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 working out + girlfriend = stress ?!?!?!
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Rascal V Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 6) |
posted February 09, 2000 08:35 AM
  
Hello guys I have a problem concerning my girlfriend: She just cant understand why I am so addicted to Bodybuilding. Sure..she likes my body but since I have a job and less time for her she keeps stressing me whenever I tell her that I go to the gym...she always tells me that I should take more time for her instead of going into the gym for 1 1/2 hours... IP: Logged |
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bad brains Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 58) |
posted February 09, 2000 09:04 AM
What's up, try and talk her into going to the gym with you, she could spend that time with you learning that it takes a little more than just picking up a barbell a couple of times a week. If you can get her into it with you she might beat you to the gym later on. I did my girlfriends like that and it pretty much worked and now that I am married my wife likes to work out too. We have weights here at home too, so when I don't go to the gym I can still do some at home and she can too. IP: Logged |
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chestyII Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 56) |
posted February 09, 2000 10:09 AM
I had a girlfriend like that. She worshiped my body (so she said) but was always dismayed when I told her that it requires 2 hours in the gym 6 days a week plus watching what I eat. She always said I wish I could call you more, spend more time with you etc. I went to a contest in Tucson, AZ. Got back a couple days late. She told that I would never know how much shs missed me. So I decided to cut back, quit bodybuilding, and cut out all other activities so that I could give her what she wanted. About a month later she gave the last "fuck" (like the last supper) and dumped me! It fucked me hard, took me several months to recover and I am still not fully recoverd. Don't think I ever will be. Anyway, the moral of the story is, do what makes you happy and you alone, because you only get one true shot at building that body of yours. If she truly appreciates it and loves you she will give you the time you need. But do what you want and not what she wants when it comes to you and your body. Because having may not be as good as wanting and you my bro will get fucked in the end. Semper Fi IP: Logged |
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Primo57 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 133) |
posted February 09, 2000 10:24 AM
That is the "reoccuring problem" in our relationship aswell, it's basically a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. They want you to achieve your physique via watching movies and hanging out. Stand your ground bro. IP: Logged |
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devrimbal Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 37) |
posted February 09, 2000 10:31 AM
do what makes you happy... I aggree with Chesty there, but if you'll be happy being with her then be it. I got into several affairs and decided to cut back just like Chesty where the outcome was similar. But I don't regret it because I enjoyed fucking more often and considered I'm taking a break from body building. Bottom line, life goes on do what makes you happy... ------------------ IP: Logged |
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E2 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 470) |
posted February 09, 2000 11:16 AM
I think bad brains has got the right idea, get her in the gym, with you, is she starts liking it to then your relationship can only get better E2 IP: Logged |
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MattTheSkywalker Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 137) |
posted February 09, 2000 11:46 AM
There are a lot of girls. You only get one body. Try to get her in the gym, be supportive at first (because she's going to be VERY self conscious), reinforce the positive results she is achieveing (you know all that supportive guy shit), and she'll probably be nagging you to come to the gym withher. If not, refer to the initial statement. Matt IP: Logged |
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Adonis Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 158) |
posted February 09, 2000 12:12 PM
Im with Bad B and E2 on this, my so called quality time with wifey revolves around gym time, because we both work so much. Im just really happy, I have a women thats as passionate about working out as I am. And like Matt said, "theres plenty of women, but you have only body" IP: Logged |
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big_bad_buff Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 127) |
posted February 09, 2000 12:12 PM
if it comes down to her, or the gym. DROP THAT BITCH LIKE A SACK A SHIT. well that's what i had to do anyway. i had the same problem as you, so i cut back on the gym a little to be with the girlfriend more. then she wanted to know why i had to eat good all the time, and never wanted pizza or ice cream like her...BECAUSE I DON"T WANT TO BE A FAT ASS LIKE YOU.(i wish i would have said that) but anyway, if you like doing what your doing, don't stop doing it because your girlfrind wants you too. WOULD THEY DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT FOR YOU?? NOPE! remember guys WIFE & GIRLFRIENDS or to different things. listen to your wife. IP: Logged |
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Texas Guns Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 11) |
posted February 09, 2000 12:36 PM
I am starting to like Big Bad Buff more and more. I was working hard and heavy in the gym when I first met my husband. I was in top condition and at my leanest and cuttest. That is probably why he wanted to date me in the first place. After our relationship progressed, I slacked off to spend more time with him. It is hard getting out of a warm bed with the love of your life to go running at 4:30 in the morning or staying late at the gym when he is waiting at home for you. My solution was to get him into the gym. He saw all the big guys and now he wants it more than anything. In fact he reads this discussion board like a bible. Hi, Baby!! Definitely get this girl into the gym with you. It is a good time to spend together because you are working side by side and helping each other the whole time. Or find a trainer for her if she slows you down until she can get going on her own. Now I'm back into the gym hard core hoping to be harder than ever!!!!!!!!! Good Luck!!!!!!!!!! IP: Logged |
