posted February 25, 2000 07:57 AM            

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Just a question for you guys, if any of you had a bad relationship with your girl or wife, do you let it interfere with your workout? My wife and I are having major probs and with me thinking about it, my leg workout sucked yesterday, and I could not get it off my mind so I picked up my stuff and went home. I can't let this happen anymore, anybody got any advice?

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posted February 25, 2000 08:07 AM         

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My friend ..... it's not easy but you basically have to do the exact opposite : increase your weight and pump harder and harder ! NEVER GIVE UP , NEVER ! This is valid also in case you have problems at work. Once you enter in your fitness center , you have to focus anly on your work out , and that's all. At the end , you will feel really better and you will be ok to discuss and solve your problems.

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posted February 25, 2000 10:30 AM            

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BAD BRAINS....I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEMS SOMETIMES...JUGGLING BASEBALL, SCHOO, GIRLFRIEND, AND DAUGHTER...I GO TO LIFT, BUT HAVE A BAD DAY...YOU JUST GOT TO PRESS ON AND DON'T LET THAT SHIT BOTHER YOU! I KNOW IT'S HARD AS HELL SOMETIMES TO FORGET ABOUT THE IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE, BUT TRY TO THINK ABOUT YOURSELF 1ST ONCE-IN-AWHILE. IT'S NOT BEING SELFISH, BUT WHEN YOUR NOT HAPPY, NO ONE IS HAPPY. YOU NEED TO BE CONFIDENT AND HAPPY BEFORE YOU CAN MAKE OTHERS HAPPY!!! TRUST ME ON THIS ONE!!

GET HUGE AND DROP BOMBS!!!!

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posted February 25, 2000 10:34 AM            

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I think bad workouts just make problems worse. I don't have any major problems going on in my life right now, but this week I had a real shitty chest workout. I just didn't get a good pump, I don't know why but it pissed me off to no extent. When I left the gym I was irrate, then I had a bad day. So go in there get the work done and focus your anger into pushing the weight. I have my best workouts when I'm pissed off.

"That which does not kill you can only make you STRONGER!!"

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posted February 25, 2000 12:29 PM            

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I think it's almost impossible to let something like that not affect your workouts

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posted February 25, 2000 12:45 PM            

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I just think of all the girls, and how much they're gonna regret letting me slip away when I have a day like that. If that doesn't work, I just get really pissed off and it can even improve my workouts. Just think to yourself "Im a baaaaad man!!!"

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posted February 25, 2000 02:38 PM            

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Bro I've been going through problems like that with my ex girlfriend for over 2 months now...It got bad enough that I couldn't even stand to leave my room...Don't let it drive you that low cause I know it sucks...just try to look forward to the good things you do everyday like working out. That mind set certainly helps me work harder at the gym...Try talking to one of your gym buddies, theres a good chance that they to have been in your shoes

Keep Pumping

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posted February 25, 2000 03:28 PM         

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That is really tough to deal with. That's the reason why my wife and I don't workout together anymore. we would have arguments at the gym. That really sucks. So we workout separately. I know that isn't what you are going through, but having a bad day and workouts suffer. You have to deal with it the best you can. I always always think about what Arnold says in Pumping Iron, "you cannot let any outside negative forces in, if someone steals my car outside I don't care..etc." So when you step in the gym, focus on your workout. This can be hard to do, I know, but once you are in your car and drive to the gym, just think about your workout. When you enter the gym, start focusing on your workout. I hope this helps a little.

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posted February 25, 2000 03:35 PM            

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Brother, I know what you're feeling! My girlfriend and I have just seperated after 5 years! I know she can get another man, she's a college cheerleader and guys are always waiting for me to Fuck up. That's why I decided to hop on my first cycle now instead of in the summer! My workouts are actually zen-like now that I have a goal and I feel all of my frustrations leave me with every rep. It wasn't like that at first, but with a litte focus, I think you'll feel just how I do when I enter my gym. Also go with some friends, it'll make the workout a little more distracting from what's going on at home. I hope you and you're wife reconcile, let me know how it plays out for you. Good Luck, Bro...

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posted February 25, 2000 04:06 PM            

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I know what you are talking about. I am having some serious problems in my life right now. I am trying to deal with my x-wife. We were together for 7 years, she left me last year, not because I am an asshole, but because she just wanted to go out and party with new people. Now she is calling me and I decided to take her back; and now she is unsure if she wants to stay with me or not. I love her more than anything, and would do anything for her. She is not sure if she wants me for sure or not. I try and talk to her about it all of the time, but never get anywhere. Sometimes it brings me down in the gym, but sometimes I can focus it to the weights and act like an animal in the gym. I will try to lift with the best form and concentration possible.(Sweating my ass off) For the moment, and just for the moment, I say f--- it all. Then it all comes back when I walk out the door. I hope you can talk to her and work things out, if you really love each other.

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posted February 25, 2000 07:10 PM            

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I really appreciate everyones thoughts and advise, and I WILL do better than the other day. It's just really a f#$%ked up experience to go through. But I will do better. Once again, thanks everyone!

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posted February 25, 2000 07:25 PM            

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Bad Brains & Bigger A,
I know all too well what your going through, my wife wanted the party life as well......left.......good-bye !! It will take time...some days are better than others. BUT...IT DOES GET BETTER !!! Lift through the pain.......GRIT your fuck'in teeth and do one more rep !! It still sucks sometimes..........Don't quit.......Hang in there !!

One Bro to Another !!

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posted February 25, 2000 08:14 PM            

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Damn guys, I am having the same damn problem now. I just walked in on my ex-gf of 1 week on her and some fricking fag bartender in bed together!! I mean give me a break. And this chick is telling me she still loves me too. Now I'm so down and depressed I can't eat or sleep. That's my biggest problem, I just can't force myself to eat, what the hell should I do?

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