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coolhandluke Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 71) |
posted January 31, 2000 10:37 AM
   I've been thinking about telling my girlfriend about me juicing. The porblem is I don't know how she will react to my steroid 'habit'. She knows almost nothing about gear and I doubt she'd take it as well as me saying I'm a junkie or gay or something.... I'm sick of injecting in a dark bathroom at odd hours. Any help will be appreciated.Thanks guys. Luke IP: Logged |
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big_bad_buff Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 64) |
posted January 31, 2000 10:48 AM
Ummm!! all depends on your girlfriend, i don't know her so i don't know how she will react, if she's a church going women then Yeah she might FREAKOUT!, just all depends bro!, but if your some huge dude with vains all over your body, and you have scares all over your ass, and she's always asking YOU TO NOT LEAVE YOUR NEEDLES OUT ON THE BATHROOM SINK. then no she probibly wont freak! LOL.......don't lie BRO! just sit her down and tell her the truth..... IP: Logged |
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MiniMic Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 17) |
posted January 31, 2000 10:50 AM
I had a long talk the other night with my new girlfriend who I have been really good friends with for a while. We were going to be a couple at the begging of summer but I screwed her over. I attribute it to living at the beach, drinking constantly, and experimenting with juice for the first time at 18. With all the alcohol I just couldn't control myself and I turned into an asshole. After that she became good friends with some of my other friends who are in their late 20's and early 30's who do juice openly with each other. So now she has been around it but knows only about the "hints" they through at each other when joking around. Since I have moved back home I have explained to her why I acted like I did because she didn't know at the time. I have done juice again since then without her knowing. At a friends house the other night one of our mutual female friend walked into my friends room while I was loading a needle for myself. So now basically everyone soon knew for sure what I was doing. I decided to tell my girlfriend about it and I explained to her why I do it, and that if she has any questions or concerns to please talk to me about it. I told her why I haven't been drinking (I get really bitchy), and that it will not turn out like the summer. I understand what I am doing now and how to discipline my self so I don't rage. But I emphasized that she talk to me about any concerns she has because I will be straightforward and truthfull. I don't want other people giving her false information. I still however won't openly do it in fornt of her and I talk aboutit as little as possible when she is around. She still doesn't like me doing it but it is just because she cares. I don't think your girlfriend will make fun of you but just reassure her you know what you are doing and to talk to you if she has any concerns. With any relationship communication is the key. Hope this helps. IP: Logged |
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BIZ Moderator (Total posts: 199) |
posted January 31, 2000 10:51 AM
ALSO THINK ABOUT YOUR TRUST AND THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP. DO YOU TRUST HER IF YOU GET INTO A DISAGREEMENT WOULD SHE GO OUT AND SNITCH ON YOUR HABIT??? NOT TRYING TO START CRAP JUST PROTECTING YOU BRO...THIS IS NOT YOUR WIFE! BIZ! ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Heemaan445 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 34) |
posted January 31, 2000 11:53 AM
I agree with biz.....she's not your wife....you may seem to have a good "trust" with her, but once it ends they love to blab.... IP: Logged |
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MiniMic Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 17) |
posted January 31, 2000 12:44 PM
I understand what you guys are saying but in my situation she would have found out soon but I happened upon a good time to tell her myself. I would rather I tell her than someone else. IP: Logged |
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scourge Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 53) |
posted January 31, 2000 01:21 PM
I have found the best way to explain to a girlfriend about steroids is to simply tell her you're injecting a type of veternarian product. If she asks for a more indepth explanation just spill the beans. IP: Logged |
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DreamingBig Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 49) |
posted January 31, 2000 02:22 PM
I have lied to girlfriends in the past and I hated it. Then again I only told those girlfriends who I felt would truely understand (from comments here and there) or had taken AS themselves (I have had two girlfriends that have taken AS). There really is a threat of ex-girlfriends "spilling the beans" and if you can't deal with being exposed then do not tell her. If you are at a point where you feel you can't lie to her then tell her, but beware of any and everything (be prepared for anything to happen). Hope we have all properly confused you. LOL DreamingBig IP: Logged |
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HARDBALL2 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 79) |
posted January 31, 2000 02:27 PM
Got busted shooting in my girlfriend's bathroom just 3 days ago. Boy was she pissed off. I just sat her down and explained to her that my dream might not happen if I'd stop using now. She slapped me in the face and started to cry. I didn't like the slap too well, but hey, at least I didn't slap her back...huh! GET HUGE AND DROP BOMBS IP: Logged |
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styles Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 64) |
posted January 31, 2000 03:16 PM
you know her well right??? well, my girl knows, i dont care. she doesnt want me to do it because of health reasons. she doesnt know about steroids. think about what you would say if you walked in on a guy with a needle in his ass. you would be shocked and then be like...hmmm, whatever.
