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 How about fiance vents? Did your girl hook up with Eric Fromm like mine did? (Page 1)
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Elite Bodybuilder 
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Well, i saw the girlfriend vent post, and i just said fuck it, and had to post this for you. I know it should probably be on the chat board, but i dont really give a shit right now. Here is the story: I have been going out with the same girl for 4 years now. We are the happiest people in the world. BUT....we argued a little too much, and got into a fight 2 weekends ago. That was the night that we had a contest here in town, and Eric Fromm guest posed with Nasser El Sonboty. Anyways, i didnt end up going with her and her friends to the club, and she hung out with Eric all night. Come to find out, he hung out with her and all her friends until about 8am the next morning, even at the after party at this guys house. They kissed, and basically thats all. I mean, i guess i really cant blame her for feeling like she was on "cloud 9" because if Timea Majorova hung out with me all night, im sure it would be hard to not hook up with her too. Anyways, i just thought i would share that with you. Now we are having all kinds of problems. We are supposed to get married August 18th, and our house we are building is going to close in 2 weeks. Yeah for my nice fucking life. ------------------ EMAIL: [email protected]     | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder 
Posts: 90 |
Regardless of who she kissed, she still kissed somebody else, maybe more, you'll never know. If your gonna marry her, how do ya know she won't do it again? | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder 
Posts: 317 |
i'll bump for this. It would break my heart if it happened to me. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 852 |
Bro, Your girl hooked up with this Geezer. Damn, I would be fucking embaressed!!! ------------------ [This message has been edited by FreakMonster (edited April 06, 2001).] | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 202 |
I think the only solution is to kick eric's ass! | ||
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Freak 
Posts: 2741 |
well from your response it doesnt seem like your to bothered by what happen and even reason w/her somewhat.....so dont let it get to you like the responses above suggest...seems like your level-headed and will figure it or her out.... ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 896 |
Bro, you will never be able to trust her. You have no idea the strife that this can spawn. You will argue about everything from putting too many miles on the vehicles to taking too long to come home from work... You will fight and argue and you won't even know why. This event will seep into your subconscious and it will take away from the happiness of marriage. She will react to your distrust by putting emotional space between you. That may lead to more distrust and she may be feeling the same way that you will be: that getting married was a mistake. That may lead her to revert to the way she was the other night... when some attractive guy knocks on her door.. well, you know. She cheated on your for a bigger better deal. Do you think that she was not turned on? She would not have kissed him if she wouldn't have. Hormones can get in the way of logic. Personally, I would think twice about marrying a girl if she got horney over some more attractive guy while we were engaged. Sex (and whatever else) should be more than a lustful attraction. If she can lust over a guy, that is bad; but if she can actually carry out that lust and give into it, YOU DON'T NEED HER. Find someone that won't. Don't stay in this relationship just because of pragmatic reasons. The fact that you are set to get married and you already have a house being built should not have any effect on your decision to stay with her. These are MY qualified opinions.
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 317 |
Kill her. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 110 |
Jog her on and find someone faithfull | ||
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Cool Novice 
Posts: 26 |
My Dad always said that no pussy is made out of gold!! Don't let her fuck you over anymore... | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 317 |
Like i always say, "if you play pussy, you're bound to get fucked." Don't let her walk on you. She obviously didnt take into consideration the whole house and engagement thing when she hooked up with that queer bait, you shouldn't either. | ||
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Mutant  
Posts: 3000 |
Bro...I could go on for hours about this. The fact that it was some national competitor doesn't make one little tiny bit of difference either, there's still no excuse. This shit is so fucked up, I'd like to have a word with your girl. In short, I would call off the wedding and do yourself a favor now. She evidently didn't care what you thought at the time, or knew she could get away with it. In any case, I wouldn't be able to trust her ever again. I know it's hard to throw what you have with her away, but shit bro, look at the big picture. She's not going to respect you and she'll always think she has the upper hand in the relationship. At least call the wedding off for now and just keep dating her. You need to let her know that you're not going to put up with shit like that, now or ever. ------------------ Visit my website at http://profiles.elitefitness.com for up to date A.S. info. ------------------------- | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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I also agree with AJC, call off the wedding now. And don't keep what she did a secret. She is goign to be so sorry and realize what she did. But her being sorry will not change her.
