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Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 780 |
Well bros I have had it. Yes I know this should be on chat board, but thats not where my fellow bros hang. I applied 7 months ago for a job at a Chemical Co. in my city. I went through the process of 2 interviews..and a polygraph which lasted from 9:30 in the morning til 4:30 PM with out even a piss break. I passed. The next step was the finall interview. I recieved notice yesterday that I was not accepted for the job. When I called the CO. up, I spoke to the guy who was handling my hiring and he said I was very honest on my polygraph and passed and it wasn't due to that...It was the fact that my financial history was completely screwed. Well this wasn't new to them, because I told them from the start that it was. Between my X-wife--- me co-signing on a car she was responsible for and she had it repoed after the divorce--on my credit...and my x-fiancee forged credit cards in my name and maxed them out and also forged my child support checks(yes I am a single father) and cashed them and spent my daughters money! I am not in heavy debt just $3000 at the most. But he said that Administration looked at my $$history and said that it reflected MY resposiblities on how I handle MY money and that it wasn't acceptable. You know never mind the fact that I need money to pay the 3G off and with this new job I could have paid it off at the most a years time! Sorry just had to vent....and I am very depressed and bitter, because I let women ruin my life. Don't let your heart and dick fool ya MAKE SURE and then check yourself again if your thinking of getting serious with a woman. Cuz they'll screw you over in a heart beat and laugh at ya when your down. I let myself and my daughter down. By the way the job started at $51,000...topped out at $78,000 in three years. Sorry bros for being off topic- but I really don't want to deal my "real" family yet and I just had noone else to turn to . ------------------ [This message has been edited by DIXIEBOY (edited April 08, 2001).] | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 1109 |
DixieBoy, I know you will hear this a thousand times, but I have to say it anyway: hang in there. Just the fact that you are a hardcore lifter proves that you can handle adversity. Normal people could never subject themselves to the pain the we do each day of our lives. Normal people could never push themselves to achieve things that were never believed to be possible. You are not normal, and that's good. You are stronger than the average person, both mentally and physcially. I know you will bounce back and everything will work out in the end. I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes those reasons aren't apparent to us at first. This, like most things in life, will make you stronger and will make you a better person. I hope things get better for you soon though. -TG | ||
Pro Bodybuilder Posts: 330 |
Things definitely do happen for a reason. I went through alot of shit this past year and feel now that it was worth it. Obviously because things have gotten better which they will for you. Good luck and let out some of that frustration at the gym. | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 780 |
Thanks TG&gd... I agree...I just wish I had a dollar for everytime I told myself--Things happen for a reason..I probably wouldn't be in debt..*sigh* I knew I could count on bros to help me on this. My selfesteem and confidence is at an all time low. ------------------ [This message has been edited by DIXIEBOY (edited April 08, 2001).] | ||
Cool Novice Posts: 11 |
PA here... bro...i really feel for you and cannot say i know what it's like....but just wanted to know you and your daughter have my backing and are in my prayers. you and i were both a part of J's old board, and i still feel as if all of the old members from there are as much brothers now as we were then.... till we all meet in heaven, every day is a battlefield. keep a song in your heart, and keep your head high. God has an answer for you bro | ||
Mutant Posts: 3126 |
What doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. I know it may not seem like it now but I look at things in the following manner and it always seems to work for me: Something positive always comes out of something negative. Hang in there brother ------------------ E2's Steroid Pictures Pictures of many different drugs. AJC' Steroid Profiles Profiles of many different steroids 2Thick's Injection Procedures Site Complete with Pictures and Diagrams! Finaplix by Mr H A complete guide to Fina | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 1101 |
