posted June 04, 2000 10:21 PM            

I promise you, once you find out why you feel the way you do, things will change. The reason you can't hook up is because you project the way you feel.

What person would want to get with someone who is depressed and has a poor self image. Whether you believe it or not people see what you are by your actions and nonverbal cues. You are not aware you are doing it and they are not aware they are analyzing it.

posted June 04, 2000 11:30 PM            

I just broke up with a girl after 2 years, I broke up with her cause things where not working out, but Now I'm lonely as fuck! because I have no one, and I didn't have a backup chick after I broke up with my girl, she still want's to get back together, but I know that is for the best for me to be alone right now.

posted June 05, 2000 12:13 AM         

One girl is not worth it. Read the posts in the chat and discussion section about "short guys and tall guys". You may be a classy guy, in comparison to cars you might be like a Mercedes Benz. But maybe this chick does not like Mercedes.... she might like pick up trucls. Get the picture? There may be nothing wrong with you. As nice as a Mercedes is as a car, not everyone wants one.

Likewise, you may be a great guy (although with very limited experience in life...I can tell, its no insult - we have all been 20 before)but just not her cup of tea. Its no insult to anyone. But I gauranteee you there is pletny of girls out there who want that Mercedes. It does not matter if you are short, tall, musical, quiet, outgoing, shy, player, one gilr type of guy, into sports, into theatre etc - there is a girl that likes that type of "guy". Its a matter of numbers. The more girls you meet the more likely you are to find a hot one that just thinks you are the best. Open your eyes and your mental doors and you will one day realize that the world is your oyster - but you have to eat alot of clams to find the pearl.

People bloom at different times. At 20 you may not have bloomed yet. I am 38, and seen a bit. I know guys who bloomed at 16 but were over and done at 27. I know other guys who did not bloom until 27. I don't mean physically maturing...I mean finding their groove.

I know it seems a drag to be alone now, but once you meet a good one you will forget what it "was" like when you were 20. And that might be just a few months down the road. Its like when you are really really hungry...once you eat and are full you really don't think about what it was like when you were hungry....although it sucked when you were hungry.

You do have to feel loveable to get some loving. increase your self esteem. Seriously, make a written list of your accomplishments - no matter how trivial they seem they are big accomplishments to someone. The guy in the wheel chair would love to just accomplish standing up, let alont doing a squat with weights. Write down you accomplishments ; weight lifting, cannot be killed by one thousand IU's of insulin, memorized the dialogue to 100 Seinfeld episodes, can shoot a cum wad 7 and a half feet, can make perfect scrambled eggs (hopefully you aren't shooting any cum wads in the kitchen....maybe we should go out to eat).....

posted June 05, 2000 12:15 AM            

CARPE DIEM---sieze the day....

peace romeo

posted June 05, 2000 12:28 AM            

Get off gear!
For now there is the possibility that you cant handle the mental aspects of it, seeing as how your having problems just dealing with life in general.

I see alot of Bros focusing on the girl portion here, but that is not the problem. You obviously are lacking something in your life personally aside from companionship with females.

You do need counseling, and need to forget about others until you get yourself back in order. Self immolation is a sign of weakness, and Bro Im sure your not weak. Are Ya??

Ya know what..Ranger always says.."ITS ALL GOOD", and sometimes man, you just have to throw your arms up and say fuck it..its all good..Im alive and screaming..

First learn to be happy with just yourself, then focus on being with others. You will not be able to make anyone truly happy, until you have delt with your own demons.

Good Luck, and if you need to talk, just email me.

PS check out my signature below, it holds alot of truth.
WCP

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posted June 05, 2000 04:38 AM         

...F*CK the B*TCH, no girl is worth it...

posted June 05, 2000 05:14 AM            

I don't have the best advice, but maybe it's your personality that needs changing. Think positive and things will come together bro.

posted June 05, 2000 08:14 AM            

We all have our reasons for lifting weights. I can guarantee that you still will not be happy at 270 lbs. From your post, you are obviously looking to weights and steroid use (abuse?) in order to be successfull with girls/women. Here goes:

1. Girls/Women are not preoccupied with looks like men are. Females are more emotionally oriented, males more visually oriented.