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bad brains Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 58) |
posted February 09, 2000 12:41 PM
big_bad_buff is right, wives and girlfriends are 2 different things, listen to the wife but if you started body building before she came along, I have said, and I will continue to say, "I was doing this before you came along and you know what you were getting involved with, so live with it or leave it!" Continue body building bro, otherwise you will regret it later. Life is too short to be small! IP: Logged |
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E2 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 470) |
posted February 09, 2000 12:41 PM
Let me tell you Texas your husband is one lucky guy and i hope he knows that. I had one girl who was passionate about working out and i'd have to say that being with her was one of the best times in my life. To bad things between us didn't work out. Well such is life, and now i'm looking for another. E2 IP: Logged |
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Rotten Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 22) |
posted February 09, 2000 12:59 PM
I agree to get her in the gym. The more she works out, the better she will look also. IP: Logged |
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scourge1 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted February 09, 2000 02:12 PM
My wife was pretty much a fitness buff when we met. And even though she's just a treadmiller nowadays, I sometimes get grief about doing double splits. I'd get her involved in the gym, while she probably can't spot you, she might still have a ball anyway. IP: Logged |
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studcj Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 105) |
posted February 09, 2000 02:25 PM
Don't worry about your girlfriend leaving you. Once you cut back on the gym for her, she will think that she has you in the palm of her hand. Then you will get dropped. I have some first hand experience with this. I truly believe that i will meet my future wife in the gym. If you meet a girl IN the gym then you know that she will want the same lifestyle as you,.....problem solved. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Deepsquat Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 143) |
posted February 09, 2000 03:01 PM
remember this is only a girlfriend not your wife! I have one MAJOR rule when it comes to girlfriends "THOU SHALL NOT NAGE AT ME,OR I WILL KICK THY ASS TO THEE CURB!" I know I put up with that nagging shit for 7 years of marriage and I WILL NOT do it again! After my divore it took my 2 years took find a great woman (I worked fridays as a bouncer in a bar so I went through them like a deck of cards) and some of you have read my posts about her she is fantastic has never nagged bitched or moaned about anything in the year we have been together! My point is you may think that if you tell the girl to cut the shit or she is gone that you will have trouble finding someone to replace her,but there are other wemon out there,so lay the law down with her, get your balls out of that jar that she put on the shelf and tell her how it is going to be or "DROP THAT BITCH" [This message has been edited by Deepsquat (edited February 09, 2000).] IP: Logged |
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chestyII Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 56) |
posted February 09, 2000 03:09 PM
AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! I agree with DEEPSQUAT 100% I lost my lifting partner because of his new girlfriend and she has five freakin' kids! She beckons he comes a runnin' like a dog beat into submission. When he does get to the gym all he does is complain about how small he is getting. You know what woman are a plague I say put them all on the moon when we need one beam them down, when done send them back. Just like in Logon's Run. IP: Logged |
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BigCatratcho Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 44) |
posted February 09, 2000 03:45 PM
Now that I lok back on it, during my shitty seperation/divorce time of life. Just about the only constant I had was getting into the gym. You don't really want to escape to work, and getting drunk is an unhealthy short term solution. Women have come and gone, but working out has always been there. and like others have said before me, Body biulding isn't like a "couple of days a week thing" to keep a little fit. or burn some calories, it's a part of life. Don't drop her like a sack of shit, but if she can't understand how important lifting is for you. fukkit. ------------------ ----- "Hey, it's the year 2000, where's my damn jet pack?" IP: Logged |
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filtheboss Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 72) |
posted February 09, 2000 04:30 PM
I CAN'T RECALL WHAT ATTRACTED ME TO MY GIRLFRIEND AND NOW IT DOESN'T MATTER. SHE IS PRETTY AND VERY MUCH SECURE ABOUT HERSELF. IF SHE WERE LESSPRETTY AND VAIN WE WOULD NOT BE TOGETHER TODAY. WE CELEBRATED OUR 16 YEARS LAST NOV AND ITS ALL GOOD. I WORK OUT AND IF SHE WANTS TO GO WITH ME SHE GOES AND IF NOT I GO. ONE NEEDS TO EXEAMINE MOTIVES IN LIFE AND IF WHAT YOU WANT IS ONLY TO SATISFY A CONTINUED DESIRE THEN LIFE WILL BE FUN SOMETIMES AND HELL OTHER TIMES. MOST OF US KNOW THAT LOVE IS NOT SEX OR BEAUTY ALONE. HAPPINESS HINGES ON THE WILLINGNESS OF BOTH PARTIES TO COMMIT TO EACH OTHER AND CHANGE ALONG TOGETHER. IF MY GIRL SUDDENLY GOT FAT AS A HORSE I WOULD STILL LOVE HER, ALTHOUGH I MUST SAY I WOULD DESIRE HER LESS. SEXUALLY THAT IS. EVEN THOUGH I ASPIRE TO GROW AND TAKE MY BODY TO THE LIMITS I AM NOT GOING TO FULFILL MY GOALS IN LIFE ALONE, IF I HAVE A CHOICE. AND GIVEN THAT CHOICE I CHOOSE MY GAL. THINK ABOUT IT WHAT IF YOUR GIRL GOT INTO AN ACCIDENT AND WAS HURT AND COULD NOT GO TO THE GYM OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. WOULD YOU LEAVE HER BECAUSE YOU MET HER, WITH 2 ARMS AND 2 LEGS? WOW I GOT A LITTLE CARRIED AWAY THERE. BUT CAN YOU IMAGINE?