dixie boy, I know how you feel. I got downsized in January and have been working temp jobs and collecting unemployement. Well, my wife got downsized two weeks ago and shes in the same boat I am in. Friday my mom had a heartattack and the basketball goal in my drive fell through my windsheild. Bro, I'm no holyroller, but this pray has help me: god, give me the sirenty to accept the things I cannot change The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the diffrence. Hope I help, the world can be a sick machine. e-mail me if you want. best wishes jdismukes | ||
Cool Novice Posts: 48 |
I am new to the board Buddy, but I am not new to the prblems you face. I have two daughters and I know debt. I want to give them what they deserve..... but you know what, I give them what they need. They need me happy. They need my love. Mental Fitness and Physical Fitness go hand in hand. Give them the full package Bro. Give yourself a break too. If this stuff didn't bother you, that would say a lot about you as a man. Your pain is a testament to your values and morals. Work. Keep digging your well. Don't think about getting off from your work. Water is there somewhere. Nothing is too good to be true... nothing is too wonderful to happen.... nothing is too good to last, when you look to God for your good. Faith supplies staying power.... anyone can keep going when the going is good, but some extra ingredient is needed to keep you fighting when it seems that everything is against you. Don't look for the path far away... the path exist under our own feet. I sent an e-mail to my mom yesterday answering her question about how my life was going as she knew I had been having a tough time. I wrote her back saying that my life would be nearly perfect if I could just pay my back taxes and get out of debt. My girls and I are healthy and otherwise happy. I am a good person as they are. Then I caught myself... and I added to her this thought : "He who knows he has enough is rich." We have enough Dixieboy. Waste not fresh tears over old griefs! | ||
Amateur Bodybuilder Posts: 209 |
$3,000 in debt aint bad at all.... If you were in the states you would be at the top of the food chain. I know of people that are $80,000 and more in debt. Emotions can swing all the way up, but they can swing all the way down. You are definitely not alone, everyone has some kind of fucked up situation in their life. Don't fight it now, just let yourself hit bottom, then everyday after that will seem great. | ||
Cool Novice Posts: 35 |
HANG IN THERE BRO, I WENT THROUGH THE SAME CRAP 5 YEARS AGO NASTY DIVORCE AND 2 YEARS AGO WITH ANOTHER WOMEN WHO I THAUGHT LOVED ME,TRUST ME IT GETS BETTER!!!!! VENT IN THE GYM AND TRY NOT TO DWELL ON THE SUBJECT THATS WHAT KEEPS PULLING YOU DOWN. LET IT GO AND TO HELL WITH BOTH OF THEM WOMEN THER NOT GONNA FIND ANYTHING OUT THERE. ------------------ | ||
Novice Posts: 6 |
I'm new to replying but don't let anyone, especially a woman, get the better of you. Use the same intensity you'd use for a good workout, squeeze your fist, know they can't and won't beat you, and snap out of it. Recovery is the key to growth. | ||
Pro Bodybuilder Posts: 529 |
Dixie I am with you my brother. I still got my nice job but me and the woman are now seperated and getting ready for the Big D. You know the problems that I speak of from J's board. And yes PA, even though we don't hang together anymore, we are still a brotherhood. Dixie if there is anything I can do for you please don't wait a second and ask. IA brothers are still around and I am sure we can be of a help in anyway we will be there for you. | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 780 |
I just want to thankyou all. It's bros like you that will help me see some light in my life. I am just to the point where I want trouble to die down. I am not a holyroller myself, but I have been praying for some PEACE in my life. Trying to move forward and better myself.Just really tired of taking 1 step forward and 2 steps back. But enough of the Boohoo bullshit, I have delt with alot of shit in my life...I will be able to pull though this. Thankyou again bros and I do not forget those who are kind enough to reply and help me get through this. I knew IA bros would be there for me You all have my respect. I consider myself very lucky to have bros I can turn to in time of need.