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Mutant
Posts: 3000 |
quote: Can I get a AMEN! brothas and sistas! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 174 |
You cant trust her....thats it. unless that type of behavior doesnt bother you....then your good. As for me, I would drop her like a sack of potatoes. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 66 |
Tell her to take a hike , u will never trust her again. U have to show her that u can move on without regrets since she fucked it up by screwing around. Plus u now have a new bachelor pad being built for u and as many honeys as u can bring home. I bet that will show her . So take a tough stance on this and dont let it go unpunished. When she tries and sweettalks u , just think of her kissing that fag and showing off in front of her friends and that should be motivation enough to lay the smack down. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 83 |
Props to Sigmund "Stew" Freud and Carl "ajc" Yung. This is the best advice any guy could get. I'd listen if it happened to me. Sorry and good luck. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 164 |
Everyone is different. If it were me, I could never trust her again and I would call it off. But if she acted within the boundaries of your relationship and you don't feel all that betrayed, then you should really think about sticking with it. | ||
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Freak
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quote: i also agree totally, and damn sure wouldnt have it a secret....its possible for her to change but you have to know what extent of realization and hurt she reaches and willingness to change--if change for herself maybe--if only to smooth out w/ you..forget it.. ------------------ [This message has been edited by ROIDRANGER (edited April 06, 2001).] | ||
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Mutant
Posts: 3000 |
Did I forget to mention what a jackass she made you look like in front of her friends by doing that? Oh, well just in case, here it is. She made you look like a total fucking idiot in front of her friends. I know, I know you shouldn't care what other people think, but we're bodybuilders and most of us do care what others think (and I think we should to some extent). So, if you call off the wedding and make her look like the jackass, you'll get respect from her and her friends and whoever else ends up hearing about what she did to you. Bro, this is a blessing in disguise..You're very, very lucky it didn't happen after you married her. I can't stress this enough. If you call the wedding off now, you'll gain much respect from her even if you do end up marrying her later on down the road. ------------------ Visit my website at http://profiles.elitefitness.com for up to date A.S. info. ------------------------- | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 301 |
Hardcore, you have mail. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 515 |
Call it a bleasing! You could have been married for four years. I say call off the wedding to get shit straight. You have waited four years anyway, why not one more?? Your in my prayers!! Keep your head up..things happen for a reason. You just have to figure out what those reasons are! | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 744 |
kick her to the curb bro-no matter how much you guys were fighting or whatever she still obviously isn't as committed to the relationship as you are because you didn't hook up with anyone and she did-the good thing is your finding out what she's like now and not 5 years from when you're married with kids. ------------------ | ||
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Moderator
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Bro,you're a young man with your entire life ahead of you.I've seen your pics,and I can tell you,that chicks are a dime a dozen when you look the way you do.I know you love this girl,but what she did,indicates what you were worth to her.Because of a spat,she decided it was okay for infidelity?Listen to Stew and AJC,this woman has no loyalty to you.You will find a woman that will treat you right,and sooner than you think.Don't "settle" for one because of all that's involved(house/time invested).Show her the door and get busy making a life for yourself with someone who will appreciate you.This kind of sh*t gets under my skin greatly,if you can't tell....Huck | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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I DON'T KNOW YOU OR YOUR GIRL, BUT I'D SAY THEY DID MORE THAN FUCKING KISS. I DON'T CARE WHAT SHE OR HER HO FRIENDS SAY, BITCHES LIE AND ACT LIKE THEIR SHIT DOESN'T FUCKING STINK. I'D CALL OF THE WEDDING AND MOVE THE FUCK OUT. WHEN SHE REALIZES SHE FUCKED UP AND COMES CRAWLING BACK, FUCK HER LIKE THE WHORE SHE IS AND THEN KICK HER ASS OUT. LOOK, I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU FELLAS BUT I GET JUST AS MUCH PUSSY WHEN I'M SINGLE AND DATING THAN WHEN I'M IN A STEADY, MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP. AND, I DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH SOMEONE'S SHIT 24-7. YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN A BITCH WHO IS GONNA STAB YOU IN THE BACK WHEN THE GOING GETS ROUGH. BRO, DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND BE YOUR OWN MAN. ITS NOT TO LATE TO MAKE A STAND, EITHER. PEACE ------------------ NEWBIES, CLICK ON THE LINK BELOW AND GET YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED AT THESE FINE SITES. UPDATED WEEKLY | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 485 |
