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Pro Bodybuilder 
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How long have you been married, and how is your marriage going? Most importantly why did you marry the person you married, besides the fact that you loved them? So the question might be, what do you love about them?     | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder 
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quote: Wow, lot's of ?s. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
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Been married for 12 years, lived together for 4 years, and dated for two. Whew! Two girls, 6 and 2. Went through a rough period about a year ago. We turned into just Mom and Dad and kinda forgot we were also a couple. I guess we started drifting away from one another. We made it a point to put open communication in the fore front and really work on it. Our daughters had never seen any affection between us! Went back to holding hands, kissing more, and getting away from the kids more. She also wants to start working out together again with me, so that should help. I don't know, no one promised me a smooth ride..... Damn, kinda chatty today, aren't I ------------------ | ||
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Moderator 
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Ten+ years, dated for about 6 months, lived together for 1 1/2yrs before. There have been some very difficult times, especially the past two years, but there is light at the end of the tunnel and I can honestly say for the first time in a long time that I think my marriage is getting stronger as opposed to blowing chunks - BIG TIME! Why did I get married? I thought it was for love, but that is THE WRONG REASON. The way I see it, I haven't even begun to scratch the surface of what Love is. But respect and friendship, now those two reasons were important factors in my choice of mate and are still inherent in my marriage today. Also I felt my husband would be a good male role model for my children - and he is. I believe the three most important factors in choosing a mate should be: A)Is this person MY BEST FRIEND? Sex is important but there will be MANY times when there will be NONE, does this mean that the marriage is over? B)Does this person respect me as they do themselves? Do they support me in my endeavors as I do them in theirs? C)Will this person be a good parent to my children? It is easy to bounce a clean, fed, giggling baby on your knee. When same child spits up and loads the diaper that blows through the outfit all over your Armani suit then starts to scream inconsolably...THAT IS A DIFFERENT STORY ALTOGETHER AND A DAILY FACT OF LIFE - PERIOD! I beleive if these three basic criteria are present there is no reason why one should not have a long and fruitful relationship! Oh yes.....and he is quite proficient in the sack ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Hmmmm Ms BikiniMom...after that, you're gonna have me thinking Ive got the ONE....minus rugrats though. He'd even do that (and I sure as hell wouldnt...no baby puke for me)...i guess it can't be any worse than horse shit and helping mares foal... Guess he's pretty good to me. Thanks BM! | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Married for 3 years, dated for 5. The last two years have been a bitch, mainly due to very different sex drives. Everything else is fairy-tale perfect and we have a beautiful daughter. I love my wife, and so far, working on our sexual differences has been worth it. I married when I was 28, before I was financially succesful and had a nice physique. If I were still single at this point in my life, I would actively enjoy the attention I get from other women. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 492 |
seems like most people are getting married more for practical reasons. BM if you could change something about your husband, what would it be? | ||
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Guru
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For me it was easy. 12 years of dating and married 2. Will be together 14 in march. 1) physically and mentally attracted to her. | ||
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Cool Novice 
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B-mom....that was awesome! So true! my stats: main reason i married was that i wanted to start a family. i am trying to do everything "right" in creating a close to perfect enviroment for raising my child( and future children.) THATS WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT! remember folks...it isnt all sunshine and roses! but if you share mutual respect for one another, and are compatible, and can trust one another...those are the ingredients for a long lasting and happy marriage. SHIT....marriage is a breeze, until the kids come along. but it is a beautiful thing! G | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Married for 1 year 1 month. Been together for four years before that. I married my wife because we are 100% on the same wave length. She is my best friend, my lover, my partner, etc....basically she is my soul mate. I believe in balance. Ying&yang. Whatever you may want to call it. So, everybody should have a partner out there some where. It takes a while to find that person but they are out there. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Married 17 years. Did not live together. Got married because it was cheaper than getting hotels! Plus, to be honest I was looking for some controls in my life. Straight out of college, drinking every night back then. Knew I needed a good woman to calm me down. It took 12 years for me to calm down. Oh well, it's good now 3 kids later, 40 years old, and in the best physical condition of my life. Booze, and drug free for 5 years! What a gift! | ||
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Moderator
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If there was only one thing I could change about my hubby it would be that he could have felt the "total trust" that I have felt for him from the beginning. He used to be INSANELY jealous, but over the course of our marriage has learned to open himself and trust me as I do him. I feel badly for hime that he has endured the pain of insecurity for such a long time (basically all of his life). He describes it as a feeling that literally eats away at him and though there was NEVER a practical reason for his jealousy, he felt it just the same. He has come a long way and I am very proud of him. He finally saw and realized that if he did not learn to contain and eliminate his jealousy (I'm not talking normal little twinges here.) our daughters would be doomed to marry men who would treat them like less than they deserved to be treated - this was a big wake-up call for him. Other than that, he has a quirky sense of humor, we share in our love of weight-training, he wants me to excel in every way I can, he is a good and loving husband and father.....and God, HE IS GOOD IN THE SACK!....what more could a girl want?! ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 492 |
come on everybody who is married, confess, CONFESS, CONFESS I SAY. Father Fistfullofsteel is here to listen. | ||
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Guru
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I've been married almost 14 years. We've had our fair share of ups and downs and life's curve balls thrown at us. We married because we trust, admire, respect and love each other. We're best friends to this day. We have mutual interest and those of our own which neither will ever get but it adds spice to the show. ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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It will be 14 years on Jan 13th. Dated for 1 year. Lived together 3 months. What attracted me to her? Funny, she asked me the same question on Monday. Well for starters, I could say nothing bad about her. She is the most honest, trustworthy, and intelligent individual I have ever come across and still is to this day. For a lot of people, you just don't know why you are attracted to your life-mate. You just know it. When she walks through the door, she radiates and your heart skips a beat or two. thats it-you just feel it, know it, and there is no doubt that you will marry her. Yes, I changed my share of diapers, cleaned up the thrown food and hurl, and stayed up till 3 am comforting a screaming sick child. Those are what you sign on for when you make the decision to become parents and I would NEVER trade those experiences for anything in the whole world. Life is beautiful, treasure it forever. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 224 |
Well I'm too young to be married but can tell ya I know for a fact my parents must've gotten married for the wrong reason...how do I know you ask [even if ya didn't I'm gonna tell ya] they got divorced when I was 7 thats how. First hand experience of what a divorce does to a kid right here. So when [if] I ever get married I wanna make sure I get married to someone I can spend my life w/ cause I know the pain a kid feels when the rents get divorced. ------------------ |
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posted January 03, 2001 03:18 PM
which don't hurt either! hehe