if your cool, she will be cool
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MattTheSkywalker Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 33) |
posted January 31, 2000 03:35 PM
Bro, Deception always catches up to you. Tell her the truth - if you care about her then she deserves to know. If she's just someone to shake the bedsrpings with, then you can always get another one. It may come to this: you could possibly have to choose what's more important - your roids or her. Make sure YOU know which one matters more. Like the Biz said, there is a threat of her blabbing later, but if you are honest with her now, then that is minimized. If she catches you, it's a pretty safe bet your secret is out... Matt IP: Logged |
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Fitnes1 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 6) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:19 PM
Hi Luke. I don't know if this same situation applies, but here goes.....my husband is a roid-user, and he has been honest with me from day one. I really appreciate his honesty and just can't get mad at him. I know he's doing something that HE wants to do and it's with HIS body. We discuss the various things he takes and side effects of them. I'm not educated on roid-use, so I trust him and know he's constantly discussing things with his friends and other guys at the gym. I agree with MattTheSkywalker's response. I think honesty is the best policy whether she's your wife or your girlfriend. I guess you should question as to how serious you are about her. If I were her, I'm sure I'd want to know that you were being honest with me. IP: Logged |
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madbomber31 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 98) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:32 PM
bout 3 months ago i started talkin to this girl, she is younger then i (19) and one of them christians  well, i waited like 2 days and said fuckit, i like her, i better tell her before this goes anywhere whatsoever... i told her, and she didnt do anything about it... but now, she asks me to stop, and that pisses me off... knew from day one (two actually) and yet, waits till now... i say tell her, if she understands then she was worth telling, if she dont... say bye or just be friends... you ARE a steroid user.. you USE injectible DRUGS... thats you... a drug user... she is gonna have to deal with it somehow, and sometime.IP: Logged |
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Fe3 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 43) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:32 PM
You can also do it the way I did. I finally talked her into doing some anavar. Now when we argue, she can't tell me shit about my little habit. Hey Kettle, this is the pot, you're black! IP: Logged |
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mrjeremy Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 6) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:36 PM
everyone has secrets..and girls come and go. but also realize : if girls had some kind of drug to enhance their breast and make thier ass smaller they would be junkies. IP: Logged |
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Mr. T Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 40) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:46 PM
With all the misconceptions concerning steroids floating around out there, it's no suprise many people have a negative view on them. Bring up the subject of steroids so you can see where your girlfriend stands. If your girlfriend has a bad view of steroids she will have a bad view of you. Don't ruin a good thing for a hobby. Worse comes to worse, get a nightlight for your bathroom. IP: Logged |
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Deepsquat Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 50) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:52 PM
There is only one major problem with telling her and that is that the vast majority of the info that the general public has heard on roid use is from the mainstream media! And you no how they treat roid users,we are all rageing maniac ready to burst any second into fit.And anyone who uses these drugs will difrom them in a very short time because of the endless list of sideffects! My advise; don't tell her. IP: Logged |
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Joe Juicer Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 66) |
posted January 31, 2000 04:53 PM
Honesty is the most important part of making a relationship work. If she won't accept you for who you are, she's not ready to be in a relationship with you. In other words, you're better off laying your cards on the table and seeing where you stand than playing the deception game and hoping you don't get busted. A true story [paraphrased]... "Hi. I do illegal drugs and have multiple sex partners. Can I get your number?" And she gave me her real number. Honesty is definitely the best policy. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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HARDBALL2 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 79) |
posted January 31, 2000 06:05 PM
HE HE HEeeeeeeeee....LOL LOL!!! IP: Logged |
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xrciseink Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 43) |
posted January 31, 2000 07:11 PM
I agree with Joe Juicer, I had a lot of trouble in the past trying to play the role. I have been with my girlfriend for over three years now. I was very honest about what I was into. However, my best friend started last year, and the "GIRLFRIEND" question came up. He tried to play the role and got caught. Lots of problems from their on. If you are sure you know her than tell her, but I think you probably already know what she might say. It all depends on you really. IP: Logged |
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bad brains Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 18) |
