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 Why are women such a pain in the ass?
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
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Right off the bat I want to apologize to the ladies out there -- I mean no disrespect and I hate to generalize. My girlfriend and I have been dating for the past year-and-a-half. For the most part things have always been great between us -- I can't honestly imagine spending my life without her. However, it seems like she is constantly pissed off at me as of late. I could understand if I did something terrible, neglected her feelings, or something to that extent -- but half the time I don't even know what it is I have done. Common scenarios are: 1) I have no idea what I've done; 2) we have a minor disagreement that seems to have been resolved only to find her pissed at me for the next few days; 3) one minute I hear how she can't imagine her life without me and then next she sick of all my crap; or 4) I am accused of being controlling, but I have no idea what I have done or said to make her feel like I am trying to control anything. Of course when I ask her what is wrong, I get the standard answer -- "nothing." Heaven forbid I tell her she is being short with me or that she is displaying somewhat of an attitude. Very difficult to argue with irrational people. Drives me absolutely crazy -- thank goodness I am not on gear. Sorry, just reeeaaallly needed to vent. ------------------     | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
Posts: 873 |
She's getting ready to dump you. Don't give her the satisfaction. Dump her first. Let me know how it works out.
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 789 |
And you want to spend the rest of your life putting up with that? Just tell her how you feel. There is no other way around it. -TG | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 862 |
Ouch. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 60 |
Ghost you have a good point -- I do need to let her know just how this shit is making me feel. Hard to just walk away from someone you have spent so much time with. I know she's a good person, I see that special side that very few people have the opportunity of seeing. Then you have the most difficult issue that I did not previously mention -- we live together. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 862 |
Ahme...well..I've been trying to figure out how to say this, as I have made some of the same comments upon occasion to the boy. Wont put up with the shit anymore: My own personal translation of this is... 2) No idea what has been done....find this hard to beleive as women are communicators. Most likely she told you, you just werent listening because you didnt feel it was important enough information to store for future use. The rest I cant comment on, because when theres something wrong I damn well say so, and I dont hold grudges..... | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 60 |
Unless I am really missing something big hear, I can't seem to figure out how I could not have heard things she has been saying. Actually, I am usually the one who initiates the majority of the conversations. In fact she often tells me I read way to far into things -- sorry, can't help it I'm a lawyer. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 862 |
Well Mr. Lawyer, that doesnt comfort me into thinking youre telling the truth (LOL...kidding) However, if you are telling the truth...then shes one fucked up chick who needs to be on Prozac....either that or shes screweing around on you. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 923 |
I agree w/ May1010, here. It sounds as if she wants to break it off. Maybe she doesn't know how. Maybe she's not sure of her own feelings. Either way, good luck. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 60 |
Thanks -- I appreciate all your input. I think the prozac might be a viable solution. I am usually pretty good at reading people, but this drives me absolutely nuts. ------------------ | ||
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Guru 
Posts: 2420 |
Perhaps you need to spend less tiem togeterhe???..I dunno I always say what is bothering me , cause I don't like to be mad, plus I'm very easy to just forget things cause I hate to fight cause i know i'm right and the other is just ignorant of that fact | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 61 |
She wants a ring and she is tired of waiting. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 95 |
Dose her with some clomid... Get a grip there always like that... ------------------ | ||
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Novice 
Posts: 10 |
LOL at kat when she says "women are communicators".They're communicators only if you can read minds.It's possible your girlfriend is confused because she's either having an affair or is considering having an affair.The number one symptom of this is her hostility towards you. ie.she can't face the fact that doing it will hurt you and therefore make her a cruel bitch-SOLUTION magnify every little fault you exhibit until even you start thinking you must be a bastard wife beater type.RESULT she does what she selfishly wants and you're left wounded and blaming yourself.The perfect crime.You can't stop her doing what she wants and you don't really want to either because she's got to be happy otherwise life with her will be miserable.DON"T however let her make YOU feel like you're to blame for one minute.My advice would be-Be prepared for this eventuality so that she won't be able to commit that final act of disrespect by blaming you.If she ain't happy let her go bro.Put your energies into the one thing that always gives back what you give it (your training)When you're looking better and better as the years roll by she'll deeply regret underestimating you.Take care bro and I sincerely hope I'm wrong about this. BTW Kat I mean no disrepect to you but I hear this all the time.Women are communicators.Men are not.Can't swallow that I'm afraid.Not in my experience and YES I do listen. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 462 |
speaking from experience bro she wants to get rid of you..probably found a new guy..but she feels guilty and doesn't want to dump you..she wants you to dump her so she is doing everything to get you to..that's how women work | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 701 |
You are a lawyer so you must be a pretty smart guy, so why didnt you know that if you just casually move in with a girlfriend that this crap wouldnt happen? Shes probably pissed that she is living with a man and not married which might not look good to her. Either way you are going to have marriage level problems except you are not married. You should probably ask her to marry you (since you cant live wothout her) and see what happens in the engagement or leave, because it wont get any better just playing house with her. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 60 |
I will be the first to admit that I am a complete dumbass when it comes to matters of the heart -- hell I can't even tell when someone is flirting with me. That is just not my area of expertise. I began to think that maybe she was looking for a way out of this relationship and just didn't know how to go about it. However, I never imagained that there might be another guy in the picture somewhere. I thank the lord I have my training. Thank you all for your input -- I guess I am just going to have to keep my eyes/ears open and wait to see what the future holds. ------------------ | ||
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Novice
Posts: 10 |
I get a feeling that you're in for some heartache my friend.Unfortunately the more innocent you are (and you do sound innocent) the harder it hits.We've all been through it so if it turns out for the worst at least you'll have support here (and your training of course).The first one is the hardest by far.Still hope I'm wrong but the more I hear from you the more I recognise the little signs. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 95 |
I have never heard of an innocent lawyer. My guess is you probably over analyze everything, all a woman wants is a good listener so they can vent. They dont need answers because most of the time they are not asking questions. That is the tough part for us guys to realize. Try to look more into what you can do to change the sit. other then trying to find fault in her. Never underestimate the other person for she can never fuck you over but you can certainly fuck yourself over! If you feel someone is treating you a certin way that is because you are allowing it to happen. | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 34 |
Maybe you have been talking about taking the relationship to the next level, or she feels that it is heading that way, and is trying to establish dominance. I have seen this not only in my relationship but several of my friends. Let her know that you care about her but your not going to change. Alot of the times this type of behaviour is linked to feelings of being neglected because you are spending more time with your friends, in the gym, or at work. My opinion is that she wants more of your attention and has yet to express that point....women are funny like that. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 60 |
Wombat -- you have a damn good fucking point. I analyze the shit out of the everything. Without a doubt, I know that is the flaw I need the most work on. Thanks for the input. ------------------ |
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