If you do get married, dont have kids. I'll give your relationship 2 years. Then your paying childsupport, ergo her new car payment, for the next 18 years. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 54 |
Dude I would hit it one more time and then quit it for good, the you would have props from me | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 835 |
I feel for you buddy, I have been in the same boat. Like mentioned above, I went ahead and stupidly stayed with the girl and in 2 years we were divorcing. It just never get`s out of your head and it sends her the message that it was okay to do. I am remarried now to an absolutly wonderful lady, and we have 2 kids. Things will definately get better !! ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 1076 |
WOW....i had no idea that i would get this many responses regarding my topic. Guys, i appreciate all of your advice. I know that she has ran all over me. I know that now. I mean, its so fucking hard to let go. She is so damn beautiful guys, if you only knew what she looked like you would understand the situation i am in. I mean, there is not another girl that i have ever seen that looks as good as she does. I want to be able to trust her, but you are right: we are now argueing a lot because i feel like when she isnt with me shes doing something she isnt supposed to be doing. I know shes not, but i just have this fucked up feeling. She is being so sweet to me though, and telling me she is sorry it ever happened, ect. I guess you can call that bullshit right? I dont know, it seems like she really doesnt want to lose me and our relationship, but its almost like this: I had a guy last night tell me that she probably feels like she is on top of the world, and whenever she calls or needs me, i will always be there. She knows im building this home for her, and getting married to her, so there is her security blanket in the relationship. She is 21, and so am i, so maybe shes thinking she needs to go out and have fun before she gets married and settles down. I did forget to tell you all that i bought her boobs a couple months ago, and since then i think things have changed in her attitude. She thinks she is just hot shit now, and she loves the attention she gets from guys i guess. I know she is being very immature lately too, and she is not like that. She has never acted the way she is acting now. She has no respect for me it seems sometimes, and other times, it seems like she does respect me a lot. Its very confusing, and i try to be the badass and act like i dont give a fuck about her, and then she goes and is all sweet to me, kissing me, ect, giving me these puppy dog looks. I dont know, i think she is sorry that this has happened, but that she wants her space and to be a little more free. She told me that she wants to go out with her friends more often, with just the girls. I guess that i need to be a fucking man, stop calling her 24/7, and make her want me. We have/had something special, and honestly, its just not that easy to throw it all away. I want things to workout between us, and i know she does too. She has said that maybe its cold feet from getting married, moving on, ect. I think she is just scared about the whole situation. She will soon realize that there is nobody that will stand by her like i will. God this blows. ------------------ EMAIL: [email protected] | ||
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Mutant
Posts: 3000 |
The bold print was originally posted by Hardcore4Evr. The comments are how I see it from the outside looking in. Sorry bro, not trying to flame. I just feel sorry for you and want to help you do the right thing for yourself. we are now argueing a lot because i feel like when she isnt with me shes doing something she isnt supposed to be doing. I know shes not, but i just have this fucked up feeling. You know she's not...why? After what happened I'd say it's more than a fucked up feeling. I did forget to tell you all that i bought her boobs a couple months ago, and since then i think things have changed in her attitude. She thinks she is just hot shit now, and she loves the attention she gets from guys i guess. I bet Eric enjoyed them, and would love to thank you. She told me that she wants to go out with her friends more often, with just the girls. GUYS! I know that she wont do this again. I can honestly tell you that i know she wont. You may not believe me, but its the truth. Yeah, and last week you would've told us all that she would never do that to you a first time. ------------------ Visit my website at http://profiles.elitefitness.com for up to date A.S. info. ------------------------- | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 164 |
