through my computer for my personnel information.. She burned journals I had kept since my junior year of highschool.. She would become irate when I wanted to hang out with my friends ( guys or girls ).. Eventually, she graduated into violence, and when she got mad would hit all over me, the same way your girl did you.. I tried to do everything I could to make her happy, and in doing so made myself miserable.. I finally relaized that this relationship was completely doomed, and that if I wasnt willing to make myself happy, no one was going to do it for me.. I made some what seemed like at the time hard choices and asked her to leave.. Since then, I couldnt be happier.. To be blunt, your situation will not ever get better bro.. Certain lines should never ever be crossed, and when they are, there is no way to ever go back.. Your relationship has crossed them for sure !! I promise you she will continue on with her unacceptable behavior as long as you are together.. | ||
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Moderator
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Well there Brotha Stalin I don't consider my post "preachy". Harmonic asked for my opinion (not just mine, but the opnions of others) when he posted the thread....so I gave it. But for the record, yes, I have had my share of pain and misfortune as have others. I am merely trying to pass on the knowledge that I have acquired THE HARD WAY. There is NO ROOM for violence and jealousy in a loving and committed relationship - PERIOD! ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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my ex gf was pissing me off when i was in a city 450miles from home after a girl passed a complement about my size it was only (ur looking good babe() she said and my gf went mad so i left her there &THen no train fare oor money full stpop needless to say we were no more | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 370 |
I think men should be able to hit back. Some women think that they can kick your ass and you won't do anything about it because you're a man. I had an ex that hit me in the head with a beer bottle. It hurt like hell. I slugged her with a closed fist and knocked her on her ass. She got up and said "What kind of man are you hitting a woman?" I think after being hit with a beer bottle I was justified. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 114 |
I don't think hitting anyone is ok, but I was taught if you hit be prepaired to get hit back. I think that was my Dad's way of telling me don't hit a man because you never know what you're gonna get. & no my last name is not Gump. | ||
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Olympian 
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I'm the same as kartchick...my old man used to let me and my brother beat the living hell out of each other just so I'd learn if you hit a guy, be prepared to get knocked on your ass. I can't say I've never hit a guy, but when I do, I intend on being hit back. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 148 |
I think this is a question for CrazyTed80 to answer. He would know. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 345 |
quote: Major trust issues combined with violence. Not worth it. She needs to grow up. Dump her and make sure she knows why. | ||
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Mutant  
Posts: 3297 |
Only if it you are staying for Porn Queen Sex. If it isn't PQS then your just masturbating with her lips and you have a supressed desire to be beat. Let your S&M Nature flow... | ||
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Olympian
Posts: 1689 |
Harmonic - DONT let her read the thread, then she'll be reading your shit all time and all up in your business....think about it. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1289 |
quote: that's a bad situation, I would have hit her out of mere instinct responce. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1283 |
Show me pictures of her quads, glutes, biceps, and calves individually, please. It will allow me to make an accurate assesment of whether or not it is worth it to you. Puc ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 366 |
i say let her read the thread. then explain to her that your relationship is over. that is fucked up and totally unacceptable. behavior like that is a pattern. she will be doing shit like that as long as you guys are together. btw... apologies don't mean SHIT. "i'm sorry i hit you. i'm sorry i invaded your privacy. blah blah blah." Tell her your sorry too, then kick her ass out the door. this is about respecting yourself. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
Everyone. Wow! Thanks alot! One day has passed by. I spent about 2 hours with her last night before we went to bed. She has chilled out, but who knows for how long. Probably never.. The only problem now is telling her what I want. I'm a softy, and it is hard for me to kick a girl out, or hurt a gilrs feelings like that.. Although, she has hurt mine beyond belief! | ||
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Moderator
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Suck it up my brotha....and give her the heave ho! ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Use a Taser if you have to LOL! ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
Funny you mention, I have a stun gun I think I'm gunna tough it out and see if there is going be a next time.. She feels really bad about the whole thing, and I'm just going to pray that it will be the last time she does that.. Cool or not?? | ||
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Moderator