DIVORCED IN SEATTLE IP: Logged |
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Mr. T Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 63) |
posted February 09, 2000 05:00 PM
There is a thin line between wanting to look good and being vain. While most girls I know like a guy that has a good body, they laugh at guys who spend all day at the gym and eat nothing but chicken. You gotta live a little- IP: Logged |
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filtheboss Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 72) |
posted February 09, 2000 05:59 PM
VERY THIN LINE. SOMETIMES A WANT SOMETIMES A NEED.
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BigBrute Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 20) |
posted February 09, 2000 06:07 PM
if a bitch can't understand what i'm all about which is living a healthy lifestyle, staying in the best shape that I can, then I don't need her. They love the results but some women don't understand (or want to) the sacrifices that it takes to get to 7% bodyfat and maintain it. IP: Logged |
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DoctorSavage Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 19) |
posted February 09, 2000 06:15 PM
Gents; This is kind of hipocritical of me, but yeah I agree with the majority of the posts. To thine own self be true. Do what you must to be happy or you will end up resenting her. That said, I must admit that I am a trophy husband to a powerful executive in a fortune 100 company. Part of my "job" is to be at her beck and call, drop what I'm doing to help her with her obligations etc. On the other hand there is some shit she just doesn't have any say in. She will not prevent me from doing the 3 things that I must do for myself; Train in the Dojo 3 times a week Compete in tournaments whenever I damn well think I can win. I got a little cut up in a toughman contest about 4 years ago and she told me I had to give it up. Can you imagine, she told me I "had to give it up"? Like she was my mom or something. I was pretty calm, asked her what her reason was, she gave me some shit about me having to look presentable at cocktail parties and shit. I told her that this was a deal breaker. She picked a big violent SOB that looks great in a suit. I will keep her house, cook for her, be faithful and everything else you could want in a spouse, but every couple of months I just have to put my hands on some guy and beat the living hell out of him. She had three options that I laid out for her she could a)dump me and try to trade up, b)volunteer to go a few rounds with me from time to time or c)let me live that part of my life as I see fit. Make your life one that you want to live for the rest of it. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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marky Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 49) |
posted February 11, 2000 12:48 AM
my girlfriend was on the slightly heavy side when we hooked, loved those pair though. anyway, she got tired of me spending all the time at the gym-not much at 1hr- but still with our work schedules it cut some personal time. well, i got here to the gym and she became hooked when she saw here personal changes. to make a long one short (as this story did for me), she went from a catapillar into a cocuun and then a butterfly and then flew away. end of story. IP: Logged |
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Heemaan445 Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 105) |
posted February 11, 2000 12:55 AM
I've got my gym in my basement.....and I dont get any respect....if I ever get interviewed from winning a lifting event, I'll say "I want to make sure to NOT thank my lovely wife !!" IP: Logged |
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coolhandluke Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 102) |
posted February 11, 2000 09:15 AM
It happens so that I'm a gierlfriend and I have a bodybuilder living with me. My advice would be -talk to her. Tell her that you want to look good for her too and that it's like watching TV, a hobby you enjoy. And If you're capable of such sacrifice try to make her go to the gym with you, guide her through it. If the problem is that she believes that you should sepnd that time with ther - compromise, make the gym your time together. Toop IP: Logged |
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