I really feel your anguish from your post. Unfortunately, you probably are wrong about knowing that she won't ever do it again. Buying her the implants was a really bad idea. You need to listen to Tom Leykis with "Leykis 101". He talks about how no guy should ever buy the implants for his girlfriend/wife, since she only wants them in order to get more attention from other guys. You really need to listen to us and see this as a blessing in disguise. She won't be faithful, and 21 is too young for a guy to get married anyway. Some women get married that young and do fine, but us bros need to wait at least until we're in our late 20s. Most of us are speaking from experience in telling you that you're lucky that this happened now instead of later. Just remember, looks aren't everything. It can be a curse to have a chick that is too good looking. Run for the hills before things get really ugly. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 121 |
C'mon man, listen to the Iron Brotherhood! She cheats on you (yeah, I got the whole "We just kissed" story as well...BULLSHIT!) then says she wants more space and freedom. THINK ABOUT IT!! Maybe she is a good person overall, but she is only 21 FUCKING YEARS OLD...AND SHE'S HOT!! Do you really think she is ready to settle down and mature enough to appreciate the security you have to offer? Sorry bro, I just had to add my .02...and it comes from experience. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 101 |
Hey, can you post her number?.......Just playin...Trash the Hoe!! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 76 |
I'd kick her in the gut and pedegree her head on the concrete. Then maybe six months later when she snapped out of her coma she would forget about that ass she kissed just my 2 cents ------------------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 420 |
Move on, If you don't I will personally go over to your home and skull fuck you! j/k MOVE ON | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 147 |
quote: yep, it happened to my best friend, after 4 yrs. of marriage he could finally afford her that boob job "they" wanted and she left him for a pro golfer with a lexus that same year | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 124 |
HARDCORE- I think I remember you posting a while back about how you saw FROMM and El SONBATY at a guest posing, and that you couldn't go out but a bunch of your friends (and girlfriend) DID. If she was playin on ya, I say FUCK A 'HO' You trusted her and YOU were down with her having a good time. She abused your trust. TELL her to get LOST. You don't need a chick who forgets who is good to her. Its happened to me before and I dumped her and have found myself in a better place with hotter chicks. PS i travel down your way 4-5x a year and the giirls by you are fuckin HOT. PPS I like your quote from THE BEAR! | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 317 |
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Hardcore4Evr: We have/had something special, and honestly, its just not that easy to throw it all away. Maybe not for you, but she didn't seem to mind. Get over the feeling of guilt. You arent the one who went out and got plowed by some big fruit cake. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 169 |
It is really surprising how many married women actually cheat on their husbands without them knowing. Me and my friends go to a bar here in town and play a game called Guilty Conscience. There are a lot of married/engaged women in the bar on weekends, so the object of the game is to see who can hook up first with a seemingly very unavailable married woman. Ironically it is usually easier to get into their pants than it is the single women, so we just avoid the single one's altogether. Some of the married women seem to have morals believe it or not, but a little persistance and alcohol can work wonders. heheh. RICO | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 124 |
Oh YEAH- I just read your first post but- BIG UP to Stew and AJC for keeping it real on this post. And you're only 21 bro. In your town there is sooooooo much hot ass everywhere. What the hell are you doing getting married? | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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I forgot to tell the happy ending of the story, after my friend got over his depression from it all he started dating and eventually married this beutiful rich girl, her parent's are filthy rich with their own lear jet and their own island in the south pacific | ||
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Freak
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quote: bro--your stressing a BITCH cause she's good looking or beautiful...WTF IS A MATTER W/ YOU!!!! and shes doggin you like the little bitch--OVER THE WAY SHE LOOKS...i seriously hope you consider calling the wedding off before she does just to make you kiss her ass more...i know its hard, but you need to get your pants back on--cause right now she's the one wearing the pants in the relationship.... you dont have to be a hard-ass neither, just no one deserves to get all walked over as you are.. ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 164 |