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NOT!!!!!!!!! You are making a BIG MISTAKE....take my word for it...I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT! But, then again, it is YOUR LIFE! Let us know when she goes off on you again. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Bikinimom.. Ok, what you don't think that there is even a slight possibility of her changing? You think that her saying sorry is just a big guilt trip to make me feel bad or something? I want to believe you so bad, and I want to believe her so bad! I'm stuck! | ||
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Moderator
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Plain and simple my brotha....NO. She will NEVER change - PERIOD. TRUST ME, I know of what I speak. I don't mean to be harsh and I am not trying to hurt your feelings...but I will not sugar-coat the truth ESPECIALLY when it comes to jealousy and violence. It doesn't make a DAMNED BIT OF DIFFERENCE HOW SORRY SHE SAYS SHE IS - SHE WILL DEFINITELY DO IT AGAIN and by accepting her apology - AGAIN - and continuing the relationship YOU ARE NO LONGER A VICTIM - BUT A VOLUNTEER. You do NOT have children (correct?), You are NOT married (correct?), You have been "together" for A YEAR.....a freaking blip on the screen in comparison to your entire life. So please don't tell me about how you've "been through so much". I don't buy it. ....And guess what? Even if you WERE MARRIED and HAD CHILDREN and BEEN TOGETHER FOR 13 YEARS and BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH....MY ANSWER WOULD STILL BE THE SAME!!!!!....WITHOUT ANY HESITATION AND WITHOUT A DOUBT! ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
Ok, I think I get the point. I'm going to try my best to get away from her. I don't think I can just kick her out, but I know that I can get her pissed off enough so that she will move out. | ||
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Moderator
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Dude, be a man and own up to your feelings. Tell her that she has abused you long enough, that you have had enough and that she needs to leave.....or you will throw her shit out the fucking window. I don't give a flying fuck how nice she is now....she ABUSED YOU! Hello! A nice girl (or boy) would NEVER behave in such a fashion towards someone they care about and certainly NOT TOWARDS SOMEONE THEY LOVE - EVER! Dude, talk to someone because if you would even consider for a split second taking her back (obviously you do because this was the THIRD incident....not the FIRST) then you have MAJOR SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES! Now tell her that she has X amount of time to find someplace else to live....when she goes ballistic (which I predict she very well may) call the fucking police and have her ass escorted to jail. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 114 |
Ok, so when you get her good and pissed she'll probably scrap with you again, just make sure no sharp objects are laying around and then say, "see biatch that's the kinda wacky crap I'm talkin about!" See, it's simple and so is she. BTW did you get the pic? | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Oh, kartchick let me check my hotmail.. | ||
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Novice
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Harmonic, the word "try" is a total bullshit word.. In this case anyway.. You dont "try" to leave someone.. You either leave them, or you do not leave them.. I feel for you man, cause I was in you exact situation, and if you want to e-mail me or something to talk about it, please feel free my friend.. What I am saying is not intended to hurt your feelings, I am simply saying the truth.. You are with someone that completely violates your privacy, she wages war on your self esteem when things dont go her way and to top it all off, she beats on you.. You said you dont have the heart to kick her out.. She has shown absolutely no concern for you feelings, so why do you extend that respect to her ?? You need to stick up for yourself, and get this girl out of your life.. She is making you miserable.. Like I said in a earlier post, your relationship has crossed lines that can not ever be forgiven or forgotten.. She can promise to change until she passes out, the fact of the matter is she will not change.. Her behavior will only continue to get worse.. Apoligies are only as good and true as the people they are coming from, and in your case, I would say that her apoligies dont mean shit.. She may try to act different, things may even be absolutely wonderful for a while, but I promise you sooner or later she will slip back into her old patterns.. You cannot change the nature of the beast.. You need to act now, you need to act with firmness.. Dont waste anymore time going nowhere my friend.. You have to remember that you are not responsible for this girl, only yourself.. Start thinking about making yourself happy.. [This message has been edited by Steelplate (edited February 20, 2001).] | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 150 |
You shouldn't stay with her, the respect is not there any more. She might do it again or both of you won't have any respect for each other. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 345 |
Even if she does change, your relationship is poluted. You both need to start over with someone new to establish trust. The trust isn't here. Tell her to move and be ready for her to try to smash your stuff (I've had experience with that one). | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1041 |
Thanks to you all for replying. You all have been really helpful.. I going to dump her ass as soon as I can.. |
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