If you want to be successfull in love and relationships, you must work on your RAP/HUSTLE. You're wasting your time with the steroids and weights.

posted June 05, 2000 09:31 AM            

At the risk of sounding sappy, You have got to be happy and secure with yourself first. Don't worry about the girls right now. Surround yourself with friends and get feeling good about you. Then surprise someone will walk right into your life.

Best of Luck,

posted June 05, 2000 12:12 PM            

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posted June 05, 2000 12:23 PM            

I have been going through the same thing all of my life. Or at least sience i was 10. I am 27 now. Money don't make it better, women sure the hell don't make it better, bodybuilding helped me for a while and it still helps make me happy sometimes, But the only thing that can help is you and you outlook on life!!!! Sounds to me like you need to go see a theropist and get on some medication. That's what I had to do!!!
you could have a chemical imbalance in your body causing theese feelings. Thats why I have them and only theroph and medication can help this!! Most of all just take it easy!! If something don't go your way, just say fu@k it!!!

posted June 05, 2000 03:14 PM            

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posted June 05, 2000 03:57 PM            

Confidence with women comes from being with them and fuckn lots of 'em.

SAVE YOUR MONEY FOR GEAR AND FOR HOOKERS!

Don't forget to wrap it up and wash it afterward with beer.

posted June 05, 2000 03:59 PM            

that week i've started my first cycle, the thing is, prior to that i was a real health freak havn't eaten meat for about 6 years and wasnt eating any fish ,eggs and milk products for about a year before-i was againset all that "chimo-theraphy"
i think every time i was using the needle i was thinking of her.
i've got reall big but that didnt change the facts, looking back i gusse i had very little luck with babes that i had reall fillngs toward, dont know why but it's seems to be easier to get a fuck than to get the real thing, latly i've been a real a-hole toward all females cause of that.

i've been seing u and your posts allot on this board and i know that checking the board out really helped me out, so i thank u.

P.S
i'm really sorry for my english,but i'm not used to using it, if u want drop me a line mybe we can talk about it.

posted June 05, 2000 04:00 PM            

that week i've started my first cycle, the thing is, prior to that i was a real health freak havn't eaten meat for about 6 years and wasnt eating any fish ,eggs and milk products for about a year before-i was againset all that "chimo-theraphy"
i think every time i was using the needle i was thinking of her.
i've got reall big but that didnt change the facts, looking back i gusse i had very little luck with babes that i had reall fillngs toward, dont know why but it's seems to be easier to get a fuck than to get the real thing, latly i've been a real a-hole toward all females cause of that.

i've been seing u and your posts allot on this board and i know that checking the board out really helped me out, so i thank u.

P.S
i'm really sorry for my english,but i'm not used to using it, if u want drop me a line mybe we can talk about it.

posted June 05, 2000 04:05 PM            

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posted June 05, 2000 04:57 PM            

Keep your head up bro and lay off the gear WCP is right you may not be able to handle it right now. Hardball is right though get your confidence up sky high, and then only the sky's the limit. We are all here for ya bro.

Good Luck

Plates

posted June 05, 2000 05:01 PM         

A lot of bros on this board have told you some good things. Your next step is to listen and take the advice! Like on bro was saying, If you have the Lord in your life there is nothing you can't accomplish or in your case get over! But first of all you do need a psychiatrist. A good one can work wonders. I am lucky to have my mother as mine!

Dude I know this is repetitive, but a lot of us have went through situations similar to this. I did about 6 weeks ago. Talking with friends and loves helps tremendously when in time of need, REMEMBER that!

It is posts like this that make this board so awesome! A lot of you guys are really intellegent, caring human beings and not the sterotypical roid-raging, inconsiderate juice monkeys that the majority of the population percieves us as. Too bad there are so many close-minded people out there!