white boy - thanks for posting the ending. You gotta love how things usually end up turning out for the best. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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You wouldnt be telling this story, if you truly believed she wouldnt do it again-----She will do it again and I dont even have to know her to know this----21 years old----new boobs---wants to go out with friends more often---------You want to believe it because she is so good looking----It doesnt matter what any of us say because No flame here but you are the type of guy that is going to get walked on-------You both 21--your having a house built "for her" --bought her boobs------------and it probably goes on and on-------- Let me guess, everyone was rolling their asses off that night and partying it up----------Her being 21 and getting alot of attention, she will not want to give up this atmosphere for some time now-----regardless, if you build her a house and so on--She will go out with her friends and roll her ass off, (even if she tells you that she doesnt roll, she will or does)--- ---2 days later she will say she is all done with it because she is depressed ---you will buy it --over and over---- You will try to keep her, by getting her knocked up---which will make things --10 times worse----Do yourself a favor and try to set her up--it sounds childish but it will be worth it-----The problem I think is you wont do it because you are afraid of what she will do----GOOD LUCK! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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wombat's got a good idea, set her up. Do it just to see for yourself whether she can be trusted or not. [This message has been edited by DaMescleMan (edited April 06, 2001).] | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 164 |
In my humble opinion, I think setting her up will only continue the Jerry Springer soap opera drama. Just walk away and forget all about her. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 202 |
Man, you're one screwed up dude. Your fiancee just f*cked another guy and you're ok with it. From what I've read so far, you seem to have a very low self-esteem. You seem to think that you can't do any better if she leaves you and you are trying to rationalize the situation and seem to be blaming yourself why she f*cked that other guy. Imagine if you're married with 2 kids, you come home and see some guy humping her. What would you do? Hey, can't blame her if it's some famous good looking dude right? I mean, it's your fault for (fill in blanks). Postpone the wedding. You can't based your relationship on her looks. Looks fade while personality stays. When she hits 35, watch those boobs sag, her face wrinkles, big ass, and etc. If your relationship is based on "she's beautiful", then what do you have when she's not that hot anymore? | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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I only say set her up because as it stands right now, he is diff. going to marry her----------And for us sitting on the outside looking in---we already no where this marriage is heading------ | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
Posts: 515 |
I think you should have her read this topic!!! | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 718 |
quote: Take some advice from an old fuck who's been there... Run like Hell my man! Good luck with whatever you decide. Later, | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 896 |
Mask is right, go talk to a marriage counselor. He/She could really set you straight as they see cases like this every day. Be VERY lucky that this happened before you got married. I just let my "dream girl" go 3 weeks ago after over a year for her lack of honesty and because all the crap that she's put me through this relationship just added up (I won't go into detail). But I didn't "break up" with her. We just had a long talk and decided (or I decided) that we just weren't meant to be... She cried and carried on but we talked it out and I stayed strong. Now, she'll probably be at my house CLEANING when I get there Take it from a future Ph.D in Marriage and Family counseling, do what you've got to do to get over her. -Stew | ||
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Mutant
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quote: This jackass obviously didn't read the original post. He didn't say she fucked him. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
Posts: 692 |
I got an email from a friend of mine that had a story about this guy who was about to marry his high school sweetheart--It goes something like this--- This 25 year old man was about to marry his high school sweetheart. They have been together over 10 years. Her parents were from the hamptons and had tons of money(father was a vice pres-for a well known razor company). About a month before the wedding he felt that something wasnt right--she would come home late--- Outwith friends more often(which she never did before)and so on-----He hired a P.I. to watch her for a week-----well the P.I. got pictures of her and his best friend fucking around (to say the least)--After the initial shook---He kept this information to himself and went along with the wedding as planned. It was a huge wedding with 500 people from all over the country(world) black tie, held outside the parents mansion in the Hamptons. His best friend was the best man----During the ceramony, when the Justice of the peace asked if their was anybody here who as something to say for why these two should not be married , speak now or forever hold your peace----He turned around and face the crowd and said I have something to say---------He said, I