2 - My wife has let herself get fat, and no matter how much I love her, I am not physically attracted to her. I have sex with her and she is satisfied with our sex life, but Im basically masterbating in her because she doesnt turn me on.

Its hard not to cheat when your not happy with what you have at home, and theres a hottie ready to give it up in front of you.

If I cant think of a reasonable solution, I may just cut off my johnson, and send it to someone who can keep it out of trouble. Im not sure I can anymore.

Anyone have a more reasonable solution? - or perhaps a mailing address to send my parts too?

Also, If I put it in the freezer, how long will it keep? I may want to use it again.

Well I got two answers for you:

#1: get her ass in shape - but I really think if youve been with her for a while it really doesnt matter, the excitement wains with time and experiences, thats just the way it is.

#2: Cheat. If you do this be prepared for guilt (some have that problem), retailiation (both your $, and physically or even worse emotional/mentally). Cheating *I hear* is pretty exciting and fun. I imagine it takes its tolls in how you feel about yourself unless your good at rationilization.

I think you should try to keep yer willy in your pants, its a lot less complex that way - and leaves you with more time/energy to focus on more productive things.

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You need to let her know how you feel if you truly care for her. If not, then do what you want but be man enough to suffer the consequences when you're found out.

That's my biggest beef. People don't accept responsiblity for their actions anymore.

Don't cheat.

You need to talk to her and tell her about how you feel. If that doesn't work and you do resort to cheating, then (as the others have said) you better be ready to suffer the consequences because let me tell you....they are going to suck. Especially if she were to find out. Women can be REALLY evil about these types of things.

My wife and I both work out and we love each other, I wouldnt touch another woman without her permission, hense the word permission, we work as a team.

In the gym, we are const. looking at other chix and shit like that.

Slopain - Your right. Ive been with my wife for seven years. Kinda like getting the same issue of Playboy every month.

John/Wfabrizio - I usually do show my wife any threads related to us. Were very open with each other anyway - no secrets. She knows Im not sexually attracted to her. The problem so far is she will accept that she is overweight and not affectionate with me, but she never makes any effort to change. Whats sad, is she is one of the strongest women in the gym and works out five days a week. Ive trained with her and she is a hell of a workout partner and a focused trainer. If she would just stop eating shit loads of carbs she would look like a fitness model in about six months! Sad sad sad!!!!

Bodacious - I have tried to get her to go to a strip club with me. She feels inadequate around sexy women. Rather then getting fired up to get in shape, she gets depressed about how she looks. She is also intimidated by nasty women. She still has a lot of inhibitions, and its hard for her to let her hair down and just do what feels good. Ive opened her mind alot sexually in the last seven years, but Ive matured sexually at the same time. I dont know if she will ever catch up to me in this way. She still seems like an inocent schoolgirl sometimes.

Nightfly - Its common to not be "In love" even if you still love each other. At least thats what all the married people tell me. Im jealous of the couples that can stay "In love" as they get old together. Its rare.

Stanozol - Thanks bro. I thought about using deca only, but I love test and fina too much. I did post once to see if there was a anti-cheating drug. Deca may be it for men.

Wombat - My wife and I had an open marriage for a short time when she thought she wanted to be with other women. Its true that being free to be with other women is a complete turn on. Thats one of the reasons not cheating now is so hard. I was getting permission before. Now that my wife wants men only, she doesnt want an open relationship. I dont think my wife expected me to find so many available women. When I did, she quickly decided she wasnt bi, and didnt want to experiment or have an open marriage. Hmmmmmm.

Be honest w/ her & tell her how you feel. I only think it could help your relationship.

Gosh, there's lots of good advice already given.

Good luck to you both.

CHEAT.

and tell her you cheated. and why. and deal with it.

Im going to tell you I say this: one day along time ago your wife was me....he cheated, he left and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

I also found out after her counseling that she was telling the counselor a different story then she was telling me. She left out the fact that she was potentially bi, and had agreed to an open marriage to experiment a little. Instead she gave her counselor the impression that I was going out and screwing other women behind her back. At this point I dont think counseling will be useful to her until she realizes the importance of honesty.

I was relieved to see some women suggesting cheating. Im glad some ladies are open minded enough not to automatically side with my wife. Hopefully my wife will be as open minded when she reads this.

Thanks again for your responses.