Alright I'm getting a little too emotional here...Gotta BOOST!!!!

posted June 05, 2000 06:13 PM            

just go to him
this medications really helps

if u feel not to take medecins then go to a pshycologist

ive done that and it really helps
he ll listen and understand and comes with suggestions on what to do and ect

just e-mail me if ya planning something stupid
promes me that !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

take care
and posts some new treads on your feelings

posted June 06, 2000 06:46 PM            

I'm 29 and I know what you mean. Just happened with me too. Thought it was the real deal. It has been over 2 months now and there are still times I feel lonely. This board helps.

posted June 06, 2000 09:16 PM            

JESUS CHRIST.
I'm not a holly roller just a regular hard core BB with a wife three daughters and a job I also hit rock bottom. Stress overload Bro and JC did it for me what do you have to lose.

posted June 06, 2000 10:13 PM            

Email me if you want. Shit, I would give you my phone number but I don't need any calls about gear. (Email questions are still OK)

Get into something else - move, make new friends, go to a new gym.....get a different job.

It gets way better as you get a little older.

Drop me a line as you need to - I'll be happy to help in any way I can.

Matt

posted June 06, 2000 11:12 PM         

You're too young, my friend, to take your life. You have youth and vitality that most of us on the board would kill to have back....(I'm now 32). Instead of investing money to help your outside, try investing your money in someone who can help heal the inside.....it does not mean you're "crazy" or "sick"...it means that you need to lift your head up high and just accept the help that others can give you, we all need a hand from time to time.....I did, and going to a counselor was probably the single most and best thing I've ever done for myself. Once I healed, you know what? I met my current wife of 4 years who is TOTALLY UNLIKE the girl I thought I was in love with, and thank God, as if I would have married that woman I'd be divorced by now....even a long time ago. Please take care of yourself from the inside out, not the other way around.....you'll be much, much happier. Do yourself a favor and call a counselor in the next 24 hours. You'll be glad you did, my friend. If you want to talk, email me at [email protected].

posted June 07, 2000 01:20 AM            

Go out in the world and experience it. Every girl out there that you hook up has her purpose in your life. Some you just chill with, some you take home and screw and kiss their ass goodbye, some you wanna lockdown for a bit or whatever. My word of advice to you bro is this- don't ever get in the mentality to go looking for love. Once you're set in that mentality- you will do stupid shit- and your life will go down the gutter.

The chick who will truly love you shouldn't give a fuck if you're jacked up on juice and big as fuck. Sure that's a bonus to be a diesel motherfucker- but that shouldn't be the reason why she loves you. There are plenty of other dudes out there who are bigger, badder and got more money and can sell more dreams than you can. Go out in the world and have some relationships. Bang some ho's- don't worry about love bro- it will happen when it's time.

posted June 07, 2000 02:53 PM            

email me if you need advice on killing yourself, I'm more interested in the safety and the welfare of AS. hehehehehehehehehe

would it make you feel better if i told you that i'll be banging her hard tonight. Anal style!!!!!!!!!!!

posted June 07, 2000 03:17 PM            

Blond,
Email me if you need.

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posted June 08, 2000 10:07 AM            

I am sure all of those things would make you happy, right? WELL PUT THEM ALL TOGETHER BRO. Train your ass off, get fucking big and intimidating, treat yourself to some killer outfits, go out with your friends to some clubs and hangouts and guess what....the girls with the tight asses will come flockin'. Then YOU have the choice whether to fuck'em or find the one you want to be with for a long time. There WILL be many to choose from, it's up to YOU to put yourself into that situation.

Just go out and have fun man. You need some direction and guidance. A Psychologist might not be bad idea, but for now you just need to do what makes you happy and everything WILL fall into place.

Go into the gym and think about everything that pisses you off and hit the iron like you have never before. Be smart with the gear and do it right and you won't regret any of it.

Think Positive and THINK HUGE!!!!

posted June 08, 2000 10:48 AM            

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