loved this woman for over 10 years, her family has treated me like a son and has done so much for me---But I have to tell you all that I cant marry this woman-----Nobody could believe it and she was really upset--(This wedding cost her parents over 100,000 dollars flying people in and what not)--when the justice of the peace asked why, he said, I want everyone to look under your seats. Tapped underneath everbodys seat were pictures of his wife to be and his best man-(FUCKING)-The place went crazy --- his girlfriend was crying, her mother passed out-------His last words to His wife to be and his best friend were "FUCK YOU" THIS WAS A TRUE STORY---THIS GUY MUST HAVE THE BIGGEST BALLS I'VE EVER HEARD ABOUT---Take this for what it is and never trust anyone except yourself------Before you make life changing decisions, make sure you know everything their is to know about someone! | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Bro, it does not matter who she cheated on you with. You need to call off the wedding. If you loose your trust you have big problems. It is much easier to deal with this now than after you get married! Good luck. ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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GUYS! I must have not elaborated a bit more, but i dont base our relationship on her looks and looks only! She has always been a caring person, there whenever i needed her, do anything for me type of girl. PERIOD! I could go on and on about all her qualities, and honestly, if she didnt have as good looks as she does, i would still want to be with her because we are so much alike in every way. So its not just over looks. Thanks AJC for making it clear that he did not fuck her, because no matter what she did, i know she didnt do that. There was no way possible anyways, cause from what her friend told me, they were never apart all night. And her friend happens to be my best friend too. I dont know guys. I just dont know. All this advice is telling me that i dont need her and to move on with my life. Im not a fucking coward at all. Its really hard and i have never experienced this type of pain before in my entire life. I hope i never have to again. Hopefully we can TRY to work things out. Only if she is willing. Im not calling her anymore, and im not giving in to anything. I will make her want me and miss me, and then maybe she will realize what the fuck she has done, and will come to her senses. We have been doing a lot of "G" lately, and i think that has really fucked up her brain.....seriously. Im not kidding. Its made her weird, even during the day when she is with me, and not just out at night. Lets see what happens tonight. She is cooking me dinner (Her idea), and she told me she wants to talk with me about some things. I asked her if it was a good conversation, or a bad one that we were going to have, and she came back with "good". So that is something positive i suppose. I appreciate all your help guys, but right now i just cant let go. As much as i would like to, and as much as it kills me, i know we are meant to be with each other. I will let you guys know what happens. It may not be until tomorrow afternoon until i can sign back on here because my computer at home is not working. Thanks again guys. I really appreciate all your replys. I didnt know there were so many people out there that really cared. Thanks ------------------ EMAIL: [email protected] | ||
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Novice 
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Guy's you are all cracking me up! What the F#*K. Most of you guys that are harping on this chick probbably have tapped on women other than your girl married or not. Does that make you love her any less than before you cheated on her. If a relationship is going to work trust is a big part of it but if you can't forgive it will never last anyway. Shit if that was the case we would all be with out a woman because they have to forgive us for alot more stuff than we do of them. We all need to be on the same plan. Whats good for the Goose theory.Most of you guys talking about "dump the bitch". Then what? Get another one and when something else goes wrong dump that bitch too. If girls are a dime a dozen what make you think any of them would be any different they all have baggage. I have a freind that has been married 4 times and he told me once if he knew now what he knew then he said he would have kept his first wife because they all have basically the same hang ups and it would have saved him 3 alimony payments. I also think if this happened to you, your thoughts would be a little different out side looking in or not. Is it wrong for someone to live a little and have some excitement with out someone else going of the deep end? With all you have invested in the chick you should try to work it out hell everyone on this board want you to dump her so they can have a shot at her. And if it happens again and she has no remorse just club her in the head like a baby seal. FOREGIVENESS BOYS! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
Posts: 202 |
ajc, I did read the original post. She's at the guy's house, kissed him, and stayed there till' 8am. I'd say she fucked him. | ||
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Mutant