[This message has been edited by DIXIEBOY (edited April 08, 2001).] | ||
Amateur Bodybuilder Posts: 139 |
You sound not only like a decent guy, but like most men around the country. As long as you care as much as you do about your circumstances you'll never be accused of letting anyone down. It may sound corny,but I don't believe anything really bad ever happens to us-that we just end up with circumstances that challenge us to develop into the person that will make us proud of ourselves. You sound like you're well on your way. The 3K in debt isn't so bad that you should consider your existence a curse. And that job,might not have been the total godsend you think it is now. You'll find something else-something you'll probably enjoy more(cause thats what happens)and things will work out. Keep your eye on the big picture, not the problems of today. In 10 years you'll be telling people how down you were at this point in your life-and they'll find it hard to believe because of the success you made of yourself.Now, get up off your ass and make us proud... | ||
Freak Posts: 2002 |
DIXIE, I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR THAT BRO, YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS. LETS HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR THE BEST. IF YOU NEED TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING YOU CAN E-MAIL ME ANYTIME, AS I AM ALWAYS HERE TO LISTEN OR HELP M18 ------------------ | ||
Cool Novice Posts: 35 |
Yo man, all I can say is the key is in front of your own eyes. Whenever I get depressed (which is A LOT LATELY with my psycho-ex and her crap) I just hang out with my lilttle boy for awhile and it all goes away. He is SO AWESOME to watch. He makes me laugh like noone else on this fucked up planet can. My world has been pretty shitty for well over a year now, and I don't know how the fuck I've hung on sometimes, but I DO know that it has a lot to do with my "Lil Man" Hang Tough Bro! [This message has been edited by edge_crusher_1 (edited April 08, 2001).] | ||
Pro Bodybuilder Posts: 372 |
I'll keep you in my prayers. Best of luck to you. ------------------ | ||
Amateur Bodybuilder Posts: 222 |
DB, I can relate to you like you couldn't imagine. Those six words pretty much sum me up entirely for the past few years. It seems like every time I turn around it's something else that's sinking me deeper and deeper into trouble. I'm glad you decided to bring that out here on Elite with your brothers. I know I turn to this when I am feeling down for support. Bro, I know it may not sound helpful to you now, but you need to find strength in all of us pulling for you as well as yourself. Know that all of your bro's here are with you now, hang in there bro! Never, ever give up!!! | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 1427 |
do you have a job right know? what kind of a job was it...dont mind if i ask that right?.....plus hang in there bro...and keep your head up...everything well turn out "ultrafine" ------------------ [This message has been edited by ultragainz (edited April 08, 2001).] | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 1445 |
Fuck, what were you applying for, the CIA? ------------------ | ||
Amateur Bodybuilder Posts: 122 |
dixie hang in there bro things will get better ,don't lower the flag yet !!!!! | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 632 |
Dixieboy, You will be in my prayers bro!! God has something better for you bro! Just pray and you will see, And we all need to be holyrollers because on the last day all this flesh and muscle will melt away and then only our experience with god being born again of the WATER AND OF THE SPIRIT and living right will count in the next life. | ||
Pro Bodybuilder Posts: 515 |
Keep your head up!! Things do happen for a reason. Your in my prayers also!! Drop me an email, I might be able to hook you up with a job if you are interested in moving to Arkansas. This is also a chemical plant. | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 760 |
Dixieboy, you just got a dose of the revenge of the pencil necks. Those corporate geeks hate big guys....makes em feel small, and baby, they got the power. Think self-employment. No suit is ever telling me I ain't good enough, and I'll go to the gym when I damn well please. Get pissed and get busy. I don't think 3000. debt kept you from getting the job, obviously. Fuck em. | ||
Elite Bodybuilder Posts: 715 |
Phuck 'em Dixie! I know you're a good bro so I believe them are losing more than you! ------------------ | ||
Amateur Bodybuilder Posts: 80 |
Hey Dixie. At least you've taken your licks and kept on going. Focus on the important things in life...your daughter. You haven't let her down, you've been there for her. Through thick and thin, you've looked after her. I know she adores you. The love between you and your daughter is what matters. If you need anything, just ask! On a side note, I hear Pope & Young most likely will not recognize that trophy buck as the world record for archery as the bow had an 80% letoff. | ||
Amateur Bodybuilder Posts: 141 |
since when did companies stop hiring people because of their CREDIT HISTORY, thats the most retarded fuckin shit i ever heard, what the fuck does that have to do with how hard you will work for that company, bro your better off NOT working for assholes like that, i mean who the fuck are they the F.B.I????????? |
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