posted January 31, 2000 07:32 PM
Well my wife is really petite and wants a little weight, shes not worried about kids we have 2 already and her tubes are tied, I told her about gear and she will do it for some size, and so that means I can do it without hiding it. Good luck bro, Bad Brains IP: Logged |
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macrophage69alpha Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 250) |
posted January 31, 2000 07:33 PM
While honesty in a relationship is always the best policy- discretion is sometimes wise. part of being in a relationship is gradually exposing the parts of yourself that you hide from other people- This is just a function of knowing the other person and becoming more comfotable with them. Just take your time and think it through and you will know whtether this is the right time. A good way to lead into this kind on conversation is to point out that MOST WOMEN TAKE STEROIDS ON A REGULAR BASIS- what do they think birth control pills are. then after you get her used to the idea- then maybe broach your personal use or desire to use. REPEAT: MOST WOMEN USE STEROIDS, SEX HORMONES, ON A REGULAR BASIS. hell in large parts of the civilized world test is used for birth control- just look as some of the work done by the World Health Organization. ------------------ IP: Logged |
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Tim_Couch Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 14) |
posted January 31, 2000 07:33 PM
In my case, I have a wonderful girlfriend who let's me be me. She even injects me b/c I have a problem with doing it myself. She understands how much my sport means to me. I would say that if your girlfriend isn't supportive of whatever you do you need to get rid of her!
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DaBOMB Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 31) |
posted January 31, 2000 07:41 PM
Have her hang out and read some of the postings and educate her on the reality of steroids. You're definitely better off telling her however it's up to you to sell her on the idea that it can be very good for you. some of the above suggestions might make her realize how mislead she might be. IP: Logged |
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christian918 Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 2) |
posted February 02, 2000 09:12 PM
I agree with the boys. My wife knows I'm on Gear. I printed off a bunch of information from the net (valid info, not that media hype bull****) and let her read for herself. Then I pointed out that even those commercials for Propecia detail possible side affects, but no one talks shit about that. Just get her some info so she can feel a little better about it, and I think she'll be fine, if she's at all open minded. Stay big my friends, Christian IP: Logged |
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BIGBADFKR Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 7) |
posted February 02, 2000 10:37 PM
just tell her its injectable b12 IP: Logged |
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pharmaguy Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 32) |
posted February 02, 2000 11:56 PM
fuck that shit, don't tell her a damn thing bro. cover your own ass and wait until you are sure you can trust her. I've gone through the same shit with a girl I just met, she spent the night and over heard my best friend shooting his mouth off about my habit, well she ran out and all my shit has been compromised. By the way, hardball2; props on not smacking her back, I would have pushed her ass down the stairs. J/K IP: Logged |
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phiend Pro Bodybuilder (Total posts: 112) |
posted February 03, 2000 12:01 AM
Don't tell a girlfriend anything like that. Don't tell that you do roids, E, bud, alcohol, or anything. I know some of those seem standard, but then she'll think it's okay for her to do. IP: Logged |
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Texas Guns Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 6) |
posted February 03, 2000 10:08 AM
I have been body building for close to a year all natural. My husband has decided he wants to get into the sport too, but wants some help through juicin'. We haved talked extensively about it. I said no way at first and then we sat down and did some actual research. This discussion board has been a great help with that. He is taking his first cycle now and I am helping him with injections. I would rather be fully involved and helping him than have it done behind my back and something go wrong. His safety and health is my number one priority, so the checks and balances work out. If something happens down the road to his health I am the one who will be taking care of him after all. I have even done some asking around for myself!! First decide where this relationship is going. Could this be a long term thing, or is she there to pacify you. Base your decision on whether or not to tell her on that.  IP: Logged |
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The1stnosant Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 14) |
posted February 03, 2000 10:48 AM
depends on the girl... and she is not...yet.. your wife... if you have abad break up where does that leave you... hell even a wife will screw you if she feels she is helping you out... I HATE not being truthful... but as it was so thoughtfully put... "some cant handle the truth"... what do we do with them? IP: Logged |
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Rohan Amateur Bodybuilder (Total posts: 19) |
posted February 03, 2000 11:03 AM
macrophage69alpha summed it up perfectly - you're using MEDICINE, which is prescribed to people by doctors. I know it's different there, but here it is still classed as a medicine('though it's scheduled), not as a narcotic. IP: Logged |
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