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quote: There's some very good points. But...I don't think we want him to dump her so we can have a shot. We want him to dump her so that he will gain some much needed respect from her. Hardcore4Evr- Look bro, you seriously need to call this wedding off (and continue dating if you want). Yes, it will embarass the shit out of her in front of her family, but this will make her remember not to fuck up for future reference. She will have to go around and explain to friends and family why the wedding was called off. It sounds mean but bro, look at the shit you're going through. Be very nice and polite to your girl (this will earn you much respect too) when you tell her this and explain that you still care about her, but that this has made you have second thoughts about marrying her. Then, wait a month or two and if all is going well, talk about getting married if you feel that's what you want. You just cannot let this slide so fast. Don't be a pushover bro. That shit is totally unattractive. We've all been there begging a girl to give us "one more chance" and you know as well as I do, that if they come back too easy, you're like "Well, that was easy enough..." You need to make her earn your trust and respect back. OK...That's all for now. ------------------ Visit my website at http://profiles.elitefitness.com for up to date A.S. info. ------------------------- | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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HAha this is making me laugh. I hope everything works out for the best bro. Definitly a spicy story ------------------ | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Well, if you want a no-class approach then hire a detective to follow her around, like that Magnum P.I. guy and bug your phones. But then again, if you resort to these kinds of tactics then you'll be as bad as she is (if she does cheat). I still think you should postpone the wedding. Both of you are still young, there's no reason why you HAVE TO get married right now. | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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Ultimately it is your decision, what ever you do will probably be right. You know the circumstances more than we do. How can you even take the advice of people you don't know, and don't know you. If you break up with her you could regret it for the rest of your life, that's something to consider. | ||
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Cool Novice
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Dude that sucks. Your head going to tell you that it will never happen again but that chick tainted. Let her be someone else's problem. I know it is hard but you can turn that frustration into positive energy and go do something that you have wanted to do but held off because of your relationship. Stay positive you will be better off in the end. | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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she is a hoe bro....sorry but its damn true.....get rid of her and tell her that she is a hoe..the "H" in hoe and post what happens........ ------------------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Dont let your heart get in the way of whats really their----------You stated that you wont call her and that you hope that she will miss you and come back-------You dont have to play that route-------Be proactive---go out and find the answer that is bugging you! You are going to stay with her, you already know that, now the question is do you want to just look the other way when shit like this happens. She will think it is fine because she got away with it already------You guys go out and party --G--rolls-maybe K --whatever, you know what that atmosphere is going to lead to-----Dont get me wrong, I like that atmosphere but if my wife was with me and I had a trust issue, you will drive yourself crazy-------I agree with forgiveness but also look out forself first. So forgive but keep in the middle of your mind------ | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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Have you been 100% faithful to her, bro? If you had made a similar mistake and been forgiven, that would be the only reason not to torpedo her. Basically, once trust is lost in a relationship....its over. You don't want to be a whinny bitch, suspicious everytime she is out of your sight. And you don't want this to happen again when you have a joint mortgage, kids to support, etc. There are loyal women out there, and its worth the wait. Take it from someone who has been there. | ||
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Cool Novice
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I wasn't sure I'd post on this subject but I guess I'll weigh in. About a year and a half ago I had a mild arguement on the phone with my girlfriend of 3 years, she was 21. She was at her parent's house in another town and anyway some friends of her's from high school (2 guys, 1 a dude she had a major crush on in HS but never pursued) came by to visit and take her to meet some other friends. SO she muffled the phone and said hold on just a sec and I'll get him off the phone. I was PISSED and called her on that remark and hung up on her. 1.)If a chick has control in a relationship, 2.)Young girls are fucking STUPID and will 3.)Once you get fucked you will NOT GET OVER 4.)If your girl knows she is on the verge of
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Cool Novice
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Bro, I've got to say (for what its worth) that this shit will linger just like some above posts said. It will eat at you and eat at you. I bitched all kinds yesterday bout my (ex) chick, and I had a similar thing hapen with her last year w/ a friend of mine (whom I've never seen since lucky for him) and I have never quite been able to let it go. She didnt even kiss the guy (supposedly) but I still have doubts. She will convince me but then during the next fight I'm totally thinkin and stewin about it, and it SUX BAD!!! I don't think it's possible to 100% trust someone after that shit. People can say what they like, but I don't buy it. Its ALWAYS there in the back of your head KILL THE CHICK BEFORE SHE EATS AWAY YOUR SOUL! (no but seriously, I would kick her to the curb. I shoulda kicked mine a LONG time ago, but I kept holdin on, and it aint healthy). EC1 | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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quote: This is a VERY good assessment. Number 3, | ||
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Pro Bodybuilder
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CUT HER OFF!! If she stayed out with him til 8 am im sure she did more than kiss him, I wouldnt be surprises if Nassar threw his junk in her too! | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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I have to say that just because she was out until a given time , does not mean that she was cheating...Hell I have met and then nailed chicks within 5 minutes...and others we were out until 5 and still no sex! She may have cheated and she may not have. Go by her reaction and your gut instinct....BUT at the begining of your post you said that you two were thge happiest couple in the world? NO you are not ...you said that maybe you argue too much....a happy couple does not argue.....My wife and I don't...my EX_WIFE and I did all the time . You are also too young to be getting married...you need to wait until you are 25-26 you have been with the same chick for too long and you need to spread your wings ...and buddy that is what she has started to do. Never ever by a magor gift (implants ) for someone that you are not married to.My wife got implant 2 weeks before we got married ...but she is paying for them not me! As for the hous e...once you are married and if you then get divorced....she gets half the house .....the amount of work and money you put into it is not important in the eyes of the law.....If you do get married to her get a prenuptual...if she says no you kno thast she wants you for the $ Goodluck | ||
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Elite Bodybuilder
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post a pic of her so we can give you better advice.. | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Werd - If this were my girl, she would get a choking. If she is kissing other dudes, regardless of who the hell it is - maybe you two shouldnt be getting hitched. Same with you - if you think theres chicks out there you still wanna bang - don't do it@!!!! rxderrick | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Stop thinking with your cock and use the head that is on top of your shoulders. Damn, your only 21 and you want to get married? I don't care what girl I meet, I'm 26 and don't want to get married until I'm in my mid thirties-at least. Too much fun being single. You sound like way too much of a romantic to me...no flame intended. Anyways, ACTIONS are much, much louder than words. All the telling you I'm sorry doesn't mean jack shit after what she did to you. If she did it once, chances are she will do it again, just because you put a ring on someone's finger and now have some sort of SYMBOLIC relationship (marriage) doesn't change who the person is you are marrying in anyway. She proved her character to you, lack thereof in this case. IF I were you I'd say buhbye... | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Bro, that is a very shitty situation to be in. But look at it this way - humans are creatures of habit. If she did it once and doesn't suffer severe consequences, (ie. calling off the wedding) she will more than likely do it again. If you have shown her the respect of not fucking around on her than she should recipricate that respect. Do yourself a favor and at least call off the wedding for now. You've waited this long, there is no reason to rush into a wedding after a situation like this. Who cares how much time and money you have invested in this relationship. This will always be in the back of your head and it will eat at your psyche like a rat gnaws on cheese. Treat yourself with the respect you deserve and make a stand. I hope things work out for in the end. I'm sure they will! PEACE | ||
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Amateur Bodybuilder
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Let's see...it's running about 99 to 1 in favor of dumping her. What does that tell you?! |
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posted April 06, 2001 10:51 AM
